Being A Little Without A Daddy Dom

[Little_Lyda]

I haven't been little in a while, because I didn't have a Daddy. However, the Big Sad kinda knocked me back into it and I found myself needing to be little more and more. I found the easiest things to do would be to take some innocuous colorings to work (or a doodle book) and then to keep a strict nightly routine that followed rules which a Daddy might give me. Cuddles with a stuffie is definitely on the agenda and lullabies. 

[princess_mermaid]

I usually feel little when my Daddy is away and I am lonely. My Daddy is ghosting on me for some time already so I am not sure if we're still together

Littleness comes to me with loneliness. I try to make myself calm with my pusheen mermaid stuffie and with coloring. 

Also reading DDLG content or visiting here makes me feel safe, like I am not that alone.

[Kkrocker]

I had an awful one for almost 2 years, broke it off last year

[fushidarananeko]

I am a little without a caregiver.

I do miss having someone to take care of me,

but I have found that having other little friends to share with is even better.

I do have a couple caregiver friends and I show my love for them by giving them colourings,

but they do not take care of me. 

[Bubbles_and_Feathers]

I haven't had a Daddy for about 4 years and it is very lonely but I have found when I go into little space it helps to have an imaginary "friend" to help me through it. Is it weird probably, but that is what helps me.

I have a few imaginary friends too! One of them is a Big mommy figure and helps me feel safe and comfy when I'm little and scared

[Lambchop]

If I'm caught up in my tasks, I'll set aside a day a week to let myself be little. I have my toys out and a cartoon on and some comfort snacks, like kid cereal and candy. I let myself play with my toys, make as much noise with them as I want, laugh at whatever I want when watching a cartoon, and just let myself enjoy things in general.

This needs to happen far more frequently!  I had a little day this past weekend and the follow day I had such a more clear perspective that I was able to solve a problem on a project that I'd been working on for over a week

 

Totally ended up off schedule and missed the morning walk but took an extra nap.

[Minxy]

As a little without a Daddy,Mommy/Caregiver, 

I am my own caregiver. I do things for myself. I am not good at keeping to the schedule I set for myself or the rules I set for myself but then again I don't have someone to push me in the right direction when I fall off the path a bit. I don't beat myself up over it though. I also tend to try to give myself punishments ones that I know (that any other person wouldn't know right away) won't cause more harm then good. For instance I won't take away gaming because that is my safety net and escape, I need it. But what I might do is say ok you can play until such and such like a time or until something is complete. It is a struggle. My husband tries to support me in some ways but he is not really what I would say into the lifestyle. He enjoys aspects of it but is also not willing to learn. And if anything he would be a sub with very slight switch tendencies. I used to have an online daddy but he got deployed and 2 weeks later ended it because he couldn't be there for me like he wanted. 

 

I do things as a little all the time. Heck I am even little around my own kids, they just think of me as getting down on their level and they love it, we color, play games, cuddle while watching movies, wrestle playfully. There are times I am an adult but a little at the same time which is hard to explain, it's like I have adult things I have to do but I am little doing them. 

[RavenHollow]

I have been my own caregiver for many years that is because I haven't been in a relationship with someone I can trust with my little. So I take care of myself. I do have imaginary "friends" who I let take care of me but I have to be careful because anything with me can become where it involves the supernatural real easily. So I have to be careful. Now I have found someone on tiktok that I talk to and he lets me call him Daddy. So when I find myself in little space and he is live I will go into his live and listen to his voice. It helps me relax to hear his voice.

[lunabearr]

I am a new little and have never had a true Daddy or Mommy dom/me! For me, I’ve been suppressing this side of myself for years but it’s always kind of been there, even in my last, vanilla relationship. I usually slip into little space more so at night, as I feel the most vulnerable then emotionally and mentally after being Big all day. I like to cuddle my stuffies, and put on my favorite movies when I’m feeling particularly small. The most important thing for me is to make sure I feel emotionally safe in this space, even alone. It can be very difficult sometimes, especially with my mental health issues, but thankfully.. it’s not impossible. And I recently discovered a close friend of mine is also a little, so we have also developed a bit of a sibling bond to help ourselves cope ♡

 

I will say that being a single little is also difficult in the aspect of not feeling loved, and learning to love myself and know I’m deserving of it. Remembering that self care is important, and setting simple tasks (even things such as drinking water, making my favorite tea every morning, eating, etc.) helps. I’m also learning Japanese again, and I’m grateful that Duolingo is very adamant about keeping up your daily streak.. so that’s motivating at least!

 

And lastly, I do reward myself. I tend to go overboard sometimes, but I’ve gotten a lot better about it when it comes to the spending aspect of it. I’m learning that not all rewards have to monetary - and that’s perfectly, 100% okay.

 

Being a little without a Daddy or Mommy is hard, but it’s not impossible ♡ everyone here is absolutely valid. I see you. And you’re not alone ♡ We’ll all find our special someone’s someday.