Getting my partner into DDlg

[PastelKitten]

Sooooo, guys.

Long time no see, huh?

Last year, I've broken up with my old daddy.

Now, that I am in a new relationship, it's a lil' embarrassing for me to talk about what I am REALLY into.

He started to call himself "Daddy" during sex before he cums and spanks/gags/slaps me but that's not everything that an ideal DDlg relationship should consist of, imo.

I wanna be a little again, I want him to be my daddy.

But how am I going to talk to him about it without scaring him off?

How did ya'll first talk to your partner about it, who was new to this kind of thing?

[Guest call me pabs]

The last time I've tried to tell my partner about DD/lg it was a huge clown fiest, so take everything I say with a bit of doubt.

 

But generally speaking, try to drop it casually, don't make a big deal out of it. I think it helps that he is into the sexual aspect of it, so try starting from there. Talk to him about about the D/s dynamic, about BDSM in general and start going into DD/lg. Tell him what it means to you, what being a little for you is. Show him links where he can read it up, if you have a hard time explaining it.

 

There's no perfect way to open up about this topic, but the most important thing is that you are confident about it. Also, I don't think you will scare him off, I've you two have a strong bond you should be able to bring up anything without making him run away

 

good luck to you

[Guest Littlepup]

my partner has always been the most reassuring, non judgmental, understanding type so i never had to deal with fears of ridicule from him, although I was just flat out embarrassed about it myself. 

 

It sounds like you already have him used to being called Daddy, but I guess you're nervous about letting him know how much you really want him to be your Daddy for real...

 

if you dont already, ask him if it's okay if you call him "Daddy"

he will probably say yes, just like my partner did.

 

surely you haven't been hiding all your little personality? if you have.. start letting your little side out more.

but hopefully he has already seen the adorable and needy side of you.

ask him things like "im your girl right?"

 

and you can tell him "you know i really like the dom/sub type of relationship, but specifically the kind where i am your little girl, do you like me being your little girl?"

 

and he will surely say yes

and you can say "i really like you being my daddy"

 

and for someone who is brand new at being a dom or daddydom, you will still need to take things slow so he can learn and still have time to do his own thing.

 

the shift into ddlg for me was a little easier because we already had a very soft "master/puppy girl" dynamic, by the time i found out about ddlg, we already had the relationship for it.

[PastelKitten]

Thanks you two! I'll use that advice. <3

Edited January 27, 2017 by PastelKitten

[cuppycakes]

I wouldn't recommend having him read up on it, because he could see some things that you might not be interested in, or he might get scared away.

Communication is the best thing in this scenario, but this↓ topic was specifically made for this purpose! So I wanted to link it: 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17295-general-topic-partner-not-wanting-to-be-in-a-cgl-relationship/

[Guest Ginger]

I remember we were at a hotel for a break from work and we were just laying around, messing on our phones. I kinda snorted and he asked what was up. "It's funny when people talk to me about something they think I don't know about."

"Like?"

I shrugged a bit, "Ddlg."

He raised an eyebrow and asked what that was (we'd already cleared the fact that we both knew about bdsm).

"So, you know there like... Sub-cultures in bdsm, right? Like things that are specific to what people like?"

"I hadn't really looked into it."

"Well, ddlg is one." He gave a kinda confused look so I elaborated, "daddy dom, little girl."

He looked surprised before he grinned at me, "but I don't like calling a guy daddy." I added. He nodded for a few seconds, I guess thinking to himself before he grabbed me and pulled me into his lap, kissing me on the top of my head.

"My baby girl."

 

It kinda went better than I expected xD he might have looked stuff up later without my realizing it, because he's amazing ^^ but that's how I brought it up to him. It might kinda work in a way for you, if you so choose to bring it up in that manner. Regardless, I really hope things go great for you!!