Passive Littles ? Shy or just not communicative ?

[DaddyAlphaca]

Just like what the title said,

Recently i've been take down some littles i tried to get along with.

 

I am not really understand if i am the one who boring at the first conversation or they are just like that.

 

Some of the littles are text me first and whenever i asked them things at beginning (such as their reason getting a daddy or their interest) they talk really really a bit, like less than 10 words....

I thought they are "Shy" or something, but after sometimes they still replying like one or two words. I talk a lot, usually in a decent amount and always brought up topics.

 

Do you have idea or suggestion about this ? I've been daddy for around 2 years, i used to get actives littles, at least they talk in a decent amount, but lately the littles i got are passive. 

Do you guys getting the same problem ?

[Guest Keks]

Hm, that's not a question that is easy to answer as one would need to account for many variables. There are probably littles who are simply shy.

I can only speak for myself but I can tell you what gets me tongue tied in a conversation. I know I am a little but I get easily bored and stop responding if the conversation keeps focusing on the ddlg aspect. There is much more to me than my little side and I am sure there is more to you than being a Daddy to a little. Also if I get pushed too fast in a direction of ddlg relationship and get called names or be told "be a good girl and do this or that" (not even anything naughty in that case)

 

I talked to two guys who actually did not put all the focus on ddlg and one I am still talking to and the other... we just didn't really connect. We tried but we couldn't really get a conversation going. 

Sometimes it's just not happening, no matter what you try. 

[tayiie]

I cant speak for the majority of the people on here, but I can say what I think.

 

why does it bother if one replies with just a few words? I might have had a bad day? or, If there is a topic im not interested in, or if i feel like the other person simply isnt paying attention to what i just wrote then i start answering with short messages. Or sometimes cause I dont know what else to answer, sometimes I dont have an opinion about things and therefor I wont respond with a long message.

 

Yes I can be shy as well. But things that brings me out from a convo is when it always talks about sexual stuff, ddlg related things, politics, those are a few things that I just feel like, "no, fuck this". I want to get to know the person besides the ddlg dynamic, I hate politics. My advice would be, change the topic and see where that leads. I also dislikes being called things too early on, or being told to do things for "daddy" _I_ if anyone decide when or if that would happen, if I feel like I dont click with the person those things would just tick me off.

 

I enjoy talking about my day most of the times, or something of my intrests. So, yea try changing the topic into what the other person like. Because remember that "little" is first and foremost, a person, and not just a little.

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

It could have something to do with your broken English too.

Not intended as an insult, it's just a possibility.

 

Edit: Because they might find it frustrating or difficult to communicate.

Edited January 22, 2017 by MilkPop

[DaddyAlphaca]

Hm, that's not a question that is easy to answer as one would need to account for many variables. There are probably littles who are simply shy.

I can only speak for myself but I can tell you what gets me tongue tied in a conversation. I know I am a little but I get easily bored and stop responding if the conversation keeps focusing on the ddlg aspect. There is much more to me than my little side and I am sure there is more to you than being a Daddy to a little. Also if I get pushed too fast in a direction of ddlg relationship and get called names or be told "be a good girl and do this or that" (not even anything naughty in that case)

 

I talked to two guys who actually did not put all the focus on ddlg and one I am still talking to and the other... we just didn't really connect. We tried but we couldn't really get a conversation going. 

Sometimes it's just not happening, no matter what you try. 

 

I see, this actually gives me a new point of view about the new littles, thank you  for telling !  

I think it is just takes a while to meet the "Right" person who could get the conversation keep going, but i will keep in mind getting too fast towards the relationship might makes the uncomfortable too.

 

I cant speak for the majority of the people on here, but I can say what I think.

 

why does it bother if one replies with just a few words? I might have had a bad day? or, If there is a topic im not interested in, or if i feel like the other person simply isnt paying attention to what i just wrote then i start answering with short messages. Or sometimes cause I dont know what else to answer, sometimes I dont have an opinion about things and therefor I wont respond with a long message.

 

Yes I can be shy as well. But things that brings me out from a convo is when it always talks about sexual stuff, ddlg related things, politics, those are a few things that I just feel like, "no, fuck this". I want to get to know the person besides the ddlg dynamic, I hate politics. My advice would be, change the topic and see where that leads. I also dislikes being called things too early on, or being told to do things for "daddy" _I_ if anyone decide when or if that would happen, if I feel like I dont click with the person those things would just tick me off.

 

I enjoy talking about my day most of the times, or something of my intrests. So, yea try changing the topic into what the other person like. Because remember that "little" is first and foremost, a person, and not just a little.

 

You have the same opinion with Keks, you also gives me a new point of view of this ! Maybe i can see where i am doing wrong,

However no, i usually don't talk politics or sexual stuff directly, moreover if it is our first time talking. Usually i will talk/ask about her interests and stuffs. 

But, maybe i unconsciously done something towards ddlg stuff too fast while they still trying to figure me out, maybe i rushed things.

 

Thanks for your advice !

 

It could have something to do with your broken English too.

Not intended as an insult, it's just a possibility.

 

Edit: Because they might find it frustrating or difficult to communicate.

 

It is okay haha, English is not my mother tongue, so i am not fluent in English.

Although, i am sure my English understandable (?) i mean maybe not as bad as i can't communicate or the littles won't understand

unless they are grammar Nazi or something i guess.

 

But i will keep that in mind and try to improve my English, hopefully getting better through my little !

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

Some people just like to communicate more too. Try not to read into it too much either!

[Guest Princessaj]

Hi,.. 

 

A call/texts/Skype are like party invitations. You are the host. A good host always keeps things lively, but makes certain everyone is having a good time as it pleases them, not you. Littles love talking about themselves. Even if you don't know what they are talking about or even care, humble yourself and really invite them to "their party." Be smart and really be present. Its not about you, its about the little.

 

Your profile says nothing much about you at all. You might consider taking your 3 personal ads and combining them to make a steady and appealing introduction. Your profile stays steady at the ready 24/7 for everyone to read at their leisure.

 

Your status updates are a bit "needy" and can be perceived as one sided/one track mind.

Status updates can do a lot of good for you. Changing often shows that you want to become familiar to the forum. Consider posting your favorite quotes, lines from Disney films or your favorite songs, something clever you just saw on social media, your favorite element of your favorite game....there is so much to share that will give everyone a chance to get to know you. 

 

Isn't it great that life is a long road and getting to know people can take a lifetime!?! Hugs.

[arineunha]

its hard to communicate or express feelings sometimes

[DaddyAlphaca]

Hi,.. 

 

A call/texts/Skype are like party invitations. You are the host. A good host always keeps things lively, but makes certain everyone is having a good time as it pleases them, not you. Littles love talking about themselves. Even if you don't know what they are talking about or even care, humble yourself and really invite them to "their party." Be smart and really be present. Its not about you, its about the little.

 

Your profile says nothing much about you at all. You might consider taking your 3 personal ads and combining them to make a steady and appealing introduction. Your profile stays steady at the ready 24/7 for everyone to read at their leisure.

 

Your status updates are a bit "needy" and can be perceived as one sided/one track mind.

Status updates can do a lot of good for you. Changing often shows that you want to become familiar to the forum. Consider posting your favorite quotes, lines from Disney films or your favorite songs, something clever you just saw on social media, your favorite element of your favorite game....there is so much to share that will give everyone a chance to get to know you. 

 

Isn't it great that life is a long road and getting to know people can take a lifetime!?! Hugs.

 

Heyyy,  thanks for giving me advice here ! I will "fix" things as you suggest me to