JamesSpade Posted January 30, 2017 Report Posted January 30, 2017 (edited) Deleted. Thanks all. Edited February 19, 2017 by JamesSpade
HeCallsMePrincess Posted January 30, 2017 Report Posted January 30, 2017 i think it's healthy to have that kind of confidence in your relationship. it shows trust, which is super important. she most likely just wants to be reminded that she's yours. not all the time, not in a mean, jealous or unhealthy way. just little reminders. calling her Yours (My little one, etc) could be all she needs 3
JamesSpade Posted January 30, 2017 Author Report Posted January 30, 2017 This was my hope as well but so far it doesn't seem like enough. Long before she was DDLG she was attracted to possessive (and often abusive) men. To quote her "when someone said "your mine" I would get turned on, a shiver down my back etc and with you it doesn't happen". This despite the fact that we have been together over five years (which i think is more likely the problem, her longest in person relationship before was a few months at best). Thank you for the reply
HeCallsMePrincess Posted January 30, 2017 Report Posted January 30, 2017 you'll just have to talk to her. tell her you want to be what she needs, but will not be abusive. show her there's a better way. i do understand, i was always in abusive relationships because i thought that meant love, but it doesnt.
Daddy's Meg Posted January 30, 2017 Report Posted January 30, 2017 For me I feel most possessed when my Daddy decides things for me. Such as, ordering my food, calling me or my body parts his, kissing me in public, holding his belt loop, leaving marks on me, etc. When someone would show interest in me he would literally laugh and say "too bad. Your mine." Most if this happened naturally but if it's not for you, maybe she should give you some examples of her own. Beside just saying "your mine.“ 2
Guest Kittehmuffin Posted January 30, 2017 Report Posted January 30, 2017 I am one of the girls that likes to be told 'you're mine'. I like to be claimed. Nobody has ever stopped me from talking to anyone or been abusive towards me or anyone else, but it's a beautiful feeling to be told you're mine. To me it's like ultimate protectiveness...not that I need any protecting, not that I actually belong to anyone cause I am very independent and love my freedom. It's the belonging I guess...that I belong, or we belong. Perhaps that's what she has been craving and finding it in previous partners that were not good for her. Remind her of the belonging? One way I like to be reminded is by maybe a little piece of jewellery, doesn't need to be expensive, can be wool wrapped around my wrist as a bracelet...as a sign I belong to him, I wear it cause it reminds me of our love and that I belong there. (Then again I've never been very good at fitting in, so perhaps it's a nod to my own feelings of not belonging) Just a suggestion...give a little token that says she's yours...could be anything, bangle, ring, necklace...whatever...it's just a reminder. 1
Antoinette Posted January 30, 2017 Report Posted January 30, 2017 For me this desire can be fulfilled with a few simple phrases that my daddy says, things like; ''You're mine, no one else's.'' ''Who do you belong to?'' ''I own you.'' Things along those lines, obviously my daddy doesn't literally own me (don't tell him that, though! cx) but hearing things like that not only physically stimulate me but mentally as well. It helps me feel safe and secure, knowing that I can trust myself to fully let go and be immersed in the scenario because it's okay, he's got me - he'll look after me, because after all I'm his 'property'. 1
Guest Ginger Posted January 31, 2017 Report Posted January 31, 2017 There was a post on tumblr I found about this, sorta. Personally, "you're mine" and non verbal cues are much faves ^^ The post was titled, "when someone is dominating in a non-sexual" -putting their hands on your back to lead you -paying for you -saying "no" in stern but caring voice -opening doors or boxes for you -giving you reasonable instructions -ordering the food for you -telling you "come here" and/or pointing to the ground in front of them where they want you -fixing up your outfit/appearance (such as buttoning up your shirt or fixing your hair) -lifting your chin up -saying "look at me"
Frog Posted January 31, 2017 Report Posted January 31, 2017 (edited) Just a few minor ideas, depending on your and her level of play. Texting her and asking "Whose girl are you?" and requiring a reply (of course, being understanding for real world things) When out on a date or meeting, if you have to leave for a moment, whisper into her ear something like, "Don't let me catch you away from this table" (giving her orders) Grabbing her shoulder or hip or hair and reminding her that she's yours Again, just know her limits so you know what's too far. Edited February 1, 2017 by Frog 2
