Being Little and Not Wanting Kids

[BubbleKitty]

Has any little had this feeling before? You are a little and enjoy being a little so therefore you can't think of having kids because you know you would need to grow up and be an adult. Also becoming a caregiver for a baby means you can't use pacis or onesies anymore. Naturally, you would become busier and have to appear as the adult to the child and therefore being a little would not be in your life anymore. But you love being a little so much that having kids is not an option for you but, you also want kids for yourself in your lifetime. You don't know when that would change, but you are also scared because you are not getting any younger.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hi there!

 

I'm a little with kids, my daughter is 2 my son is 7.

First of all, being a mother/father does NOT mean you have to grow up! Sure, you have to be an adult sometimes, but you get to play with your kids too! I'm not gonna tell you it's all easy going and life's grand and I never have hard days. I have days where I wanna run away. I absolutely love my children, but life is hard and sometimes I just wanna be little and at that moment they need their mommy. They come first, always.

 

I use a paci sometimes :3 it's not Anne all end all for me, so I am okay just using it once they go to bed. You have to determine what all you want.

 

I love lists, so I suggest a pros and cons list.

[PrincessClara]

I'm a little and i have kids too! They are 8 and 10 and I'm pregnant due in April. I agree it doesn't mean you have to grow up or stop being a little. You just have to find your balance. My kids have seen me with my paci, I just explain it helps mommies anxiety so she doesn't smoke. They are okay with that since they both hated when I smoked. They like when i color with them or do crafts with them and play with toys etc. most of the time I can avoid being the disciplinarian and let Daddy take care of that but I also don't want them to see him as the only bad guy so sometimes I will do it too. I have sippy cups and use kids plates all the time too. If it's how you are it's how you are and they won't know it's weird or anything else. 

[lilsnoopy]

I'm a little that does not want kids. There are lots of factors for that but the main one is I just don't want to... I have never wanted to be a mother. Even as a kid (or now) I never played with baby dolls, I always preferred stuffed animals or my imagination. Daddy is completely supportive. He is happy with me being his only kid. That is a choice we have both made, together. 

 

I understand what you mean about it seeming like it would make you grow up. It would all probably just depend on your situation. Everyone will/would experience parenthood differently. Deciding if you want kids or not is not a choice you have to make right now. You have time to evaluate if having a child is what you want or not. Like I said I am not having kids but I had so many more reasons factoring into than just me being a little. 

Edited January 12, 2017 by lilsnoopy

[MilkyUsagi]

I'm so afraid of giving birth to a kid OMG GROSS (( I'm a nurse, I can  see a body split in half and like it but not a child birth ,-, 

[Guest buddhagirl]

I'm so afraid of giving birth to a kid OMG GROSS (( I'm a nurse, I can  see a body split in half and like it but not a child birth ,-, 

Giving birth is gross? AND you're a nurse?! This comment made me sad and offended me just a bit. Thank goodness your mother didn't feel this way, too!

 

This thread is why I have struggled to stay connected on this site. I didn't want to have kids, either, in my twenties. I thought it wasn't for me. Now I have one biological son in college, an adopted daughter and two beautiful step children. AND I AM STILL LITTLE!!! It isn't hard. 

 

If you don't want to be judged for not wanting children--WHICH IS A PERFECTLY GOOD CHOICE--then please consider being sensitive and kind to all of the mothers out there working SO hard to raise good human beings. 

 

I strive to be kind and considerate to ALL, and this thread really made my heart hurt a little.

Edited January 12, 2017 by buddhagirl

[Princess-P]

Everyone has theorbown reasons for wanting g or not wanting children. Either decision is fine. To each their own.

 

I do find it hilarious that a 25 year old nurse thinks child birth is gross. That's extremely immature and very unprofessional. I'd hate to have someone like that near me in an emergency situation.

 

To the OP, if your not ready for children, or if you never want children that's fine. But if your battling conflicting thoughts or worried that you would have to never be little again, just remember that there's plenty of littles who are patents and its wonderful. Kids are a huge responsibility and not everyone is cut out for them bit it doesn't change who you are.

 

No matter what your worried about or what your decision is you do what's best for you when the time comes to seriously think about it.

