Daddy doesn't want to be daddy

[babbymeggg]

hi >.< i'm a little and i'm scared that daddy doesn't want to be daddy anymore.. lately he's been distant and i can tell he's getting a bit annoyed when i go into little space and/or ever call him daddy. i feel like i've been annoying him lately and i think he's giving up, him and i have a very strong relationship and have been through a lot.. he's changed lately, he seems like he doesn't want to give me all of the attention i don't know what to do and i need help. whenever i try and talk to daddy about this stuff he gets irritated and brushes it off and tells me i'm being immature. also, i keep having nightmares about losing daddy i don't want to lose him, i love him. he hasn't been keeping up with our bedtime routine either lately and i haven't been getting spankings when i break the rules. he's been too busy for be and i just feel lost. idk if i just needed to vent or can anybody give me advice about this? im scared

[madhattersangel]

Have you tried sitting down and having a 100% serious conversation with him as an adult and not a little? Because if this is really affecting you, he should definitely pay attention and have a discussion with you. It might be that you two need to go your separate ways, but him basically stopping being a daddy without talking to you isn't right. Maybe he just needs a temporary break from being a daddy though? It could just be that work/family/friends/etc is just too much for him, and now he needs you to be there for him. But you won't know for sure what's wrong or what to do until you make him talk about this with you.

[Guest FatherKnowsBest]

Communication is key, Sweetheart.

 

Let Daddy know how you feel, but do it in a way he'll immediately identify with.  Approach him to discuss it the way HE NEEDS it to be.  Not the the YOU WANT it to be.  Wear your big girl clothes and make him understand how important it is as an adult.

 

That may mean stepping out of Little space for a while so the two of you can assess and re-center those parameters within your relationship.  Find out what it is that bothering him.  DADDY NEEDS TO USE HIS WORDS  This can be difficult for us (Daddies).  We get too use to things being a certain way... as in... the routine can drag us down.  Introduce ideas about new routines.  If need be... increase your Little age a few years to adjust.  I know that can be a HUGE adjustment, for YOU... but something like that comes down to asking: "How far am I willing to go to keep him?"

 

THIS IS THE PART THAT WILL HURT:

 

At the end of the day, the DD/LG is the fantasy aspect of the relationship.  He may need a break from that.  Step out of Little space to remind him why he loves YOU... not Little you.  DD/LG time is fun with a purpose. But if it becomes THE purpose for only one of you, then the connection will be lost entirely.

My Little is no longer with us... but if she was, she would tell you the same thing.  Because it's how she saved us.