Guest Loki Posted January 31, 2017 Report Posted January 31, 2017 Talk to her. Ask her what exactly she needs. Note I said needs, not wants. They're different, and many people don't realize this. Also make sure she agrees and don't just push things on her, but I think you got that covered As a general ballpark, though, here's some ideas: 1 Give her restrictions. It can be something like no junk food, or kinky like if you are with her she can't pee without you watching. 2 Remind her verbally she is yours. Attach "my" to nicknames, or have her reply to questions like "who owns you?" by her affirming you own her. 3 Remind her physically that she's yours. Guide her walking by placing your hand on her back, for instance. 4 Give her rules for things she must do. Like, maybe wearing something you bought her. 5 Make sure you follow through with punishments! Just some general ideas. 3
CrazyLittleBuggaBoo Posted January 31, 2017 Report Posted January 31, 2017 Possessiveness can blur into jealousy rather easy and the line between them can be hard to see. not to do cut her off from people chase people away from her drag her away from people stop her from talking to people blah blah blah so on and so fourth to do Call her yours Remind her she's yours Brag about all the amazing things she does and how she's yours Call yourself a lucky man for having or "owning" her Call her body parts yours If she's talking to or in a group of people, do something cute like kiss her cheek or forehead, wrap your arm around her shoulder or arms around her waste rather than dragging her off or stopping her talking Tell all your friends, her friends, mutual friends, etc how amazing she his and how your a lucky man for her being yours. Heck tell everyone Lead her or guide her, take her hand, or her arm, place your hand on her shoulder or her back, point to her where your going Pat her bum Ask her who she belongs to. Ask her who Daddy/Master((whatever you guys call yourself))is Have her ask permission for things or to do things Do things for her, order meals, carry bags, open doors, pull out chairs Have fun in the bedroom, she's yours, her body is yours, she can't deny that and say no today Make her hold your hand when crossing streets Make her stand on the "inside" away from cars and even possible hold your hand while walking or in parking lots Remember your trying to make her fell like she's yours not trying to scare people away from her like in the case of jealousy. Also remember to share your ideas with her and talk about everything with her. She needs to guide you so you know if that's something she enjoys or not. There's alot that you could do, but your guys are in this relationship together so it's something you'll need to work on together. To make sure that each person is happy and comfortable 2
Guest SifuTheWolf Posted February 6, 2017 Report Posted February 6, 2017 My little didn't start out as a little but as a sub, however she wanted me to be possessive from the very beginning, her previous partner didn't seem to care very much about who she talked to or what about, I was the polar opposite of that. We started off as a long-distance couple and one of the first things I did was assume control over all of her electronic media, every online social account, every email, every means of communication electronically, I was given the login information to it all, I could oversee everything and read all of her correspondence. I controlled who she was able to accept/send friend requests to/from and I made her delete any friend that was more than "just friends" in nature or conversation. I forbid her from making any Dom friends, why would I want her talking to another Dom? Filling her head with ideas about what they like, I'd rather her spend her time talking to me and being concerned with what I like. It's not as though I prevent her from having any guy friends or contact with other males but she knows she has to run everyone by me before she can friend them online, I encourage her to find and friend other little friends, I found this site while looking for places where she might find other littles to talk to and I had her come make an account here. While many of the littles here would balk at my level of control my little relishes in it and the feeling of being cared for and about it gives, feeling safe. There is no one answer or one size fits all, the point is to find what works for you, I just wanted to offer you a glimpse of a possessive person's perspective. Good luck to you and yours!
Guest DaddyNamedMike Posted February 18, 2017 Report Posted February 18, 2017 So I'm a little late on this but from what I read like people talking to her or possible her going out alone with people a way to show possessiveness is let's use going out for example. Before she goes, ask where how long get the information needed and remind her to have fun but to contact you every so often to checkup. I've noticed that the slight interest in a Little's whereabouts and to make sure she checks up with you is a good way to show dominance and possession without going too far into jealousy.
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