Too defiant for my little side

[littleembug]

So I've finally got my daddy to start this with me.. But he is inexperienced and I am defiant sometimes so he loses interest... I am trying to be more respectful but how do I get him to start becoming interested again?

[Guest whatever]

Have you considered the possibility that perhaps he just isn't interested in DDlg? This dynamic is not for everyone and that's ok.

Communication is key. Sit down and talk to him. There is no point in telling us that you feel frustrated by this when it is him you need to talk to.

You said he is new to this. Maybe he is still just learning the ropes of it. Give him time. And why not help him? It doesn't make him less of a daddy to need help and guidance from time to time. Not everyone is a natural.

[Indi Baby]

If he is new to DDlg, don't just go full on into it and expect him to catch up. You gotta ease him into it, talk to him about it. I made the mistake of just leaving it up to my daddy in the beginning and I lost him for a little bit. You need to establish what you need as a little and what he needs as a daddy before you can go head on and being defiant. He can't enjoy that part of you if he isn't even used to the basics.

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

He's inexperienced, so he probably doesn't understand how to react. 

 

Try explaining that you need him to be stern with you because it's beneficial, teaches you better self-control etc. Not just as a little, but also as an adult. That way it's not ddlg specific. 

 

It can take time. Be patient. And don't use rules and guidelines on here to dictate how you go about introducing the DDLG dynamic.

That's how it'll go wrong.

Do what feels natural. 

 

Think of things he might already do that make you feel like a Little with her Daddy. And amp it up a bit. 

Like getting your hair brushed. Or holding his hand. 

 

Try drawing him cards to say you appreciate him in general, not just as a Daddy.

 

If after a long time and lots of patience it's just not grabbing him, he's just not into it.

 

BUT! Good news- you don't need a Daddy to be a little. You've got plenty of things to make your day happier. 

Colouring books, tv shows, snacks, crayons, plushies, other littles to share your interests with. 

And then some. ^.^

[Lil_pinkprincess]