Getting husband on board

[Guest DaddysForeverPrincess]

I've been interested in the idea of ddlg for years, so I've been doing my own research and "finding myself" and my true young age (around 14).

 

My husband and I have always been quite vanilla but he has expressed that he wants to be a Dom (yay!)... sadly he is getting all his info from exaggerated Hollywood porn.. so not very helpful!

 

We spend an evening, a while ago, talking about our deepest darkest fantasies and I thought that was the perfect time to bring up mine... huge mistake! He was so freaked out! All he could think of was the incest side of things (rather than the dom-sub side). It was recently (yesterday) brought up again and he was very interested... we had a plan, everything was ready... then he got nervous and now can't talk about it!

 

Please tell me how I can move things along! It's not possible for me to go any slower, or give him anymore time...

 

We are so happily married, I would never consider finding another Daddy, but I'd hate to think that I'll spend the rest of my life (I'm 25 now) not exploring this side of me!

 

Thank you!

 

Edit...

I've been reading a lot of posts, which are incredible, but I'd like more information/advice about the sexual side of DDlg.

 

I'd like to tell you a bit about myself, if I may?

 

I'm a submissive, but a very naughty sub! I push boundaries, I rebel, I test my dom - in the hopes my dom will push back... I need discipline, I need a firm hand (I want it as much as I need it). I'm extremely spoiled but cry out for my dom(who happens to now be my husband) to punish me...

 

Will it ever happen? Am I so desperate for it to happen that nothing will live up to my fantasy?

Edited January 8, 2017 by WantMyDaddy

[Guest Dahuggybear]

I think that patience is key here. If this is something you really do want, then you just need to ease him into it. Maybe ask him if it would be alright to call him "Daddy" during sex. Then continue to make small steps towards it until you reach what ever version of this you are looking for. Also make sure you're communicating with him about what you need as well as being attentive to his needs. 

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

You said he freaked out because of the "incest side" of things. But that he wants to be a Dom. Well Daddy Dom is just a title, just like Dom. Many in CG/L call their Dom's something else besides Mommy or Daddy. Remind he, you don't have to call him Daddy at all to be involved.

 

Do you know everything you want and need from your relationship? You said you feel around 14? So probably no binkies, sippy cups or anything like that. Do you know what he wants or need in the relationship as Dom? You said you had everything planed out and ready to go before he got nervous and stopped everything. What made him so nervous? Was it the title Daddy? Easy fit, you can call him whatever you both like and still be CG/L. Was it the thought of bottles and diapers? Every Little and Middle is different. 14 is more of a Middle than Little, and probably don't really have an interest in that side of things.

 

I wish I could help more, but I don't have much information to go on