[Guest buddhagirl]

Has any little had this feeling before? You are a little and enjoy being a little so therefore you can't think of having kids because you know you would need to grow up and be an adult. Also becoming a caregiver for a baby means you can't use pacis or onesies anymore. Naturally, you would become busier and have to appear as the adult to the child and therefore being a little would not be in your life anymore. But you love being a little so much that having kids is not an option for you but, you also want kids for yourself in your lifetime. You don't know when that would change, but you are also scared because you are not getting any younger.

BubbleKitty, you are still young. You don't need to make this decision now or even think about it for quite a few years. Life will unfold as it should and the right path will just open up to you at the right time. Right now you are doing what is right for you. That doesn't mean you won't or can't have children someday. Having kids will not prevent you from being yourself, if you choose to have them. There are many, many parents that also embrace this dynamic and it is lovely and good. 

[Guest Keks]

As a nurse, I have to say, there are things that gross me out. I'm a human being and that happens. I am also a professional and won't let it show in front of the patient but do my job. Saying someone is immature for being grossed out by something seems silly to me. It doesn't make her a bad nurse or incapable to handle an emergency situation.

 

Sorry,I just had to get this off my chest.

As to the actual topic, I never really thought about it as kids are currently not something I am considering. However, I don't think having children automatically means you have to stop being little.

Edited January 12, 2017 by Keks

[Princess-P]

I don't expect a nurse to have an iron will but the way she expressed herself was very immature. Which leads me to believe she would be incompetent in an emergency.

 

While childbirth can be quite messy, comparing it to someone being split in half and as "OMG GROSS" speaks volumes and is incredibly insensitive to those who have gone through it.

[Guest Keks]

Could have it been worded better? Yes.

Childbirth is one of the most wonderful but also weirdest and scariest things I have ever witnessed and I have nothing but respect for people who went through that.

 

Still, for me personally her comment does not equal incompetence. Given what I've heard people in the medical profession say, you'd probably wouldn't want to be around most of them. Saying something insensitive doesn't make them bad at their job. One of the best surgeons I've ever met is the biggest jerk you can imagine. I'd still would let him operate on me if needed because I have the utmost trust in his skills in the OR and aftercare even though his bedside manner leaves much to be desired for.

[BubbleKitty]

Hi there!

 

I'm a little with kids, my daughter is 2 my son is 7.

First of all, being a mother/father does NOT mean you have to grow up! Sure, you have to be an adult sometimes, but you get to play with your kids too! I'm not gonna tell you it's all easy going and life's grand and I never have hard days. I have days where I wanna run away. I absolutely love my children, but life is hard and sometimes I just wanna be little and at that moment they need their mommy. They come first, always.

 

I use a paci sometimes :3 it's not Anne all end all for me, so I am okay just using it once they go to bed. You have to determine what all you want.

 

I love lists, so I suggest a pros and cons list.

 

 

I'm a little and i have kids too! They are 8 and 10 and I'm pregnant due in April. I agree it doesn't mean you have to grow up or stop being a little. You just have to find your balance. My kids have seen me with my paci, I just explain it helps mommies anxiety so she doesn't smoke. They are okay with that since they both hated when I smoked. They like when i color with them or do crafts with them and play with toys etc. most of the time I can avoid being the disciplinarian and let Daddy take care of that but I also don't want them to see him as the only bad guy so sometimes I will do it too. I have sippy cups and use kids plates all the time too. If it's how you are it's how you are and they won't know it's weird or anything else. 

 

I guess I was just raised differently. I was raised in a strong Asian culture and the way it is is, as soon as you have kids, you need to put away all the things that resemble children and give become an adult instantly. Seeing parents play with their kids and have a child like self is really strange for me. I admire them as well as wonder how they do it.

[MilkyUsagi]

Giving birth is gross? AND you're a nurse?! This comment made me sad and offended me just a bit. Thank goodness your mother didn't feel this way, too!

 

This thread is why I have struggled to stay connected on this site. I didn't want to have kids, either, in my twenties. I thought it wasn't for me. Now I have one biological son in college, an adopted daughter and two beautiful step children. AND I AM STILL LITTLE!!! It isn't hard. 

