i want my bf to be my daddy, but he doesn't like it

[arineunha]

he doesn't like being called 'daddy' and i have tried it before. he sometimes responds to it, but he's not into that kind of thing and he says it's weird. i enjoy being a little/kitten, it makes me feel better. when i'm with him, i think he's pretty rough with me and sometimes there isn't that tenderness that I normally like. he likes being like an older brother more than a daddy. he can be pretty strict sometimes and criticizes how i eat, and he brushes my hair and he spoon feeds me sometimes. I really love him and I can't force him to be a daddy, what should I do

 

we are also the same age, but he's a few months older

Edited January 20, 2017 by arineunha

[Indi Baby]

Overall, at the end of the day don't pressure him into something he isn't comfortable with. Just remember that it's all just labels, because even though he may not want you to call him daddy, he still has a lot of the qualities an average daddy has. The action is more important than the title hun. It seems like he's probably considering in his head to really have a compromise between DDlg and you guys' everyday like, which doesn't sound bad at all. Who knows, maybe you can ease him into doing more playful stuff, like parks or bubble baths. The small things. Best of luck hun!

[cuppycakes]

I agree with Ramo's_Princess, but wanted to add that if he simply has an issue with being called daddy, then many other doms do too! You're not alone in the slightest.

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/385-what-do-you-call-your-dom/page-6?hl=names&do=findComment&comment=88023

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17071-public-names/?hl=names

Here's a couple of forums (SFW) about alternate names, and I know there's more. You don't need to label yourselves as ddlg at all, either. It's just a label, it's not like a club that accepts members only or anything 

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

You can't force him to be a "Daddy" if he's not a "Daddy". You can't force him to be a Caregiver if he's not a Caregiver. He doesn't have to be "Daddy" to be your Caregiver((or DaddyDom)). It's just a title. What's in a title? What makes a title import? It's the meaning behind the title. Husband/Boyfriend/Daddy/Partner/Sufficient Other. There are many many couples that use a different nickname other than "Daddy". It doesn't make a person any less of a Little or a Caregiver. We are all different and we all like different things. It sounds like he has the traits of a Caregiver. Don't push things, don't force things, just let things happen naturally. DD/LG, that's just another title. Your relationship can be CG/L without being labeled CG/L. It doesn't matter what you call your relationship, it matters how you feel about and in your relationship. Find what works for you and yours and don't worry about titles and labels and whether or not other "Littles" or other "DD/LG couples" are doing. When if comes down to it, it's your relationship. Do what makes your guys happy and what works for you. ALL relationships take time and work and communication, regardless of what you label it.

 

So he doesn't like to be called Daddy, find a cute nickname you like to call him that he doesn't mind or does like. Let things naturally happen in relationship.

 

I have a Little lifestyle. I consider Mister Master to be my Caregiver as he's my boyfriend. We've been together for about three years. He'll fill my sippy cups, buy me cute kids meals. Watch cartoons with me. Buy me stuffed animals and toys and play with me. He's gotten me a binkie, and he'll even put it in my mouth at times((and even fake it and take away last minute like a meanie before actually letting me have my binkie lol)) When we first got together, he thought my sippy cups and binkies where a little odd and weird. At the beginning of our relationship I used them less than now. Because I've always been open and honest in being myself, I would still use them. Just less as to not make him uncomfortable. Slowly over time he got use to my "weirdness" and like I said, he'll now fill my sippy cups up for me. He never said anthing, it was all my own worrying about his feelings and comfortness. I would tell him this is how I was and how I'm going to be. Nothing would change that, but at the same time that I didn't want to make him uncomfortable or uneasy. That I would limit use of my binkie while he was around if that would make him more comfortable. As amazing as Mister Master he told me I didn't have to do any such thing, but I did at first for him anyway. He loves me and accepts me for who I am. I would consider our relationship to be a CG/L relationship. The aspects and qualities of our relationship match just right. I have actually not sat down and had "the DD/LG relationship" talk with Mister Master. I know that Mister Master wouldn't like to be called Daddy. We've had conversations about things like that, he finds uncomfortable(as many tend to do). We talk about many things. About where we want our relationship to go. What we need from each other. How to handle each other. Our relationship naturally took itself down this path. There was no real reason for me to title or label our relationship. The title doesn't matter, the fact that we both are happy and enjoy our relationship. ((And yes I got permission before joining this DD/LG forum from Mister Master. So yes he knows I'm on these forums, he wants me to be able to find friends like me also ))

