Is it just me or has Tumblr been really gross lately?

[Guest PrincessKittyDragon]

Today I was wanting to go into little space, I didn't feel the best today so I thought it might help. So I search up "kidcore" on Tumblr, because some of the pictures on google images made me feel happy. Welp what I find is many posts saying "not to interact if you are dd/lg, cg/l, little space" and all this other garbage. As I've posted in another post I'm very sensitive about my little space, so I began to have a panic attack and feel shame for who I am. My fiance helped cheer me up a little but its still been bothering me. I also looked up how to make stim toys, and the blog who had a master post of tutorials had the same "don't interact with me" stuff.

 

For the record, I'm a non sexual little, my little space doesn't really go into my sexual life. the most is still calling my fiance Onii-chan, but that's just a nickname because it feels odd to call a S/O by their real name. It makes me wonder if I should stop being a little, but I don't think I could because I never "Started" being a little, I just kinda, was always like this

 

If anyone knows of any good SFW blogs that post kidcore, pastel or any other cutesy stuff let me know, I need more positivity in my life, and searching up little space on tumblr just isn't really the same

[fluffiepinkiecutie]

Aww sweetie! I agree with you. I use tumblr a lot and months ago I've noticed this attitude. And yeah, it hurt me too. I don't know why we shouldn't interact. We are not ol' perverted pedos, but persons with real feelings that have choose the relationship they want. And they? They are just small-minded people who can't understand.

[lonelyprincess-chan]

I fullheartedly agree. I've been noticing it more and more, posts of people openly shaming those in our community. I've been actually feeling the same, just really sad and rather.. "dirty" for being this way if it makes any sense. I just wish that they would rather listen and understand that we aren't some sick perverts fetishizing childrens stuff, and a lot of littles are CSA survivors as well, and they are being hurt in the process as well /: Meh. but that's tumblr for ya, huh?

[Guest PrincessKittyDragon]

You'd think for a website that gets upset at the smallest of things they wouldn't be so freaking harsh to us. I'm a CSA survivor, I use age regression to cope with you know, lack of childhood. Also why do people think dd/lg equals pedophilia? Personally I don't like children, funny enough, they make me nervous. It could have something to do with the fact that my "abuser" if you could call them that was my age at the time. Honestly I don't blame her, she was a child and must have been abused to know stuff about sexual things like that. And my fiance doesn't like kids either lmao. So that part doesn't make sense. O H and gotta love how they think we are sexualizing "kids" stuff. I didn't know coloring and sucking a paci is sexualizing it excuse me. Maybe they are pedophiles since THEY are making it sexual

 

Lmao sorry for ranting. You can call me Mr Krabs, because I'm super crabby right now

[Baby Neko]

I personally think that the reason some tumblr users don't like ddlg is BECAUSE they get upset over small things, the attitude of some (mostly younger) users seems to be that if they are offended by something then everyone else has to stop liking it. There's always a new thing to rally against, then everyone just sort of jumps on the bandwagon. Sadly anti-ddlg is just the new cause to fight for, try not to take it personally, we know what they say is not true. People need to live and let live >

 

 

On a happy note here are some blogs you might like:

 

Non-sexual:

http://non-sexual-cgl.tumblr.com/

http://rainbow-colored-milk.tumblr.com/

 

Some NSFW (possibly triggering):

https://thecglblog.tumblr.com/   

http://chiisai-faerie.tumblr.com/

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

I've realized tumblr has gotten increasingly just.. disgusting and toxic, the people

I mean. They are VERY quick to criticize anything they don't agree with and

gang up on you, chase you around, and abuse you. I've gotten to the point where

I really can't visit that site without having really shitty feelings due to all the stuff

that has happened to me on there, so I just stay away. I've seen a blog that was

anti ddlg/cgl that was run by 14 year old boy. I can say I feel as if almost ALL

of those people running the blogs know nothing, are extremely toxic and uncaring

of the people who see their content - tags or no - generally, tumblr is a toxic place

and it always will be for me. Being told to kill yourself because of your completely

consensual way of life is awful, being called disgusting, mentally ill, compared

to pedophiles..