 

If you don't want to be judged for not wanting children--WHICH IS A PERFECTLY GOOD CHOICE--then please consider being sensitive and kind to all of the mothers out there working SO hard to raise good human beings. 

 

I strive to be kind and considerate to ALL, and this thread really made my heart hurt a little.

 

hey hey calm down I didn't mean to offend anyone, I don't mean a mother is gross when giving birth , I used the wrong term since I'm Italian and I'm not very good at using all the right words so, I have a phobia of births like another may have a phobia about mices wich I love but I don't blame them from considering them scary. I'm always grateful to my mom that the doctor had to cut her because I was in the wrong position during the natural birth (yes he had to cut her princess sides u know to let me out) and that story scared me so much . I don't know why, but I'm terrifyed and I envy those wimen who are not afraid of that

[Baby..Princess]

I don't ever want to have kids, I'm sterilized by choice last year. It wasn't painful in any way.

Maybe I'm selfish, but I don't want a kid to come between me and my Daddy. I want our love only to be about the two of us.

[Guest Bunny princess tiia]

I also don't want kids and also have phobia abouth children birth. Maybe becaus ei was forced to watch a child birth when I was young. (It was at school in a movie).

But boyfriend really wants many kids. So we will see. I don't think I will be able to do it more than one time. And I would like adaption, but boyfriend doesn't like it. 

I'm also scared I will not be able to be little, specially since boyfriend don't want to be Daddy and then having kids maybe I don't know.

I'm not really answearing your question. But I'm happy to read about so many wonderful mothers who have children, giving birth and still can be little<3

[Guest buddhagirl]

I don't ever want to have kids, I'm sterilized by choice last year. It wasn't painful in any way.

Maybe I'm selfish, but I don't want a kid to come between me and my Daddy. I want our love only to be about the two of us.

You're not selfish to choose to be child-free! Only people who really, really want to be parents should be because it is very hard. Fulfilling if you want children, but HARD!

[Baby..Princess]

You're not selfish to choose to be child-free! Only people who really, really want to be parents should be because it is very hard. Fulfilling if you want children, but HARD!

Thank you so much.

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there !

 

I would like to start off by saying , I don't think saying something as excruciating and obviously graphic as childbirth is gross should be considered "immature" or rude. This site is Dd/lg and someone could be in their little space while writing this , let alone the fact that it is just plain old gross to some people. (And I see mentioned above a language barrier?) Other than that I don't think that measures someone ability to react in an emergency situation which is their job for expressing their opinion on something. I , too find childbirth to be horrific and gross. Does this mean I value childbirth any less ? Of course not. Anyone would be grateful for their life (I would assume so anyways). I always give props to mothers for their strength and willingness to no longer care for only themselves. 

 

Motherhood is a gift and should be taken very seriously. It is a little tiny human that you bring into the world , some women bring children into the world with no idea how they will pay for it or take care of it. Some crack under pressure and unstable environments are created where other women simply just don't give a damn what happens. Then there are the women I admire so much , who truly do give a piece of their life to care for the tiny human and give it love and care until the day they die. Like many posted above , they are capable of having children and leading a happy life including their Dd/lg lifestyles ! It's not impossible if you do ever change your mind.

 

I personally , do not ever want kids. I never have , I never imagined a fairy-tale wedding and having a couple of kids , sending them off to college. Ever since I was a child I wanted freedom and to be selfish. Traveling at the drop of a hat and not having to worry about another human life , to be able to be a full time little with no other responsibilities. Does this make me a bad person ? To some I'm sure it does , but to myself I see it as something that should be viewed as honest.. as well as a caring act on my own end as well. I can donate my eggs to other woman who would appreciate the gift of motherhood instead , I won't be having a child I never truly wanted and end up resenting it , I wouldn't be putting myself into a situation where I have no plan or idea what I would do. May I change my mind in the future ? Who knows , maybe or maybe not. I would certainly think not since I have felt this way since I was a child... But I do what is best for myself and for whatever child I might've had and not wanted. It is better to not have a child if you are absolutely sure you do not want one for the time being. It should be a choice you are fully sure of for a long period of time. 

 

 

I hope this helps !