Plus Sized Littles - A Daddy's Perspective

[Guest Kali]

Dear little community - please forgive me for poking my nose into your space... but I felt I had to say something. I recently became aware of a thread here that exploded into a flame war between plus sized littles and a Daddy (although I suspect very likely a troll) who appeared to be labouring under the illusion that he was the fount of all knowledge and moral judgment in relation to weight management. The post has now been deleted, I'm glad to say - it was damaging in every which way.

 

I felt absolutely terrible for the little who was battling with her self doubt and then got unreasonably attacked by someone with all the compassion of a chainsaw.

 

Before I put forward my argument against what was said, I will add that my own personal preferences for body size are quite broad - I find attractive qualities in slim, medium and big littles - and this is because I find what's going on between the ears to be much more important than the packaging. So understand, I am not coming from the perspective as one who fetishises any particular body size, age, or race. I am also intimately acquainted with people who have had both bypass surgery and gastric bands - I know their life stories pretty well, so I feel I have some insight into the problems and challenges that face them.

 

I have personally known a couple of people with the same attitude towards size as the fatist agitator in the deleted post. In fact, the people I have known have been the most hurtful kind of fatists. These are people who had a weight issue themselves, managed to overcome it, and now hold the view that if you just do what they did, then the world will be slim and happy; and by implication, if you don't then you are lazy, feckless and greedy. This is a supremely simplistic and ignorant view. It is akin to thinking that by giving your winning lottery numbers to someone else, they can become rich. It's so many shades of stupid, it's hard to know exactly where to begin.

 

Taking the view that calories consumed minus calories burnt equals weight gain or loss is so well understood, it is redundant insofar that any helpful answer is concerned. It is impossible to imagine that every fat person in the world is not aware of the maths. Oh, I'm 5'10" and 190Ib of bear, so in terms of BMI, I am fat, so I'll own that word for myself.

 

Talk to any geneticist, or psychologist, and you will conclude one thing above all else - everyone is different, biologically and in terms of life experience. Additionally, everyone has a different socio-economic background, meaning that the diet available to them may also be a major factor. If you are limited to cheap foods rich in carbs, it is highly likely (again depending upon your genome) you would develop some degree of insulin resistance and subsequent atherosclerosis after a few years. High Glycemic Index foods also perpetuate the craving for more of the same. There is plenty of evidence in peer reviewed journals to indicate that genetics has a significant influence on an individual's predisposition to weight gain, in particular to the sense of inhibited satiation; leading to over eating.

 

Then there are the psychological aspects of weight gain. Eating can form part of an individuals coping mechanism, whether that is comfort eating, or binging as an proxy for other, more direct, forms of self harm. If you can get rid of your stress on the squash court, then bully for you, but for many people food becomes a psychological dependency, and unlike tobacco, alcohol, porn, gambling or any number of other dependencies, the undeniably cruel truth of food dependency is that you have to eat every day (or pretty much, anyway) to survive and thrive - so you simply cannot escape your demon.

 

I could write pages and pages about the real difficulties and challenges that face people who are bigger than they would like to be, but I'll stop here. The real reason for me writing this isn't to chastise the troll who seemed to set on body shaming, and hurting some of the sweetest and vulnerable littles, but to assure those sweet little girls that there IS a Daddy out their for you all.

 

Of course, there are Daddies who like skinny, average and big curvy girls, but there are also plenty like me, for whom a pretty smile and a kinky mind makes me love every inch of her, whether it's firm, soft, or deliciously curvy.

 

And for pete's sake - Daddies aren't all the slimest bunch in the word are they! (Looks at self)...

 

So, chin up little ones... Embrace your curves, know you are strong and beautiful, and let the world hear you roar... or squeek :-)

[Guest Stevecarr998]

Well said I'm six foot and 200ibs so I'm fat too

[DaddyAlphaca]

Well said, this is not only for overweight littles but for underweight littles too!

[PrincessClara]

Wonderfully well said! As a big little girl I appreciate people like you guys who love all of us no matter our sizes! 

[BabyGirl32015]

Beautifully put and good on you for posting thins. Many Little's and Daddies alike are different and beautifully made and you pointed this out with the science and research to back it up! Thank you, I could not have said it better myself!

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

Kali...thank you

[Princessstorm]

I don't like how people judge ddlg by size. Like, daddies, mommies, and littles all come in many shapes and sizes. There is no wrong or right appearance to be a member of the ddlg lifestyle/community. I am a big little and I'm sure one day I'll find a daddy that will love all of me happily.