 

And about sexualizing kid stuff..they make coloring books for adults these days,

people even in vanilla relationships have stuffies, adults still play games, watch

cartoons, give their S/Os nicknames, and they have adult chewy.. mouth things

or whatever they're called lol, for ADULTS. just because littles use them doesn't

mean it's at all sexualized and honestly I hate tumblr so much for doing what they

are, lol. They pull me right out of littlespace and make me feel awful about myself,

which is super suckie because I don't have anyone to talk to about it besides my

Daddy and he's not accepting at all of tumblr's cgl views but he's generally a

very chill person and I agree everyone is entitled to their own opinions.. I just

wish it wasn't so accepted to be entitled to ignorant opinions. 

 

And I guess it doesn't help that searching ddlg without a filter instantly brings up

98% sex stuff ( with search nothing comes up ), so it's super easy for everyone

to associate it a lot heavier with sex and pedophilia without a full understanding

of it's more than just sex with this dynamic, so much more than just sex. i just 

stay away, I can't handle it, which also makes me feel bad. 

 

they don't care who they hurt with their words and posts and I honestly think

it's so, so sad to dedicate all that time to making an anti cgl blog when you

could be out doing something more productive with their time, like volunteering,

picking up a new hobby, or actually educating their stupid little faces about our

way of life. 

 

the saltine queen has spoken.

Edited January 10, 2017 by ✨Tiny Squish✨

[Guest littlevulcangirl]

I was really surprised by this. I've been active in other tumblr communities and I decided to close that blog and start again in the little community, but I found all these politics. I've not really followed many cuz they all say no kink and stuff. I think it's fair enough if someone might get triggered, but there's also a lot of 'opinion' that we are bad people for being into kink/bdsm or whatever.

 

I think a friend of mine who is questioning little, has fallen out with me. She wanted to hear about me finding my little side. Because I mentioned I'm into the MDlg side of it also, I went past a boundary and she was telling me she didn't wanna hear about it, but I was just saying what side of the 'divide' I'm on (both), just to be polite really. Anyway she was kinda shouting at me for telling her.

[Antoinette]

Something I have came to accept is that not everybody will accept me. A lot of people just simple don't like DD/lg or think that's it's morally wrong. As long as those people aren't screaming ''PEDO!'' and ''RAPIST!'' Generally I can ignore them and be like ''Oh, well okay they think DD/lg is gross... I think tomatoes are gross, maybe they like tomatoes - no point being upset over tomatoes!'' 

 

In my opinion though, Tumblr is toxic. It's filled with hormonal, opinionated teenagers who haven't the slightest idea what they're talking about most of the time and very minimal life experience (no offence to anybody who may use Tumblr, I am very widely generalising here). People on Tumblr are generally (and quite ironically) the crybabies who will literally scream and stomp their feet if something that they don't like comes into their field of view. Of course, it's not surprising when these obviously intelligent beings use the cop-out ''pedophile'' or ''rapist'' 'arguments' to try to desperately get people to believe that DD/lg is bad.

 

The way I deal with this is to honestly just ignore it. I understand to an extent why people wouldn't want DD/lg people on their blog or whatever if they genuinely just are not into DD/lg and have no interest in it. For example: a Trump supporter runs a pro-Trump page and states that he doesn't want pro-Hillary people on his page, merely to avoid conflict (unbelievable, I know but just... Roll with me here) - that's fine, that's reasonable and I understand. But, if that pro-Trump page then goes on to say ''Hillary's a pedo! Hillary's a rapist!'' then yea... Pro-Hillary people have right to be upset and say something, if the pro-Trump page aren't saying any of that though and the pro-Hillary's go onto Trump's page like ''OMG! YOU'RE NOT ALLOWING US ONTO YOUR PAGE?! RUDE! INTOLERANT! DISRESPECTFUL! AHHH'' (see where I'm going with this?) what I'm trying to say is to get a little respect give a little, ya know. 

[Guest PrincessKittyDragon]

Mmm y'all are all making really great points!!

I think a big problem is the people who don't really know what dd/lg is, you know the edgy teenagers that just call their S/O "daddy" and like sex so they think they are dd/lg? It really sucks because people now think little space is sexual,

 

And I find it funny how people that are kidcore, chiRE (I think is what its called?) and all those other ones has a LOT in common with the SFW side of dd/lg. 

