Disappointed but I'll be okay

[Guest SugarNSpiceSam]

My Daddy didn't have that much time for me. I understand he had work and I always kept myself busy during the day. We hardly ever got to talk and his messages became less and less, I hardly got to hear from him anymore. Anytime I needed him or anything, he wasn't around. When I was upset, he said he had to go to his neighbors. In the end I went to somebody else who comforted me that night. Know this is tmi: too much information but I was pmsing this night and I still am at the moment and he knows how I get very emotional around this time, My friend ended up comforting me, talking to me about books, making me laugh and it made me realize how my own Daddy couldn't do any of those things. It really disappointed me. Anytime I try to talk to him, it always leads into something sexual right afterwards and it makes me feel horrible. I could be really upset and crying my eyes out and it always leads into something sexual: always. 99 percent of the time. I feel like that's all he cares about sometimes and he honestly doesn't care about me in general at all.

 

All he see me as is a sex object, something for me to play with and it made me upset once I realized this. This isn't something I want at all. I want someone to love me for me, for who I am, through and through and want to be here for me, take care of me and do anything to make me happy. One night he told me that he does love me, then it slowly changed into, "I really like you a lot." So everything he said was a lie basically and I basically don't want it anymore. I've been disappointed by different Dom's and Daddy Dom's but in the end I know that I'll be okay because I'm strong inside. I have to be strong inside in order to get by. Every Time something ends, I always learn something from it. I'm not going to blame myself for this because I honestly did trust him. The one thing I never did do was send him a naked photo of myself to him. I always told him, "No." I know my limits. Daddy's are supposed to respect their little's limits. Always. 

[PrincessClara]

I'm so sorry that this happened to you!   Daddies are supposed to be there for their littles as much as littles are there for their Daddies. I think if he is like that then maybe it's best for you to move on and find a new Daddy who will treat you right and be there for you. All I can say is make sure you are vetting your potential Daddies for quite a while so you get to know them really well before bringing in the dynamic to it. I feel that a lot of Littles (especially younger ones) tend to rush things and then they get hurt by bad Daddies/people in general. Building trust and a good relationship takes time. I know how much it hurts to be treated that way. I wish there was more i could do to comfort you *big hugs* like you said though, you're strong so you will be ootay! 

[LittleMommy]

I've been there with my first so called "Daddy". So glad I've moved on. I agree with the above poster. You have to vet potential Daddies so that you don't keep dating the same type.

[Child Of Light]

I'm so sorry your going through this Your right. Daddy's are suppose to respect their little limited. Let this be a time for healing for you!!!

[LittleGirlEmilia]

I'm really sorry this happened to you but you made the right choice not to send nudes and stick to your limits. Getting over a 'daddy' like this might be painful for a bit but you'll heal, probably quicker than you'll realize and you'll get to find that special daddy that will give you everything you need.

 

I wish you the best. <3

[Guest Tsubaki]

If he doesn't make time for you, that means you're not a priority for him. It doesn't matter if he's a "Daddy", a normal guy or kind Bob from next door. If all there ever is is just the relations and that's not something you want then leave. Just close that door and don't look back because at the end of the day you're the only one getting hurt. You deserve better, move on so that Better can find you.

 

I hope you'll be okay

[Guest thelittlestcorgi]

I don't know you and you don't know me, but I'm proud of you anyways! It's really good to see people look out for their own safety and happiness when they're not being treated correctly, because browsing lots of DDLG threads shows you just how often people get mistreated or even abandoned - you regularly see how many people get distraught over a disappearing daddy and stuff like that a lot. I'm sorry things didn't work out well, but I'm also glad that you didn't let it slow you down much, and I hope your future is much brighter and happier! :3 Very inspiring. Hope that doesn't sound weird, it just made me happy to see someone know their limits and enforce them

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

Sending my love!!! It's never easy! I just ended my relationship with my Daddy I had been in a relationship with on and off for a while, this morning.

 

It's painful. But your boundaries are there for a reason and if care was lacking then how could it grow into complete trust?

In my instance my Daddy wasn't willing or didn't seem to care too much. He said he loved me, but was very distant and the connection didn't feel right. For me that's not ok and I had to assess the connection, the relationship and how things were.

 

If it doesn't feel right there's no point keeping it going. In these kinds of relationships we have to be very aware of what we will and won't accept, compromise where we can but be true to ourselves first.