Non-Valentine's Day Fans

[Prince_Towelie]

I've Never had a Good Valentine's Day.  In 38 years.  Meaning, I have never been with someone I like, during Valentine's Day, and had some sort of romantic celebration.  (I am not quite sure what this says about me, and I don't really want to know...) In fact, I have come to loathe the holiday, in general.  For many reasons. 

 

So I am making this thread, as an ode to the evil under belly of Vt day.  Fire at will.

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

It's a bittersweet day for me. My eldest was born on Valentine's Day. He will be 18 this year. Exactly a year later I had surgery for an ectopic pregnancy. So the day is a mixture of happiness and sadness for me and I never celebrated it in the traditional way since then.

[Guest Plebian]

I think I celebrated it once, because she found it important or whatever.

 

But yeah, it's awful imo. I don't need nor want an excuse to be extra loving once a year.

[Guest Keks]

I'm not a fan. Usually cause I'm single, lol but also because love shouldn't be celebrated on just one day- a day were usually everything is extra expensive and tacky

[Kara]

I use to like Valentine's Day.  

Edited January 27, 2017 by Kara

[alotalittle]

My partner and I celebrate Valentine's, but it's mostly just an excuse to go celebrate. I never really cared for it before I met my partner and I still think it's just a scam to make single people feel terrible, couples to fight, and everyone to spend money (usually on pointless things). But nowadays, I don't let those thoughts ruin it for me. I buy my partner a couple fun gifts and we go out to eat and try to have fun. Usually I'm so wrapped up in how pleased my partner is to be out celebrating and having fun, that I forget about all the bullshit things to do with Valentine's and just appreciate how delightful my person is. It ends up feeling like any other date night, but with gifts.

 

If I were single though, I'd just be stoked about half priced candy the day/week after Valentine's day.

 

Actually...

 

Now I'm just stoked about the half priced candy.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Valentines day is fine, its Sweetest day that really pisses me off.

[PrincessClara]

What is Sweetest Day? 

 

I don't really care about Valentines Day, my Daddy does for whatever reason so he and I usually do SOMETHING to celebrate. I tell him every year I much prefer to stay home because it's just a greeting card holiday but he likes to make a big deal out of it. *shrug* 

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Sweetest day? Wikipedia can describe it better than i can

 

Sweetest Day is a holiday that is celebrated in the Midwestern United States, and parts of the Northeastern United States, on the third Saturday in October.[1] It is a day to share romantic deeds or expressions.[2] 10 states and parts of two states observe Sweetest Day: Illinois, Indiana, Kentucky, Michigan, Missouri, North Dakota, Ohio, South Dakota, Wisconsin, West Virginia, Washington and areas of both New York and Pennsylvania west of the spine of the Appalachian Mountains.[citation needed] Sweetest Day has also been referred to as a "concocted promotion" created by the candy industry solely to increase sales of sweets.

 

From Wikipedia

[Antoinette]

I'm not a fan, not because I'm always single on V Day (I'm usually not!) but generally it's just a tactic to get money, why should you have a specific day in order to show your love and appreciation to your significant other? That should be everyday! Also... Someone please inform me why it's always the woman getting chocolates/stuffies/date nights? Why do you never see the woman getting her partner I don't know... A new watch/a video game/etc. noooo, instead she always buys HERSELF lingerie and models it for him. Psh. Ruuuude.

[ButterscotchBunny]

I don't dislike valentines day, but It makes me really sad and feel alone. :c 

[Prince_Towelie]

That is a bittersweet tale, KittiehMuffin.  I can only say that a close relative also suffered from an ectopic pregancy, but now has a 7 year old son.  Life, eh?

[Prince_Towelie]

I also agree with a lot of the other poster's thoughts.  There being a seeming 'excuse' for being extra-loving because it is a 'holiday' (self-described), and spending money on gifts, candy, flowers, or whatnot, is a definite rip-off, in my opinion.  I have never hear of Sweetest day before... Though it does sound worse.  And yes, it is a double standard - guys should get flowers, too, right?  Or something.  It def seems centered on 'pleasing' the female with gifts, or whatnot.  If I had to choose, I think exchanging home made cards and maybe some fancy sweets would be an appropriate thing to do.  If two people really care about each other, then Vt day should mean even less that it does to single people, who only view it with negative feelings, in general.

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

That is a bittersweet tale, KittiehMuffin. I can only say that a close relative also suffered from an ectopic pregancy, but now has a 7 year old son. Life, eh?

 

 

Yes it is...but like you say it's just life....I went on to have 3 other children afterwards. So yes, for me life definitely takes over on Valentine's Day.

 

Over here it's equal. The women get a few things and so do the men. Usually nothing too big and they go for a meal or something.

 

In one way it's the only day acceptable for men to be romantic over here...from my experience and how I see men react in my area Scottish men aren't the most comfortable with romance. At any other point if they are seen to be romantic they get the mickey taken out of them.

Edited January 28, 2017 by Kittehmuffin

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

Yes it is...but like you say it's just life....I went on to have 3 other children afterwards. So yes, for me life definitely takes over on Valentine's Day.

 

Over here it's equal. The women get a few things and so do the men. Usually nothing too big and they go for a meal or something.

 

In one way it's the only day acceptable for men to be romantic over here...from my experience and how I see men react in my area Scottish men aren't the most comfortable with romance. At any other point if they are seen to be romantic they get the mickey taken out of them.

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

Can't remove last post...pffft. Apologies.

[Prince_Towelie]

Wow, that is really interesting.  My only knowledge of Scotland comes from an old Saturday Night Live, where Patrick Stuart stars in a sketch with the tagline, "If i's no' sco'ish, i's crap!"  (The Erotic Cake Bakery.)

 

I always thought the Irish drank more.  Is it the same, or different, do you think?

 

That is a very different culture.  Women (and men) should be treated more often then one day a year, I think.

[Frog]

I can't stand it. I'm always single on it. Some friends thrive on insisting that I "need" a girlfriend or a couple times attempting blind dates. I do not do them.

 

So, yeah, I hate it. I now just stay offline the few days surrounding it.

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

On drinking....yeah we hold our own with the Irish lol. We're quite similar tbh.

 

I fully agree, we should make the effort much more. It's something I try, though it might not be physical gifts...maybe massages (I'm a massage therapist) or booking a surprise night or two away. Like for me I love it if he makes dinner. Something simple like that is pure gold to me...a little bit of effort goes a long way.

[daddies_velvet_kitty]

I don't put a lot of pressure on valentines day but as a little, theres lots of stuffies and chocolate so I tend to enjoy it. Me and my daddy don't feel the need to do anything extra special in fact we aren't really together on the day. But it's nice that there are so many stuffies around and cute little things for sale. I'm not against it but I don't think people need to go above and beyond. Just love one another every day