Being a Little With Anxiety

[LilUnicorn]

So I'm a little that has anxiety. I always feel like I can't do things and I feel like I bother everyone. Also me and my Daddy have been fighting a lot. One time he said that I act like I know it all and it really really hurt my feelings. Now I don't want to talk to anyone. Every morning I have to wake up and tell myself I'll be okay. And that I can't let my anxiety get to me. But it always does...

[Batbrat]

I have the same problem with anxiety making me think that. But when it gets really bad, that's when I take time to look back on old messages between me and my Daddy, seeing how much he cares about me and really needs me. I have to keep reminding myself that I am in fact NOT a bother and CAN do things correctly. Maybe that might work for you. 

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hi there! :3

 

I suffer from pretty extreme anxiety. I've been medicated for nearly 10yrs as a result and don't imagine I will ever be stable enough to take off medication completely. I have a daily medication I take as well as one I can take in the event of an emergency attack.

 

It's rough. I get it. When I'm not medicated, I'm really just blah and not super happy. I'm not sad, I'm just not happy. I don't feel I do anything right... and frankly, I'm very sick. It can be debilitating though often people don't see it that way.

 

Does your Daddy understand what anxiety is? My Daddy and I have been married for 3.5yrs, together for 4.5. I know up until about six months to a year ago, he had no clue what it was. He would tell me to stop worrying and that I would be fine. It didn't help. He tried to tell me why my worries weren't rational and that didn't help. I showed him a movie on YouTube called nail in the head and he kinda gets it now.

 

I also explained anxiety. I told him it's like being trapped in a dark, unfamiliar room and hearing noises but not being able to move or see where the sounds were coming from. I told him it's like your worst fear attacking you and then running away. I told him it's a nauseating, painful and yet numbing feeling. People who don't suffer from it will never understand 100% but we can help them get it a little. Maybe you need to explain it to him?

[PincessCaitlin]

[Prince_Towelie]

I am not a little (...What i am) but I have dealt with anxiety for most of my life.  I never liked or trusted professionals, and did not get along with them, either.  I ended up forming my own, personal regimen through years of trial and error.  Feel free fo add and PM me if you would like to know more. 

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Hi there! Another anxious little baby here! 

 

While I do recommend first and foremost to be seen by a professional, even if it isn't a popular opinion and I totally get that it's not for everyone, there are a lot of great suggestions above for what you can do apart from that. My therapist is a lot like a sounding board for me, and so she's one of my biggest advocates and supporters, but I totally respect that these types of people are not for everyone. I'm probably also biased because many of my partners work in this field as well, so I have a great amount of respect for mental health workers. However, I'm pretty against medicating myself (for anxiety reasons, ironically), so even though I've been on anxiety medication in the past, I am not currently on it and I like it that way! This is what I mean by various perspectives; all are valid if they work for the person, because that's what matters most. 

 

I highly recommend sitting down and talking to your partner about what anxiety is like, as it was suggested above. I use similar analogies as were already listed, but the one I used most frequently for my particular anxiety is being trapped in a locked room, and not knowing when the door is going to open again. Logically, I know how to open a door, but I can't and I have no idea when I'm going to be able to open the door. That's the most frustrating part for me; knowing logically how to calm myself down but being able to do it. Personally, I find anxiety to be super frustrating as well as draining and difficult to cope with. 

 

Have you looked into a Worry Book? It was an invaluable tool for Beast and I when we were starting out, and I recommend it all the time when I mentor. Essentially, getting a notebook dedicated solely to your worries can help you flesh out the silly, irrational ones. I would come home from work/school, go right to the book, and pour out my feelings. Then, silently, I'd hand it to Beast who would look over it and sometimes He would reply and address them and sometimes He'd just let them go. Sometimes we'd even tear the page out and burn it. But something about putting my fears on paper made them less real, and felt really cathartic.

 

Good luck! My inbox is open anytime. 

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

I have experienced anxiety for about 18 years now. Medication just made me feel numb and so I stopped it after a few years and I now do a lot of meditation and relaxation practices. When I feel it return, i go back to a lot of self care and nature. I also know not to always believe the things my mind tells me...sometimes the thoughts slip through, mostly I catch them.