Disorders and how they effect ddlg relationships.

[shadowkitten]

Hello,

 

I don't want to come across offensive but who has disorders? I know I have disorders. I have an eating disorder and severe depression and anxiety. But how do they effect a ddlg relationship. I haven't been in a long term relationship since it became a real problem; vanilla or otherwise. I am just not sure how to go about it. I figured I would ask and get other input.

[Guest Ginger]

Ahh, I've got depression and anxiety. I take meds for both.

My ex (first ddlg relationship) was livid that I took meds and went to therapy. He thought he should have been all I needed to be happy. The anxiety just... Seriously pissed him off. Needless to say that ended on less than pleasant terms.

 

My current boyfriend though is extremely supportive. He asks how therapy went and sometimes reminds me to take my meds if I forget. He understands I need time alone sometimes and others I just wanna curl up with him and watch a movie.

 

All in all, I'd say it depends on your partner. My current relationship is hardly effected save a few things and we work around them easily as needed.

[Guest littlevulcangirl]

I have at least one PD, as well as other stuff. It's definitely affected previous relationships but my PD causes me to be quite high maintenance despite my best efforts to tone it down. So I worry about how future partners will react to that, especially a mommy.

[Guest Bl1tzW1ng]

Shadow you should personal message me I have a lot of experiense in the from the Dom side of it.   My last little had anxiety as well as a couple othere things.   zombie herself (current little)  has ptsd, anxiety, as well as some more that i'd rather talk about in a private chat as not to put her personal life out there...

 

I think it takes a special type of person to help another with their disorders..   But it's also just as stressful for the cg as it is for the little there needs to be a meeting ground for the conversation to be open and for each person to express their concerns with what is going on......  I know my first little was on and off again with therapy and her meds kept switching which just made things a lot harder.  There was no consitancy with it all and she would get defensive if I said anything about the combination of medications she was taking because one of which she used to abuse with her last boyfriend... before she got prescribed to it..    With Zombie tho it's a lot different she's not on any meds but probably could be am I happy she's not I dunno, I know I'm happy with the person she is and that if she were to have to get put on meds for something or another I'd be okay with it just very tentative knowing how she is without her meds.  

 

Just a little input.  

If a relationship is meant to work your "problems" become his and his become yours and you both learn how to help each other out and become stronger together.....

[Spooky]

As someone who has a variety of disorders, I can confidently say that it impacts a DDLG relationship the same way it impacts any other relationship. 
You can have a successful relationship with love, trust, open communication, respect and understanding. 

You DDLG relationship can actually help to a point. Daily & loving rules/reminders to take care of yourself, take your medication, etc.

 

On the other hand, from both a little CG perspective, disorders can (to a very fine point) leave you more open and vulnerable. Just the same as any other relationship. 

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

I have PTSD and BPD and both of them make me both very happy and cuddly as well as very secluded. I try to keep my mommy in the loop and tell her when im feeling a certain way but it can also make me not talk to anyone at all which hurts things since even when people try and make me feel better i push them away.

[Guest littlevulcangirl]

yeah I push people away too

[liitlegirl1212]

I have had a lot of panic attacks recently and my daddy said he is getting mad now when I have them. Last night he asked me if I had eaten dinner and I said no and then one thing led to another and he was asking why I wasn't eating he then began to get very mean he said it isn't the end of the f****** world and it was simple I then told him that it wasn't simple to me and said why isn't it fucking simple. That made me feel really stupid and I got upset. Shortly after he said "I can't do this anymore" and left me. I'm honestly so upset that I can't eat or move. Every daddy is different so your daddy might not be like my daddy, I really need to stop calling him my daddy because he isn't anymore. This is just my story so please don't be worried that your cg might do the same, I'm wishing you the best :)x

[poppi]

I have to question someone's true intentions if they are a dominant caregiver and they get mad or aren't supportive to their little when they are suffering from any type of disorder.

 

Would they act this way to a relative?

 

A dd/lg relationship should be as close as being true family or working towards that goal. If the answer to the question is yes, I would have to consider them "toxic" and get out of that relationship.

One would be better off alone.