Need Advice about a Babysitter

[UMbabygirl]

I am in a LDR Poly relationship with my Mommy and Daddy with the intentions of moving in with them in May. Daddy works a lot so most (not all) of my dynamic is with Mommy. Mommy goes in for surgery tomorrow morning so She has appointed a friend/mentor of Hers in the lifestyle to be my babysitter while she is away recovering. I have met and interacted with the babysitter before.

 

The problem I am having is with the Babysitter. I know Mommy has my best interests at hand but the babysitter and I do not get along. The Babysitter is rude, disrespectful and has an attitude thinking she is self entitled. She, on numerous occasions, has belittled me and treats me like I am stupid or dumb, which I am not. Is it wrong of me to challange the authority of my Mommy to not have a sitter?

[Guest Daddy F]

Well, you may be a little but ultimately you're an adult with the right to make your own decisions.

 

If you're being told you HAVE to be around someone who belittles you then you might want to consider simply ignoring that and not being around this woman or maybe even reconsider being involved with someone who would put you in that situation.

[Sleepless]

I don't think there is anything wrong with voicing your concerns to your mommy. Don't think of it as challenging her authority, think of it as you telling your mommy how you feel and explaining why you're not comfortable with the situation. If she insists on the babysitter even after hearing how you feel, I would consider bringing your safeword into the conversation so she knows that you're seriously uncomfortable about it.

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

As Daddy F says, it's not like you actually need a babysitter as you're a fully capable adult.  It's possible your mommy gave you a babysitter because she thought it'd make you happy to keep you involved in the lifestyle, and that she just misjudged your characters.  Just speak to her as an adult and not as her little and I'm sure she'll be happy to let you handle yourself until she's well again.

[fluffiepinkiecutie]

No, it isn't wrong. It isn't wrong at all. Yes, she is your Mommy and everything, but if things doesn't work out well for you and you feel uncomfortable, then you should express yourself and talk with your Mommy for fix this.

You should not be forced into doing things you don't like, in and out the bedroom. And I'm sure that your Mommy doesn't want you to feel this way. Probably she will be even sorry! ^^

[Princess-P]

Just tell your mommy you don't like that person. Just because someone is given the title of caregiver doesn't mean they should be blindly obeyed. If your uncomfortable the final say is yours.

[UMbabygirl]

UPDATE:

 

Thank you all for the input.i expressed my concerns with Mommy. She still insited that I was to be under the care of the Babysitter while she was away. Because she is so close with the Babysitter and the Babysitter has much experience in the lifestyle, Mommy wanted me to use this as an opportunity to try and build a bond with her and to learn from her. I am trying to make the best of it and respect Mommy's wishes. Things haven't been all bad. Actually better than expected. Still don't entirely like the Babysitter but she is growing on me. Baby steps, right? Lol Thank you all again for your advice and information.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

It does bother me slightly that if you indeed were completely open with your Mommy about your lack of an interest in a babysitter, especially this one, that she was inisitent. I am glad to know things are going well, but please remember just because you are a little doesn't mean your ability to consent is completely lost.