Red flags for Littles.

[Guest]

These are warning signs and possible red flags for a “fake” caregiver. I have seen many topics and status asking “How can I tell who is a good daddy /mommy / caregiver?” and there are many things that make amazing caregivers and tons that can make a bad and or fake caregiver.  Here are a few possible things to look out for when dealing with a fake caregiver. 

(I will be updating info to this post as I think of things to add) 

 

 

~Caregivers that are very pushy with their dominance before they have your consent. The “I am your daddy now” after only talking to you for a few messages. Caregivers that try to force their dominance over you without your consent or agreeing for them to do so in the first place. If they start getting upset or angry with you for not giving into their dominance, this can be a big red flag to someone that’s more of an abusive person than a real caregiver. If you didn’t agree to this kind of behavior, they should never try to force you into things and get upset if you don’t give in.

 

~Caregivers that start calling you pet names before they have permission to do so. “You are so cute baby girl/ boy”, “hey there princess / prince”. This can seem like harmless flirting, (This is against the rules of the forum, “Please be mindful with nicknames.”), but this can be another way they are trying to force their dominance onto you.

 

~Caregivers that start to flirt with you too soon. The caregivers that have never spoken to you before but feel the need to get extremely sexual right off the bat. You guys have only been speaking for a few moments but this caregiver is already asking for privet information they have no business in asking you, and now you feel super uncomfortable trying to carry on this conversation.  You try and ignore the first few comments and questions but they are only getting more aggressive and sexual with each new message. They are only worried about how you look, and start telling in the most discussing way how they feel about you or worse things they want to do to you.  Caregivers that only worry about physical appearance and get too flirty ( and or sexual) too fast are probably looking for something other than a relationship with you, don’t fall into this trap. 

 

~The caregivers that hand out compliments to every little on the site. Caregivers that seem to comment on every photo in the gallery as soon as its been posted with an inappropriate compliment, then moves onto the next photo and gives the same “compliment” to the next 10+ littles that posted a photo that given day. Everyone wants to feel good about themselves, but the caregivers that are handing out “compliments” like its candy are not worried about that. They are trying to throw out as much bait as they can in hopes someone, anyone, will bit. This is a trend we see on most dating sites. People trying to talk to as many people at once without actually getting to know anyone.

 

~The caregivers that post in every thread and status to “get to know you” (and everyone else it seems.) It’s all well and good trying to be friends with people but the caregivers that end up friending everyone to “talk” are simple trying to hit up as many littles as they can as fast as they can. This is not fair to the little that the caregiver is really not worried about them as a person, they are again just putting out as much bait as they can and hoping to catch someone. 

 

~​The caregivers that add littles as soon as they join. Within a few seconds of a little joining the site , a flock of caregivers all rush to add the little as fast as they can. It's like a race to see who can talk to that little first. (this has happened to me with both accounts I have had) The caregivers that jump onto littles like this are offend after new littles that are new to the rules of the forum and dont know the pit falls of fake caregivers, so will be easy pray for them to take advantage of. 

Edited January 3, 2017 by Arya

[Guest Perfectlypalekitty]

thank you for this! im new to this so this is really helpful 

[Guest]

thank you for this! im new to this so this is really helpful 

No problem at all. Good luck to you   

[Guest Little Ceci]

This is so important!! Thank you for taking the time to put this post together. ♡

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I feel like this should be mandatory reading for littles who join this site...