Feeling Like a Dead Little

[BabyGirl32015]

The topic probably caught your eye as morbid and maybe even a depressing thought, but the question posed is still valid for everyone to read (in my opinion)

 

   

 

Have you ever felt like your Little self has withered away and died due to things like medication or a relationship that really isn't meeting your needs as a Little? I have been wondering about this for some time now but wasn't quite sure where to put it or even how to title it. Normally I'm full of good advice, self help and tips, but I can't figure this out for myself. Anyone who has anything remotely relating to this please feel free to respond because this Little needs help!

 

 

Please, Thank You and everything else in-between

 

BabyGirl

[Baby..Princess]

I've tried it. My little wasn't there for many years in a toxic relationship. I tried to make myself to go to little space, but at that time it was impossible. My ex husband would never understand and make fun of me.

But now I am in my little space every day and I'm so happy for it.

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there !

 

The title does sound a little morbid , but meh I like morbid things ^-^ Haha. However , I think what you're feeling is very normal for most. I have experienced this type of feeling before as well for a couple different reasons , let me explain ...

 

 

During my relationship now , I have felt that way. I shan't go into details about the problems we faced that caused this , but I went through a stint of being "dead" as a little because of a big mountain we had to climb in our relationship. It was the biggest problem I had ever faced in any relationship let alone in Dd/lg. I was left feeling insecure , confused , and unsure of my place in Dd/lg and if I could or even wanted to continue. I already had doubts of my place as a little when I first came into this whole world so this only brought those feelings back. Through this experience , I learned that you can persevere even if it takes time.

 

The first biggest tip I can give is to not make yourself feel pressured. After the big problem we faced , I found myself trying to force myself into my little space and it made things ten times more difficult. I suggest trying to ease your way into it , and make yourself not feel pressured at all. If you feel like doing something "little-esque"  like coloring than go for it.. but don't make yourself feel expected to reach your comfort zone and space. 

 

Also try doing things you love , don't focus on the Dd/lg aspect of things. Go for walks outside and appreciate your surroundings and think about life , make a new meal you haven't tried , ect. Doing new things or going outside always helps me feel better , and it also distracts from the anxiety and stress that comes with missing your little space. 

 

If you are comfortable at some point in branching out and not necessarily pressuring yourself , perhaps try dressing in your little clothes if you have any ! During my time I felt my little part of me was dead , this helped immensely. Putting on things as small as cute socks with designs on them made me feel like maybe everything was right in the world. Little fuzzy socks are heroes ! As well as onesies of course ^-^

 

Lastly .. and I save this for last because  I hate it the most... You could take a small break from being little altogether. It is also something I tried , ( it did not work much for me but could work for others). Taking a small break could give you a new appreciation for being the way you are as a little and the Dd/lg dynamic all around.

 

It doesn't seem like much ow that I read back through this , but I really hope this does help !  You seem so sweet and deserve happiness <3

Edited January 19, 2017 by Daddysmonkey

[Guest babydoe]

The first and only boyfriend I ever had thought I was really weird and I kind of regret telling him a lot of things, but we're not together anymore so luckily I don't have to tread on eggshells with what I say or do now. I sometimes find that having to take care of anyone else, like babysit my little brother while my Mum goes out, makes me feel weird because, in little space, I'm even younger than my brother is now so it's difficult to take on that responsibility and be completely aware of everything when I'm looking after him because I just wanna mess around and watch cartoons too.

[alotalittle]

I'm not sure if I would say that my little side feels "dead", but she does feel completely untrusting of me and everyone else currently. So it's more of a "locked herself inside her room" feeling if that makes any sense.

 

I wish I had some tips for you, but I'm still struggling with this feeling myself. For the first time today, I managed to do something that made me feel slightly "little" without having a meltdown. It's been nearly a year and a half since I've been able to do that, so I'm considering it an accomplishment. I'm not sure if my little side will ever fully come back, but I hope someday I at least find peace with it all. 

 

I apologize for my response not having any real suggestions to help you, but I wanted you to know that you're certainly not alone in your feelings and if you ever want to talk about it, I'd be happy to listen and discuss with you.