how do you feel about your partner talking to other girls?

[arineunha]

I'm okay with it, if I've met them before, they know i'm his gf and I get along with them. i'm also okay with him talking to other girls if he's trying to make friends because he's a pretty friendly person. Sometimes when I don't know, I panic. I think he left his fb on and I saw that he was talking to 2-3 girls on a game that he plays on his phone. He never invited me to play that game and he just said 'sweetdreams gn' to one. Idk how I feel about this, it's not like I don't talk to other guys either but i'm not like cheating or looking for anything more

 

also I guess I have the closest relationship to his parents compared to other girls he dated in the past so i'm celebrating Chinese new years with them and they say they miss me-apparently

Edited January 27, 2017 by arineunha

[Daddy's Meg]

My Daddy has work friends that are female. They don't bother me at all. Other than that, he doesn't and I know I wouldn't be super comfortable with it. Silly or not, I'd get nervous if he was talking to females privately.

[Guest Ginger]

I'm fine with it, personally. I don't think is right for me to dictate who his friends are and vice versa. A little jealousy is fine but if I start to feel "threatened", I simply talk to him about it. He calms me down and whatnot.

[daddies_velvet_kitty]

I'm a pretty jealous girl myself because I've been cheated on so many times by previous boyfriends by saying they were just "friends." But my daddy works with basically all men so he hardly does talk to girls. But I totally understand being a little jealous for no rational reason because I'm the same way. A little jealousy is totally normal and you shouldn't feel bad for having these feelings. I would just talk to your daddy and say that you have these feelings but let him know that you still trust him and that its normal to feel this way so at least he understands what your feeling. My best advice to you is when you are in a really communicative relationship these feelings are few and far between because you two are always talking about how each other is feeling. When the communication is not as fluid thats when its easier for doubts to fill your brain. I would take this as an opportunity to really build your relationship with your daddy and be more open with each other on everything. I hope this helped!

[KumihoDoll]

I feel fine with my mister talking to other girls.

We both are monogamous and I trust him to tell me if he wants otherwise.

If you are uncomfortable with certain things or unaware of what you guys consider 'cheating' bring it up to your partner. It's always good to talk things out before they turn into a misunderstanding or worse. For instance some of my partners felt me kissing the same sex was cheating, so I did not do that with them. Others felt it was fine, and we've talked about it so I was able to do so without creating problems.

 

This does not mean I don't get jealous.
I do pout, and get envious, but I don't let that turn me into a raging monster because I know it isn't meant in harm.
If I do feel very upset I will bring it up, explain what caused it and to avoid it next time.
That or I jokingly bring it up and get over it after a laugh.

[Guest Keks]

I'm currently not in a relationship but I don't usually have a problem with it. In my opinion restricting who someone can talk to only leads to trouble.

It also seems unrealistic, in my opinion but that's something each couple needs to discuss between themselves.

That said, I do get a little jealous sometimes but that's more to do with my insecurity and self-doubt. So that's my issue and not my partners fault.

I can understand why you feel a little uncomfortable. I'd suggest talking about it when it bothers you before it might start to feel worse and blow up into more than it is in the end.

[alotalittle]

My partner and I have had some issues with unfaithfulness in the past. Before that, I didn't really have a jealous bone in my body.

 

If I know them, I have zero jealousy at all (i.e. he works with his ex wife and people always expect me to feel jealous, but I'm fully aware that there's no romance/sexual feelings between them at all and I know her reasonably well). OR if they're far away and have no real chance of meeting, my jealousy isn't that intense (we have an agreement that he can have sexual conversations anonymously online). However, if it's someone he's had a "fling" with in the past and I've never met them, my jealousy is really intense and makes me feel horrible.

 

The best thing to do when it comes to things like this is talk about it; I know, I know, that's the advice for nearly all problems. But it's true! While it's not okay to tell your partner what to do, it's completely okay to express where your own boundaries are and what bothers you. I've had to express to my partner several times that I did not like him having any sort of flirtatious conversations with anyone local. It didn't occur to him what my real problem with it was until I was blunt about the specific issue I had with it. Afterwards, he gave me a lot of reassurance and all the local conversations finally stopped.

 

Oftentimes, our partners do things that they feel are completely harmless (but are hurting us) because they aren't seeing things from our side. It's entirely possible that he doesn't know he's doing anything that might upset you. The only way for him to fully know, is for you to express your feelings about it. He obviously cares about you a lot if you're becoming involved with his family, so just talk to him about it. Odds are, you'll find out that nothing's going on, he'll reassure you a lot, and you can come to a compromise about what's appropriate to say to other girls.

[Kara]

I have no problem when I am in a relationship with my partner to have friends that are female...I am however territorial per say and well don't like to share when it comes to the heart or a relationship with another for my partner.   I guess what I am trying to say platonic friends good, anything else no way.  If he cares about me and I him, then there should be no need for another in that capacity (emotionally or sexually).

 

 

Being cheated on either way is destroying to the soul and does damage in so many ways.  No one who cares about you should ever put you through that pain.

Edited January 28, 2017 by Kara

[HeCallsMePrincess]

as long as i can see whatever is said and they dont get too comfy chatting with him. He's Mine and i'm super territorial. calls me Alpha Little  

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Daddy and I have a "rule". IRL we chat with whoever as we truthfully have no rational fears of each other ever cheating. However neither one of us are a fan of the other messaging others of the opposite genders/roles. It's not for fear of cheating but we just don't want that worry. So I talk to female littles, he talks to Daddies. We both can read messages sent to the other at any time if we wish. It works for us.

[princesspixie]

Most of his friends are girls, and I get insecure about it. but I try not to worry about it. Though I do get jealous when he's chatting on Facebook with them or texting when we're hanging out, especially because he seems to have better conversations with his other friends. But I'm not particularly much of a talker, so I suppose it's understandable.