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

 

In my opinion though, Tumblr is toxic. It's filled with hormonal, opinionated teenagers who haven't the slightest idea what they're talking about most of the time and very minimal life experience.

this so hard it's fijadghfa. i would've liked to mention it but I didn't want to have to

deal with people attacking me for having that type of opinion ( i've seen it happen

way too often even here and it's meh. ) when i think about the fact that a bunch of

preteens and teenagers with very little experience in life, it's easier to brush it off

and maybe even chuckle over it. but i think we sort of live in a day and age where

it's kind of just expected - more so from tumblr. 

 

i'm glad you said something and i agree. though, at the end of the day i wish respect

meant a little more on that website

 

anyways, to adresss that last bit you said, you're right in saying ( assuming i got this

right ) that it doesn't help when people run at the blogs who don't want ddlg on their

blogs, see it, or be followed by those people and complain, attack, etc - which I've 

also seen before.

 

at the end of the day, i don't think tumblr is a very good place for.. much of anything

besides cute cat pics. feels like tumblr is helping shape some of these kids and 

teenagers into.. well, rather not get into it but it's not good.

[Mrbeardman]

Honestly I always assumed when someone attacked the life style they did so because ddlg has the Most Unfortunately Named Lifestyle Ever. 

 

be honest if you didn't know anything about ddlg and you saw "Daddy Dom/Little Girl" blogs with the sexualized content you might jump to the same conclusion. 

 

Yes this is a lifestyle for consenting adults, but it doesn't help that half the life style title is "Little Girl" which is what most uninformed are going to latch onto right after they find out that ddlg is part of the BDSM community, which is highly sexualized regardless of whether or not you personally sexualize it, and then they see posts about kiddy toys and stuffys and punishing bad girls in a sexual manor and flip out.

 

Does it justify the instant hate no

but I cant say I'm not surprised some people will assume that an adult calling themselves a Daddy looking for a Little Girl to have a relationship with is a pervert first before asking questions

[Vlad ziva's Owner]

Maybe I'm completely wrong, but their warning didn't say not to participate if you are a little or into DD/lg. It looks to me like they just don't want you to use any DD/lg tags while participating. Their reasoning makes sense. They don't want predators being able to easily find that page and prey on littles. It's a lot harder for predators to find that page if there aren't DD/lg or CG/l or BDSM tags in it.

Edited January 11, 2017 by Vlad ziva's Owner

[Guest SoloFairy]

I'm pretty active on tumblr and while i have seen a couple of anti DDlg posts none were directed at me. I follow a ton of BDSM and DDlg blogs and have never had anoyone attempt to personally attack me thankfully. I can imagine how awful that'd feel.

However i cant fault some one for havi g that opinion of DDlg and in the grand scheme of things their opinion has no effect on my relationship with Daddy.

I once held very similar beliefs in regards to DDlg because, quite frankly, it is hard to look past the dynamic name.

When i come across ANY minor tumblr i immediately block them (i dont allow minors on my blog) and i also block anti DDlg tumblrs as well.

I also follow kink positive tumblrs that don't allow kink shaming.

 

Happy tumbling!

[PeachyPantsu]

I actually had to make a new blog because I had an SFW little blog and I was being told very very harsh things. Remembering it even makes a lump form in my throat. 

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

Kidcore or Kidwave is kinda well, I'm going to say stupid. Along with the rest of people. See everything can't get past the "Kink" that DD/LG "is". Stupid people don't realize that CG/L is sooo much more than just a kink. We are even always fighting in our own community among ourselves about this issue. Because of the ties CG/L has to BDSM some people are always going to think that everyone involved are sexual deviants and thanks to places like Tumblr and Fetlife where Porn rules as king the mass of the populous will always have this view of us. Which is sad, because their are so many of us Littles that in actuality don't want anything to do with sex when feeling Little. Kidcore is Little, their are just too stupid or even too scared to make the contention. And honestly, can we blame them? I mean, it is really hard to come across a "DD/LG" blog or site that isn't swamped in porn!

 

Don't let them hate on you just because you call yourself a Little or DD/LG. I say don't let them push you around or scare you. You haven't done anything wrong. You're not over flowed with porn right? Forget them, you haven't done anything to hurt or upset anyone. So don't let their stupidity upset you