How should I tell my daddy to read more into DDLG?

[PrincessHoneyBum]

Hwello! I've been into ddlg for a while, and my daddy hasn't (he's new) I've linked him to this site many time telling time to read more so he can learn more about the lifestyle.. but he hasn't and i'm too shy to keep pushing it on him, I do have rules that he made himself, but I feel like he doesn't treat me like a little and isn't very "daddy like" and im very awkward into going into my little space around him. any advice?    THANK YOU!!

[PinkiePie84]

I would suggest you read up and find good articles and email them to him and ask him to read them and then brinh them up shortly after to see if he's read them Edited January 16, 2017 by PinkiePie84

[Barbie Lumina]

I had to sit beside my daddy, watch him make an account and converse about the resources section, it tooks me 6 months! The trick is, you can't be anywhere near little space to do it, you have to be big and adult! Which is super annoying... anyways, it does take time for new daddy's because even though they have an interest and want to learn more, it'll take a while for them to fully embrace it, especially if there's no BDSM background. We have rules and rewards, daddy's struggling with punishing because he's a gentle soft daddy type that likes to spoil me... which isn't good for my part because I need the punishments just as much as I need rewards.

 

I know how you feel though… I used to feel awkward going into little space too because I was cautious about him being a new daddy, when he told me it was okay, I have no problem going into little space, but sometimes he'll do/say something that rips me out and I'm big again... if you need someone to talk to that's gone/going through the same, don't hesitate to add me, my mail seems to be glitching up recently but you can catch me lurking in the chat!

 

I'm not sure I was much help to your problem, but I hope I made you feel a little bit better about it all.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

talk to him as an adult. explain why you need this in your life, what it does for you, how it makes you who you are. and keep at it. if it's important to you, there's nothing wrong with discussing what you need with your SO. 

[Princess-P]

The only thing you can do is tell him flat out what you desire. He's either going to be into it or not.

 

Telling him to come here and see what being a Caregiver is about won't help him meet your needs as your needs can be very different from what he may read here. You aren't like everyone else (no one is the same) so he can't follow someone else's guideline.

 

I understand being shy but closed mouths don't get fed. Talk to him. write him a letter, an email, even a text if you feel that embarrassed by your desires.

 

But also prepare yourself. He might not want to do it. And pushing him won't help. Also making him feel bad buy trying to guilt him won't make him feel good and cause resentment. So be ready for him to say no to everything you want and be ready to be little on your own.

 

Of a caregiver is something you NEED then he may not he the one. If your happy with him being a non factor in this dynamic but still being your partner then that's great. Lots of people who are littles or caregivers find themselves in completely satisfying relationships with "vanilla" partners. Its all about supporting eachothers differences and similarities.