Scared To Tell Friends

[AnxiousLil]

I'm afraid to talk to my friends about myself being a little. I have a YouTube channel which really frightens me and I don't want to be bashed just because of my lifestyle choice. I don't feel like I can go into little space anymore because of it all. . . 

[lilsnoopy]

I admire you for having the courage to make a channel. I want to make one eventually but am not in the living situation to do so. Being able to express yourself is a wonderful thing. However if the youtube channel is hurting you emotionally.. like if it causes you enough stress to be unhappy or unhealthy then it might not be the right time for you to have a channel. I am not trying to say you shouldn't do anything, I just tried to make a helpful suggestion. It is your life and you should definitely choose how to live it and do what makes you happy ^.^ . That being said there might be other factors leading to you not being able to get into little space. 

 

I get scared too sometimes especially about my old southern family finding out. But as for friends and such they accept you and have befriended you for who you are (or at least they should have). Being a little is who you are so a true friend should accept that. If anyone finds out you are the same person you were before. I am not saying go announce it to the world but maybe be more confident in yourself as a little, there is nothing wrong with that. There with always be people who don't understand or respect dd/lg but this forum is a great place to start making friends who do! 

[sighing]

You don't have to tell them if it makes you feel uncomfortable. But if people do find out and condemn you for it, then at least you know who to cut out of your life. It will suck majorly but you must keep moving forward. There will be people who will accept you, and those are the ones you should be investing your time in.

[cuppycakes]

You probably have one friend you know is a great secret keeper, one you can trust. You can start there and just see how it goes. I also agree with lilsnoopy. If the youtube channel is making you anxious you should put your mental health first.

 

If you don't feel like you should tell your friends, then don't do it! There's no pressure if you really don't think it's a good idea right now. I haven't told anyone yet, but I'm planning on telling one really good friend. She's very open to hearing new things, and doesn't judge people. Maybe you have somebody like that, too.

[ChibiPuppy]

I've found that you won't really act much different with friends once you've told them about being little. Generally speaking I think we have this dynamic built up with our friends over the years that sticks, and even though they might know you're little that won't matter much because while around them chances are you'll likely just stick to the old routine between you and them anyway. Breaking free from your chains is generally a good thing, however, and telling them who you are and being open about your lifestyle is definitely something I'd recommend.

Think about it this way; if they don't accept you for who you truly are, then are they really a friend you want to keep close contact with? Losing friends can be scary, but sometimes we need to make adjustments in life and sort out the bad seeds from the good ones for us to grow into a healthy human being.

There is another aspect to this too. A lot of the fear regarding openness and alternative lifestyles usually stems in the fact that we are hiding it to begin with. Once you break free of the shell and start telling people, you'll soon find that it's easier to deal with the rejection because you're so much more relieved that you're not living a hidden life anymore. And like I said, it'll be scary. Real scary. But if you never actually gather the courage to take that first step you'll keep yourself scared and out of the sunlight, not allowing yourself to bloom into the wonderful person that I am sure you are. Be proud of who you are, because there is only one you and you're a unique and amazing person. That's nothing to be ashamed of, and if there is anyone who questions that, they are not for you.

With all that said I'd like to point out that sometimes you still need to keep it on the downlow. Telling friends and close family is one thing, but grandparents, uncles or teachers might be a bad idea sometimes. Feel them out. But when it comes to friends, especially close ones, they'll understand. And even if they don't, if they love you and care for you they'll accept what you're saying and won't make you feel bad about it (at least not intentionally).

Be brave! I believe in you. Allow yourself to shine brightly! ♥

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hi there :3

 

So I'm kind of a private person, personally. I truthfully have only one friend. She knows my Daddy and I have messed with Dom/sub, but believes it's strictly in the bedroom. She desperately wants a Dom/sub relationship and is happy my Daddy and I have experimented, however we do not talk about this side of us.

 

Personally, I have no plans of ever telling anyone about my Daddy and my dynamic. We want friends who are actively involved in the lifestyle that we can be is around, but they wouldn't be friends we currently have. My bestest and only friend would never ever judge me, but I don't want her knowing this very personal part of me. She knows all my secrets, but this one is between my Daddy and me. For me, she has no reason to know. Even if she were okay with it (which she absolutely would be) her husband would need to be as well (which he absolutely wouldn't as it makes him very uncomfortable), and we would be around her kids any time we hang out and since I don't think children need exposed to this, I don't even bring it out in front of my own children.

 

Just my opinion though, take it how you will.

[princessaurus]

I had a friend that likes pet play, so telling hims was easy. Once I had told him I kinda just told my other friends all at once, they asked a buncha questions but most of them accepted me. There were a couple that didn't like it but still respect my ability to be my own person.

[Spoiledprincess13]

You probably have one friend you know is a great secret keeper, one you can trust. You can start there and just see how it goes. I also agree with lilsnoopy. If the youtube channel is making you anxious you should put your mental health first.

 

If you don't feel like you should tell your friends, then don't do it! There's no pressure if you really don't think it's a good idea right now. I haven't told anyone yet, but I'm planning on telling one really good friend. She's very open to hearing new things, and doesn't judge people. Maybe you have somebody like that, too.

honestly I don't think she should even tell her most trust worthy friend. They could get into an argument and that might be the first thing she tells everyone

[cuppycakes]

honestly I don't think she should even tell her most trust worthy friend. They could get into an argument and that might be the first thing she tells everyone

If they think they really should tell their friends about it, then I think a trustworthy friend would be the best place to start. I'm not saying it's a good or a bad idea to tell people about being little (because a lot of people have had great results and a lot of people have had horrible results).

 

That's also why I put an emphasis on them being trustworthy. I don't consider someone trustworthy if they would do something as awful as telling people a secret - even if they do get into a fight.

[Guest lilglitterprincess]

It was kinda easy for me to tell my friends about it because all of as are into bdsm stuff

 

But I didn't knew anyone that was little and I was kinda afraid that it would be too much for them

 

Turns out that three of my friends are littles too and they didn't told anyone so now it's pretty amazing

 

Maybe you will get something like that

 

I advice you to start with friends that you trust more and go from there :3

Edited January 15, 2017 by lilglitterprincess

[Child Of Light]

I'm a very private person. My regressing, or even needing a caregiver to help with my goals -- isn't something I'll tell friends or family. It's a very intimate act. For example, if you told your friends family etc and where signal than you started dating -- they would assume your partner was into those roles or ask if he fills those. It for me, would be a breach of trust with my partner knowing people already know about our intimate relationship.

[TeddybearCandyfloss]

I was you just 2 months ago. I've recently told my closest friend and a fellow kinkster. I recommend starting with a friend you've known for a very long time, they're more likely to accept you. If you really don't think they will then I would try coming out to an internet friend, maybe someone who doesn't know much of your information. That might relieve some of your stress. Don't feel pressured to tell anyone, though, these kinds of things can just as easily be kept between you and a partner.