I can't find a daddy dom who lives near me ;'c

[GalacticLittle]

I'm absolutely terrified of going into a long distance ddlg relationship again but I can't find any daddy's who live near me!! 

I am a little who needs tons of attention and strict rules to keep me in place, yet there isn't many daddy doms who live in NY. I don't feel right without a caregiver, I don't know if I should go for long distance or keep looking in my area??

Edited January 26, 2017 by GalacticLittle

[sweetpea03]

There's nothing wrong with doing a little searching in both long distance and local if that's something you are thinking of doing. Someone could come along when you're least expecting it, so don't lose hope. If he's the right daddy he should make you feel cared for and loved no matter what the circumstances may be. Best of luck! (:

[Guest Isabelle]

There are lots of daddys on here who live in New York or near it. Post in personals. I'm struggling to find one within a few states of me, MN

[daddies_velvet_kitty]

You should never get into a relationship that you feel uncomfortable with. For some people long distance is just not for them and that doesn't make them a bad person. I suggest taking time by yourself and figuring out what you want from a relationship and who you are first. Maybe you could try long distance if you feel more comfortable in the future, but don't feel like you have to have a daddy or that you can't be little without one. Just be yourself and the right person will come along at the right time  

[Antoinette]

Long distance relationships are hard... Super hard, I live in the UK currently and my Daddy lives in California, we're 5,232 miles away from each other. There's an eight hour time difference, he works roughly 12 hours a day and I'm a student. It's hard to even find time to talk on weekdays, but we make it work because we love each other and because we're good for each other. I'd MUCH RATHER this than have a mediocre relationship with someone who I can physically see, but perhaps I'm blinded by the love I feel for my daddy right now. What I'm trying to say is that just because somebody's close doesn't mean they'll be best for you. I do suggest you seek out what you're initially looking for before anything else though, but if you can try not to rule out LDRs. They're hard, a Hell of a lot harder than irl relationships but damn are they worth it when you find someone that you 100% truly, undeniably and unconditionally love. 

 

You should look in the personals or even make a personal ad yourself, that's the best way I see it to be honest but also I don't think it's particularly okay that you don't feel right without a caregiver, obviously I'm not attempting to be rude or hurt your feelings but it sounds quite unhealthy if you're dependent on having a caregiver-like figure in your life, you should find happiness from and within yourself. That's true happiness. But anyway, good look searching!

[Saya99]

I think there is a lot of daddies on NY !!!

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

There are tons of daddies in New York but I know the feeling I have been looking for a little in Georgia and I have found a few but they are either taken or we don't have many if any of the same interests

[Ami29]

I know the struggle,imagine not finding a daddy in the same country..that's meeee

But I believe,regardless of the distance,as long as you find someone to relay on doesn't matter if you have oceans between you..you still connect..well that's my opinion.

Best of luck ❤

[Princess-P]

My advice is to widen the search. I dont mean in distance, I mean in orientation. There are many people out there that perfectly fit the roll of caregiver or little but who have no idea this dynamic exists. Or if they do know about it they may have a warped view of what it is because of social media.

 

Dont knock out the possibility that someone who is "vanilla" could be the perfect caregiver for you. They may just need you to open up the opportunity for them.

 

My Daddy and I met by chance. He was actually a manager at the bar I went to work and quite a bit older than me. We just connected. Age gap was a bump in the road but we fell in love and our rolls were just a natural way we behaved and have developed or relationship as we changed and got older and life became what it is now and will continue to change as needed.

 

Dont lose hope. But try not to focus on only looking for someone who is already in the dynamic. Be brave and lead someone who is willing to adapt because your connection is strong.

[Guest blumonkey]

There are tons of daddies in New York but I know the feeling I have been looking for a little in Georgia and I have found a few but they are either taken or we don't have many if any of the same interests

 

Go to my fetlife profile (linked in my profile here) and check out the Munches groups I'm a member of (especially the 1763 Munch group). They are pretty casual and you can hang out with like minded people and maybe meet someone. Munches are more ddlg/petplay/primal oriented and not so much pure bdsm.

 

There's also "ddlg-personals" on tumblr.

[jaredstone363]

There are lot's of daddy's from NY on here. But "Princess-P" makes a good point, widen your search, try normal dating sites also. I met a little on a vanilla dating site but I could instantly tell by her profile that she was a little. She was ecstatic when I said hello and asked if she was a little. So don't give up hope and broaden your search options a little.

[Guest PrincessLilith]

yes i have same problem... ima little and would really like a rl ddlg relationship i currently live in Id but my doughter lives in ga.... for while i tried to look near there never had ang success... and i have no idea how to go about it locally without keeping it hidden from family.