just realized what I am

[your baby girl]

I'm a little but husband is not Definitely A dd he isn't in to any of this we have been together for 12 years I kind of knew I was but was scared to come to the truth now I have an I need him to be my caregiver/daddy. I know he will not do this he won't even let us use any toys he's not Kinky At all and doesn't want to be what should I do I am lost please help

[Guest TwinklingSpace]

Hello! And welcome to the world of being a little!

 

I think, a lot of new little's think that they HAVE to have a caregiver to be little and that is soooo FAR from the truth. You can be little and not have a caregiver. I know that desire of wanting a caregiver is really strong in the beginning. You just want to immerse yourself into world and live the life you never knew you were missing.

 

But I would suggest taking it slow.

 

Discover what it means to you to be little. What do you like in little space. How do you feel while being little. What do you enjoy while being little.

 

You just discovered this new side of yourself. Figure that person out first. There is so much to learn and discover about your little self. Figure that out and then bring up the conversation to your husband.

 

He's going to have a lot of questions for you when you bring up this conversation. So learn those answers. Figure out why it's important to you. 

 

You need to figure out for yourself why this lifestyle is important to you before you open it up for another person. Or you both might be confused, lost and upset.

 

I think that will be the best way and most positive.

 

I know it feels weird, you're the little why do you have to lead the caregiver? Because it's going to be a new and maybe weird world to him. So be as prepaid as possible to ease him and make him feel okay.

 

Figure you out first and then bring him in.

[lilsnoopy]

Hi! there's a post here :https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17295-general-topic-partner-not-wanting-to-be-in-a-cgl-relationship/?do=findComment&comment=91180 with lots of different users suggestions/advice/insight. I hope you find it helpful