A little, but not a sub?

[BabygirlT1345]

To me,

Being a little is a type of sub..

Can you be a little, but not submissive?

I have had lg/daddy relationships.

And I have also had dom/sub relationships which don't have any ddlg aspects..

Has anyone else had dom/sub relationships which don't have the little/daddy aspect?

Do any littles feel they are not submissive?

[tayiie]

I'm not so submissive in the beginning of a relationship. I do push boundaries. I tend to ignore things I'm being told to do. But then I'm the type of person who wants to test how far I can go with things. I also believe submission is something a daddy earns after he has given me a enough confidence to actually fully trust him, not until I can trust the person will I submit and obey because I've been let down too many times to make them feel more powerful than what they really are - therefore there are almost never any dom and sub parts/characters/personalities/whatever-you-call-it when I first start a relationship.

[Moose512]

I don't think being a little and being a sub are necessarily the same thing.  I have seen some daddies on here looking for bratty littles and middles, and I myself prefer a little with some spunk.  There aren't really any rules about how to do this.  You be you, and find a daddy that appreciates that.

[BabyGirl32015]

Im a little but Im no where near being submissive in any relationship. Im what most in the ddlg world would call a brat and it works for me. Its all about where you feel comfortable, now and through your whole relationship.

[daddies_velvet_kitty]

To me personally anyone who is a little is a sub in some way. You don't have to be submissive in the bedroom to be a sub. At least to me. How I see it littles are submitting themselves to their daddies in exchange for care and doing whats best for you, hence the power exchange. I don't think that being submissive relates just to sex but I do believe that littles do submit themselves to their daddies in some form or fashion. But that's just how I see things, bdsm and ddlg are totally unique anything is truly possible. But in my opinion being a submissive is more than just sex and affects more than your sex life. 

[pengudaddy]

I'm not so submissive in the beginning of a relationship. I do push boundaries. I tend to ignore things I'm being told to do. But then I'm the type of person who wants to test how far I can go with things. I also believe submission is something a daddy earns after he has given me a enough confidence to actually fully trust him, not until I can trust the person will I submit and obey because I've been let down too many times to make them feel more powerful than what they really are - therefore there are almost never any dom and sub parts/characters/personalities/whatever-you-call-it when I first start a relationship.

Well you wouldn't ask someone to be your caregiver if you didn't trust them in the first place. That goes beyond submission, that's common sense in my opinion.

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

To me personally anyone who is a little is a sub in some way. You don't have to be submissive in the bedroom to be a sub. At least to me. How I see it littles are submitting themselves to their daddies in exchange for care and doing whats best for you, hence the power exchange. I don't think that being submissive relates just to sex but I do believe that littles do submit themselves to their daddies in some form or fashion. But that's just how I see things, bdsm and ddlg are totally unique anything is truly possible. But in my opinion being a submissive is more than just sex and affects more than your sex life. 

i don't think i can add anything more to this to make this answer perfect, lol. i just

don't see how you can be a little and not be submissive at all, it makes no sense

to me personally. you're submitting to your cg, that exchange of power when you

allow someone to start to care for you.. if i didn't submit to my Daddy, it just

wouldn't feel like a cg/l relationship to me, it'd feel like a normal ship with tons of kinky

shit.

 

you can be bratty and be submissive, you can be spunky and be submissive, you

can be whatever kind of little you are and still be submissive. 

[tayiie]

Well you wouldn't ask someone to be your caregiver if you didn't trust them in the first place. That goes beyond submission, that's common sense in my opinion.

If you've been played with as much as I have I would say that even if I do find a guy I would like to have as a CG he still has to earn my trust before I can be sure he is worth it. I've had far too many CGs that has played with me thinking that they are honest only to find out they were playing with me in order to get what they wanted. It will take A LOT before I can trust anyone.

[Hurndauke]

Understandable.

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

If you've been played with as much as I have I would say that even if I do find a guy I would like to have as a CG he still has to earn my trust before I can be sure he is worth it. I've had far too many CGs that has played with me thinking that they are honest only to find out they were playing with me in order to get what they wanted. It will take A LOT before I can trust anyone.

not too sure how you took what he said but i think he was getting at that, before 

you even allow someone to be your caretaker, you should trust them completely.

it's no different than being in a normal relationship, i wouldn't date someone who

i didn't have complete trust and faith in, there'd be no use in sitting around 

doubting everything and being unhappy by engaging in a relationship with someone

who i didn't take the time to get to know, to earn my trust. 

 

after your kind of situation it's understandable that it will take a lot to earn your trust

but only after someone has earned that trust should you even award them with the 

title of caregiver. basically, don't let someone be your caregiver until you can trust

them 100% - even if it takes month or a year for someone to earn that. just means

that someone is very dedicated and patient.

[Baby Neko]

I'm a submissive before I'm a little, meaning I could be content without dd/lg in my relationships but not without d/s. Being a little is really just the icing on the cake for me :3 I personally do see littles as a type of submissive but to each their own.

 

I say that I'm submissive because I prefer my partner to be in control (in and out of the bedroom). That doesn't mean I'll never act like a brat or be difficult. lol

 

 

I'm not so submissive in the beginning of a relationship. I do push boundaries. I tend to ignore things I'm being told to do. But then I'm the type of person who wants to test how far I can go with things. I also believe submission is something a daddy earns after he has given me a enough confidence to actually fully trust him, not until I can trust the person will I submit and obey because I've been let down too many times to make them feel more powerful than what they really are - therefore there are almost never any dom and sub parts/characters/personalities/whatever-you-call-it when I first start a relationship.

 I'm a bit like this too, I took a while to show my sub side to my partner

 

 don't let someone be your caregiver until you can trust

them 100% - even if it takes month or a year for someone to earn that. 

 

 Totally agree

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

While I an a Sub. You do NOT have to be a Sub to be a Little. CG/L is a type of Sub/Dom relationship but you don't have to be in a CG/L relationship to be a Little. There are other communities and relationships that involve people who identify as Little and don't have the power exchange that CG/L or other BDSM relationships have. While we can overlap in our interests AB/DL and AgePlay are different from CG/L, yet in these communities use the term "Little" to identify themselves. Also there are a handful of Littles in CG/L that are actually the Dom in their relationships. Being a Sub isn't want makes you a Little.