Jealous little dumped daddy

[Guest PrincessCakes]

Hi so I had a daddy who I dumped because I was scared of being left for someone else and now I regret it and am having issues getting over it. He started dating someone right after and wants me to be friends and I don't want to hurt him that I don't want to be friends because it hurts me to see him so happy with someone else. I also really miss being with him and I wish i could fix it which I guess is why I haven't just left. Now I'm supposed to leave and sort out my feelings so I can come back and be friends but I don't want to be friends and I don't know how to get over it..

[Daddy's Meg]

Unfortunately, the only real cure for this is probably time. And keeping yourself busy, so you don't think about it too much. Just have to pick up and start moving on. A nice thing about being busy also - less time to talk to him and have to be friendly.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

i think you should take this time to figure out WHY you dumped him in the first place. why you felt you had to leave him before he left you. until you get that sorted, you might not be very good for anyone, especially yourself which is the most important thing.

[daddies_velvet_kitty]

You don't have to be friends with him if it makes you uncomfortable, but unfortunately you do have to move on. As Hecallsmeprincess said maybe you should take time to yourself, learn to love and understand yourself before moving to a new relationship. There will be daddies out there for you in the future, just try to sort out your emotions and understand why you left so you can learn and grow as a person. I hope you start feeling better soon and learn healthy ways of coping. Stay Strong

[2Spooky4U]

We`re sort of in the opposite situation, I had to let my little go cause we were in an Ldr and I knew sooner or later she would leave me for some one else so I let her go but still was kind of her daddy in a way. She later got with someone and I later regretted it, so I couldn't take seeing her with someone else and had to tell her I couldn't be her daddy no more... tbh it killed me so much

[Guest whatever]

As previously stated, you need to start figuring out why you felt the need to dump him over your insecurities. I understand it can be tough but is it seriously worth destroying good things in your life? 

As for being friends with him, don't feel like you have to do it just to keep him in your life. You can let him go completely, it will hurt for some time, but you will get over it and move on. Hopefully by then, you will have worked through your jealousy and insecurities so that you will be ready for a stable relationship. 

[Michael]

Well, if he started dating someone right after you dumped him, and he's happy again, then you probably made the right decision. He wouldn't be able to just move on that quick if he truly cared about you.

 

Here's a tip: don't be his friend, and don't ever talk to him again. Move on. Find someone better, and work on making that relationship a healthy one. It's fine to be jealous and insecure sometimes, but you have to make sure that those thoughts only stay in your head, and that you never let yourself act on them.

[Guest Waiting4us]

At that moment maybe you felt afraid inside that he will maybe cheat you or leave you and you built insecurities within you. Now if he really loved you he would have stayed, cared and thought about for the relationship. At times one of the two can feel uneasy and do a thing which is not good for in a relationship but the other needs to take responsibility if they need to see that the relationship works.

Another thing... Trust is the basic step for relationship, faith is needed to it is always good that we communicate to deep levels. We can and should communicate about our fears, insecurities and thoughts going on in mind.

And I guess you cannot be simply now be a friend at this right moment

Take your time... Be blessed... Be yourself

Understand yourself more.,take a note of your wants and desires and see what you want and what you give.

[Child Of Light]

How soon after did he start dating with dating someone? How long did you two date? If you two dated for a very long time-- and he started going on dates 2-3 days after: that's a bad sign. There would be a grieving process first if he truly was committed to the relationship. Was there a reason that made you decide to end the relationship? Maybe some fights? If he's dating someone else it might just be best to bow out of the situation and stop talking to him all together so you can get to a healthy spot in your life.

[Guest PrincessCakes]

Thanks for the feedback you guys, and we were dating for a few months and started dating her like day of the relationship ending..

[Guest Littlepup]

everyone is right.. 

and its going to hurt and that's normal..

being friends is nice, but it's not so easy as you have learned

feelings are complicated.

he should understand that you need space.

maybe you can still be friends but also give each other a break. 

 

that's kind of what me and my ex did, we were still friends after we broke up but we agreed that once we found another partner we would back off and give each other space. that means we don't talk or text or hang out, but in our hearts we are still friends, we don't hate each other.

 

you need time to heal and also time to work on yourself. relationships are learning experiences and so hopefully you can take something from this. 

you have a future and everything will be okay. focus on yourself right now.