Popular Post MellyBoo19912015 Posted January 4, 2017 Popular Post Report Posted January 4, 2017 Well hi there everyone. Let me introduce myself to those of you who won't know me. I'm Melly and I'm an admin here and one of the resident bad asses. I'm writing today because I'm noticing a worrying trend. I'm seeing a lot of people boasting about knowing the one true way. Let me tell you right now, there is no true way. It does not exist. The wonders about life and BDSM and CG/l or whatever you call it is that we can make it whatever we want in our relationships. We can chose and chop and adapt it to fit us. I don't care if as part of your relationship rituals you rub you partners cock three times and play the Hokey Cokey before bed. What I care about here is that your over the age of 18, if you have a partner they are over 18, you follow the rules, you be yourself and that your Safe, Sane and Consensual. SSC is the only part of all BDSM practises I expect everyone to follow. Your all great, amazing people and don't let others restrict who you are. Know here we accept everyone and you will be respected. This is meant to be a safe haven for people in this lifestyle and will continue to be so. 87 3 1 5 4 1
Guest littlevulcangirl Posted January 4, 2017 Report Posted January 4, 2017 I'm so glad to read this 1
Guest Posted January 4, 2017 Report Posted January 4, 2017 Bless this post. I was so sick of the back and forth. 2
Bam Bam Posted January 4, 2017 Report Posted January 4, 2017 Thank you... But it's still not going to stop some people believing their way is the true way... 1
Guest Posted January 4, 2017 Report Posted January 4, 2017 Thank you... But it's still not going to stop some people believing their way is the true way...I was thinking the same thing >:/ 2
Guest littlevulcangirl Posted January 4, 2017 Report Posted January 4, 2017 Honestly it's incredible "the one true way" exists in most subcultures. I've seen so much of it regarding trans people, gay people, disabilities etc. Whatever community you're in you really need to stfu about it, it can be incredibly damaging and alienates people. 2
Mr. Grinch Posted January 4, 2017 Report Posted January 4, 2017 resident bad asses. Reported for lying!! Haha all kidding aside Melly is wonderful and posted a well thought out post! Thanks for all you do! 1
Becky Binkie Posted January 5, 2017 Report Posted January 5, 2017 I respect this post and I'm glad to see it - thank you. 1
Johnny Hammersticks Posted January 5, 2017 Report Posted January 5, 2017 DDLG is a deeply beautiful and unique dynamic that deserves its own identity. This community is a great place to help people define that identity for themselves. 3
phi Posted January 13, 2017 Report Posted January 13, 2017 This made me very happy to read...i used to lurk on this site a lot and felt like i never adhered to the 'true' little standards (therefore never joined until recently), and finally i just figured hey screw it, there isn't a right or wrong way to go about it, as long as both parties are down. Anyways, thanks again for making this post, it was much needed! 2
Guest Appacheian Posted January 21, 2017 Report Posted January 21, 2017 Probably when somebody finds themselves so wonderfully happy then they do believe that their way is the true way. What they have found is their true way, just as we all seek our own. 1
Littl3_twix Posted January 30, 2017 Report Posted January 30, 2017 i love this and i am glad to have read this . this is so true i can most deffiniity agrre there is no one true way as long as you are safe
BigCityLittleGirl Posted February 22, 2017 Report Posted February 22, 2017 Oh absolutely! You can't take control of someone without their full consent. Being of age is a must. Without proper consent you're just manipulating a weak minded person in my opinion 1
Eraser70 Posted March 2, 2017 Report Posted March 2, 2017 True, there is no one way, but we do favor the one that works for us. So, what's wrong with stating my position AS MY postion? I know it is my subjective joy. It may work for nobody outside of my ddlg relationship. But it's ours.
Daddy'sDarling Posted March 18, 2017 Report Posted March 18, 2017 (edited) This was really nice to see when joining the community today and exploring. There are so many questions I have and this makes me much less hesitant to ask them Edited March 18, 2017 by Daddy'sDarling 3
yungK1LL Posted April 10, 2017 Report Posted April 10, 2017 It's kind of a relief reading this post, thank you. I have been stressing lately and overthinking everything.
PrincessoftheMoon Posted April 19, 2017 Report Posted April 19, 2017 Thank you for this. This is all so new to me still but your post made me feel a lot more comfortable and a lot less nervous.
Fox&Bunny Posted April 26, 2017 Report Posted April 26, 2017 Thank you for this post! I really needed this
Guest Kali Posted May 30, 2017 Report Posted May 30, 2017 Isn't the insistence that there is no true way, a way? *listens to the collective groans from around the room* - seriously though folks - there is no true way... I only wish the major world religions would take note. 1
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