My girlfriend says she doesn't feel good when I'm little. NEED HELP

[BruceDaLittle]

My girlfriend's depression is kicking in and she said last night I'm adorable when I'm little and she likes calling me baby and tucking me in. She doesn't feel good from doing it and it just drains her.She said she can't be a mommy right now.I'm not sure if this is forever or until she feels better or what. I care about her a lot and am just trying to be there for her. Babe if you're reading this I love you and just need some advice.

Edited January 15, 2017 by BruceDaLittle

[Child Of Light]

Put the dynamic aside for a bit (yes, that means stopping it) get your patner to a good place.. and once things are going okay, communicate and ask. Depression is a very serious condition and it needs a lot of support. As well, in relationships we need to make sure both parties are happy. It might be she'll never want to be a Mommy again. And that's okay, people change and need change to heal. You'll have to go from there. Edited January 15, 2017 by Child Of Light

[Guest]

Her depression is serious. She needs your help and support. She may come out of it and be happy and ready to be your mommy again but she may not. Either way you love her and care for her and NEED to help rather she carries on being your mommy or not.

 

Being a caregiver is extremely draining on a person. it's hard to give and give and give , even more so when the person is not at their best. You need to put aside your needs for now and help her get back to her feet ,she needs your help now.

 

If she sees medical professionals, (psychologists and such ) maybe try to get her to set up an appointment so things can get back under control. Try to make sure she is eating and doing normal things to keep going. Yeah you are a little but you are also an adult and as an adult you need to be able to help your partner when she needs it.

 

Wish you both the best

Edited January 15, 2017 by Arya

[BruceDaLittle]

I am trying to be there for her whether she is my mommy or not doesn't matter right now and I told her I only care about her health and well being so the dynamic is on break. We are in an LDR relationship. Being supportive is all I can do right now.

Edited January 15, 2017 by BruceDaLittle

[lilsnoopy]

Put the dynamic aside for a bit (yes, that means stopping it) get your patner to a good place.. 

 

 

So yes it is very important to support your girlfriend and not put too much stress on her. But also don't forget self care. You can still be a little on you own if you want to. You don't just have to 'stop' being a little. This battle with depression might be long and draining on both of you, so if indulging in your little tendencies on your own will help you cope with stress and such then that's perfectly acceptable. 

Edited January 15, 2017 by lilsnoopy

[Guest Ginger]

Speaking as someone who WAS a Mommy with depression... I agree with the others. Put aside the dynamic and try to focus on getting her on a better place as far as get depression is concerned. I was in an LDR and my Little was, well, a baby. Far younger than I'd been looking for. Our relationship only further drained me and I was less help than I would have been initially.

 

Try to help her out. As stated, your can still be a Little without her. If it's really needed, talk about getting a "babysitter" temporarily until she's feeling better and up to being your CG again (or until she's up to discussing it).

[Child Of Light]

So yes it is very important to support your girlfriend and not put too much stress on her. But also don't forget self care. You can still be a little on you own if you want to. You don't just have to 'stop' being a little. This battle with depression might be long and draining on both of you, so if indulging in your little tendencies on your own will help you cope with stress and such then that's perfectly acceptable.

 

Right. I just meant with pressuring his S/o to be apart of it. There are things such as coloring books, having your own time, and destressers one can do with themselves. But I think it's good to also snap out of that mindset and not let her see it, or to trans and make her take care of you. If you are able to 100% delicate from the little side -- whilst talking to her, or at least to a point she doesn't have to "tend to it". If that makes sense.

[BruceDaLittle]

All I care about is her health and well-being. I can and will be little on my own until she is ready to discuss it further. I'm just focused on her right now.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

All I care about is her health and well-being. I can and will be little on my own until she is ready to discuss it further. I'm just focused on her right now.

 

That's the right decision! :3

[BruceDaLittle]

She  broke up with me but we are still gonna be friends.