Having an Inexperienced Daddy

[LilUnicorn]

I don't think my Daddy has friends that are also Daddys. So he can't learn anything about this from friends. He's only done this for a month. I feel that he doesn't understand the full concept of a DDlg relationship. I try to explain but he doesn't get it like I want him to. What shall I do? ~ Thank you ^-^

[Guest]

Maybe have him read over some of these topics here https://www.ddlgforum.com/forum/16-resources/

Tons of helpful info!

 

Also maybe find post here you like and have him read over those too.

[Mikaitaku]

having him join may be a good idea. he can read around the forums and ask things in chat.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

If he's already open to the idea of being Daddy then asking him to join the community here would be a pretty good idea. You could show him post and topics which explains more about what DD/LG is. He would also be able to meet and friend other DaddyDom's which he could talk to more about things. It's a much better opinion than turning him loose on google, as everything here is organized and not flowed with porn or just the sexual tendinitis of DD/LG. Here people will be able to help guide him down the right path of information.

[Barbie Lumina]

I asked my daddy to join the forums and I think it's helped so far, I made matching avatars and everything xD the only thing he's having issues with is the punishment side of things :/

 

If you're anything like me and too shy/don't want to tell him too much what you want incase you scare him away from the scene, then the forums aren't really going to help because it's always replies such as 'ask your little what she wants/needs' but it's kinda hard to do with a new daddy, explaining things isn't really a little's forte either.

 

So I think it might just take time for new daddies to embrace it so you're able to really tell him what you need, that's what I think anyways! ^.^

[LilUnicorn]

He joined yesterday so I think that will help ^-^

[daddies_velvet_kitty]

I don't want this to come off the wrong way but since I presume you've only been together for a month, maybe you could ease into ddlg more. My daddy was an inexperienced daddy when we first started dating and we didn't fully embrace the lifestyle until a couple months in. Even for experienced people a new relationship is always daunting. Maybe he's overwhelmed by all the rules and what he thinks he should be. Research is always a good idea, the more he knows the better he will feel about this new territory. But also make sure he also knows what you want and who you are as a little first which might take time. I suggest using a lot of positive reinforcement when he's being a good daddy, help him through the process, also plenty of research, but most importantly make sure that he understands that there's not a model to follow when it comes to ddlg, every relationship is unique.

[LilUnicorn]

We've been together for almost a year.

[Indi Baby]

My daddy and I have been dating for a year and some change and he is still a bit shaky as a daddy so I understand this a lot. What I suggest from my experience is to just, during some nights, read some ddlg posts and forums or watch videos and have some fun with it. Things like "Oh thats totally you!" Just so he gets comfortable with the overall idea with DDlg. Also, a very strong point I need to make is that do not let him think that the posts he sees on social media is the only way to participate in DDlg. Emphasize to him that those are only guidelines and that it really cuts down to your individual relationship. 

 

  Never forget to remind your daddy that you're encouraging him and that you appreciate his effort! I made the mistake in the beginning to leave it all up to him to really figure out how to be a good daddy, but daddies need love and support to. To be told that they've made you proud! Just really give him comforting affection whether in little space or not. It'll all pay off in the end! Best of luck hun!