To New Littles

[madhattersangel]

First of all, despite the title, I'm definitely a new little too. So I'm just gonna stick this here and maybe help someone else out. Basically just because it's out in resources already, but I think hearing from someone else makes it more real..

 

So I joined the forum a week ago, and I met a guy that I thought would be a good daddy. We talked and I liked him and I think he liked me. Short story is that it didn't work out because I definitely went waaaayyyyy too fast. Because I was just really excited at the idea of someone wanting me to be their little.

 

But the thing is, before you start searching for a daddy, you really need to know what you're looking, not just the daddy but the entire relationship.

 

Are you looking for someone just to be your daddy and take care of you when you're little? Or are you looking for someone that you'll be able to share every aspect of your life with?

 

Because that daddy was a good daddy, but DD/lg was all that we had in common. We would have made a terrible couple by vanilla standards. Since we got caught up in the DD/lg aspects, it was until the end when I realized that we had nothing else that we'd really be able to talk about. And even though we only talked for a week, since I'm always sort of in little space, I got ridiculously attached to him. So by the time adult me realized that it wasn't going to work, it was too late.

 

I just wanted to let any new littles here know that when people give you advice to take things slowly. Listen.

And, (paraphrased) advice given to me by Littlest_Lushie, don't just jump into little space when you're talking to a potential daddy. Wait and make sure that he's the right guy before you show him that part of you.

 

When it doesn't work out with a potential daddy, it does hurt.

 

So before you get attached, make sure you're both looking for the same thing, have common interests, and would work as a vanilla (non-DD/lg) couple.

[daddycare]

I think you've brought up some great points here, and although tough. Every relationship you will ever have, will help the next through what you learn from it.

 

I find ddlg to be a great starting point when talking to someone. Because you both know you have something in common. But make sure its not the only thing, the more you are alike, the more you will understand each other and have great discussions. And maybe be able to share experiences you both enjoy which furthers your bond.

 

Also never take things too fast, I know how tempting it can be to rush into something and feel loved. But its not love if your going that fast. Take the time to get to know each other, do some things together. And if you both like each other after that, then go ahead and make it a real relationship.

 

 

A lot of people will, when starting out do what you did. But we learn from our mistakes, and we become better people for them.