 

It's a two way street. Relationship building takes time. You work together. You worry about making each other comfortable and happy. You try to be interested in the others interests. You support each others dreams and feelings. You relay on each other. You learn how to be open and talk to each other. You remember your not in a relationship alone and you should get back as much as you give. As loving and caring and supporting. It's ok if you don't like all the same things or activities, you work together to learn how to work together.  The most important thing about your relationship is that they both of you are happy, healthy and enjoy it.

[babygirl702]

Same... I tried to introduce my bf to it but he rejected it and now I feel awkward around him. I feel like it may have messed up our relationship. I feel so empty though, like I can't be myself. He HATES when I act like a little. He gets so mad and he says it's annoying. He even raised his hand to me once. It hurts emotionally knowing he feels that way about it.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

Same... I tried to introduce my bf to it but he rejected it and now I feel awkward around him. I feel like it may have messed up our relationship. I feel so empty though, like I can't be myself. He HATES when I act like a little. He gets so mad and he says it's annoying. He even raised his hand to me once. It hurts emotionally knowing he feels that way about it.

He raised his hand to you? I'm sorry, but that's never ok. I mean, if you ask to be hit or punished its one thing, but for him to do it in situation like that, that's just abuse. It sounds more like you need to get away from him.

[Bubblykitten]

I'm sorry!!! But you should ask you boyfriend if it'll be okay if you can have a (non-sexual) daddy if that's what you want.

[Ruetta]

my boyfriend used to hate being called daddy and asked to call his name when we are talking or having a playtime together, it was sad because I wanted to have a daddy and I cant even call him daddy, he's so clueless and he seems doesnt like it everytime I called him daddy. Then i explained him why I wanted him to be my daddy, or being in ddlg relationship. He was like think about it for months then its been 10 months now he love to be called "Daddy" he love it so much and wanted me to called him Daddy or he would be sad, and he found out that I deeply into ddlg but he didnt find it freak or what he said its fine and he also called himself Daddy ^^ what i mean to say its just try to explain him but dont force him.. its bad for him >< I wish you good luck! ❤

[DollDirector]

Being a dd without clearly knowing it,is to a certain extent possible. So the idea of a Little,spotting one and then working towards having him come out to himself,is not entirely unrealistic,but it is a different situation than trying to introduce the dynamic into a relationship that has existed for some time. In your case Babygirl702,perhaps you are evolving and you will have to face the fact that your partner will not. 

[Guest ASerpent]

Same here. I wanted to introduce my partner to the lifestyle, but it's not his piece of cake. If your partner doesn't want to experience it with you, you'll have to find a way for yourself to get your wants and needs satisfied without him. Edited March 5, 2017 by ASerpent

[Aqu45]

You can't force him into it, maybe try to ease him into accepting the little part of you. Just like training wheels! Hehe

And if he doesn't like Daddy try something else to call him maybe Bear or something similar?

[Guest BabyGlitterMilk]

I fell in love with the dynamic a few years ago, and tried to convince my boyfriend to by my Big but he just doesn't enjoy it. As much as I want him to be a part of this, I can manage littlespace without a Dom. I call him Nai instead of Daddy, since he's more comfortable with that. He recognizes when I need my little time and sometimes he'll play the part a bit. That's the most I can get from him and I'll take it, since we're exclusive.