Daddy Wants To Be Little?!!

[SierraLopez45]

Hi My name is Sierra and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year now. (in 7 days it will br 11 months) We are in a long distance relationship and cannot see eachother any time soon. So over text, we roleplay and always *kiss* and *hug* each other. If a "*" isn't in our text conversation after 5 minutes~ Something's wrong.

 

A while back I introduced my boyfriend into ddlg. I told him I wanted to be a little,and have a little space. He totally accepted me without a hint of judgement. I was so excited. But not only 20 minutes later, he asked for a little space too. Being new to all of it,I knew it was okay to switch from DDLG to MDLB so I said he could have one too.

 

Months went on and I realized... I wasn't happy being mommy. It actually... Made me have anxiety. Being little was a carefree, stress reliever. And it helped me tremendously with my anxiety and depression. I actually only felt happy when I was in my little space.

 

He figured out being mommy does not make me happy. And he promised never to ask for it again. I was his baby girl forever. No breaks. And I felt badly because I knew FOR A FACT my boyfriend loves his little space.

 

I absolutely... As horrible and selfish as it is..Love having ddlg without switching back and forth. But I really want to let my boyfriend be my baby boy... Without feeling as if daddy left a void.Please help. This feeling won't shake off! ❤

 

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Reading some of the replies I want to say A) THANK YOU I APPRECIATE ALL OF YOUR HELP

B ) But... I do not feel comfortable with my boyfriend having another caregiver..

 

And the idea of us both being in little space is very helpful ...but is there any way.. I can get rid of my anxiety so I can be mommy for him?

Edited January 1, 2017 by SierraLopez45

[splendabae]

have you guys tried being little at the same time? if he personally feels ok without a mommy, then maybe you guys spending time together as little will feel better. you guys could draw each other pictures and play together. ask him if he'll be interested in that and if he feels like he needs a cgs support. it's really good that you guys are communicating, keep that up!

[daddycare]

Some people find it easy to switch between roles, but for others like your self its a lot harder and can lead to issues like anxiety and stress. So don't feel guility or selfish just because you can't do something, we are all limited in different ways whether we like it or not.

 

Now of course as you've said you can't be his mommy, no way around that. But if little space is something you enjoy, then maybe you could enjoy it together?

 

Or perhaps have let him have a caregiver of his own, which might or might not work for you. You could even share the caregiver in little space together. I'm sure you'd be able to find someone out there.

 

But just know its not your fault you can't be his mommy and know there's always a way around it   

Edited January 1, 2017 by daddycare

[Harper Fox]

My friends do this, and what they do is basically he's still in charge when he's little and she calls him Little Master. And he's basically like a little bratty child and she's like a nanny or something. So he's still protective of her and all grabby of her but she is mostly there just to make sure he doesn't do anything stupid.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I think you could use this opportunity to be little together. Play together and do little fun things together. If he absolutely needs a caregiver and you don't feel you can do this would you be okay with him having a nonsexual caregiver? That's something you could try, too.

[Bunniegural]

i heard a podcast recently, can't remember what it was, about couples where both are littles and about littles who choose not to have cgs. maybe that's an option?