Insecure Little

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[Daddy's_Babygirl]

[Guest]

It's alright to feel a little insecure at first. We have all been there. I am still too shy to go into chat LOL.

 

There are all kinds of age range here. There are ADL and people who like pacies and baby age activelies. There are people who are more into little age and even middle and older ranges. Some people don't even have a set age range or a little age at all.

 

There are truely nice and helpful people on the site, just gotta find who you get along .

[Guest House_M.D.]

It sounds like maybe you're just a younger little.  A lot of littles have an age they identify with and can usually say how often they spend in that headspace.  For you it sounds like you're one of the rare girls that is extra low on the age spectrum and you spend more time there.  That's totally fine!  Don't feel like because other people aren't acting the way you do there's something wrong.  This is a very diverse and individual thing and trying to fit the mold is only going to make it harder to embrace who you are.  

Just be yourself and people will embrace you.  Every long journey begins with a few small steps.

[Princess-P]

Being little means first being an adult. You may have been interested in this lifestyle for sometime but since you were still a child you could not identify with a roll designated for adults. You were just not a matured teenager.

 

Since you are now an adult and welcome into a community like this one try not to focus on others so much. Insecurity over not being like others here may be normal for a bit. But we are all very different.

 

You may have a preconceived idea of what a little is due to mainstream media and images you have seen but there is no cookie cutter explanation or type.

 

You are not deeper into being a little than anyone here. Most of us here are rather serious about the lifestyle we are all just different. Some regress, some do not. Some have ages, some do not. Some baby talk, some do not. See what I'm saying?

 

Just be yourself while here. some people will like you and enjoy the same things as you and some people will not want to be your friend. Its no matter. Being different is what makes the community great.

[Antoinette]

People here saying that being little requires being an adult need to stop because age regression isn't only linked to BDSM or DD/lg, sure if she was a 'little' in a DD/lg dynamic sense yes she probably wasn't truly mentally ready but just because she's turned 18 doesn't mean she's an adult and is all of a sudden ready to be a 'little'.

 

Age regression is a well documented coping mechanism for people who've been through trauma or in fact for people with anxiety or anxious tendencies. I, for one, have been a 'little' since the age of about 13, in the sense that I would use age regression as a coping mechanism. I was not involved in the dynamic but I did use age regression (involuntarily), which was an easy way for me to cope with what I had been through as a child and I still to this day use age regression but now that I am of age I can incorporate it into a relationship dynamic, so try not to be so harsh with her - everybody has different experiences, not everything is black and white.

 

Right now onto the OP...

 

What you're feeling is completely normal and natural. Every little is different, every little should be cherished. Just because other littles act a bit older doesn't mean you're not special or worthy. You are. My little ''age'' is probably around 3-6, so I'd say I'm quite young myself. I like pacis, stuffies, colouring - all the really cookie cutter kind of things you'd expect. So don't worry about it - everybody is different!

[Guest littlevulcangirl]

Hi. My little space can also be an insecure, anxious space. I am pretty vulnerable in little space and tho it's 90% a really comforting happy space, some of my trauma comes up while I'm there. I think it's normal. But I try to make sure I'm feeling mentally safe whenever I go there, or am alone and comfortable and I have my stuffies and things that make me feel ok.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

People here saying that being little requires being an adult need to stop because age regression isn't only linked to BDSM or DD/lg, sure if she was a 'little' in a DD/lg dynamic sense yes she probably wasn't truly mentally ready but just because she's turned 18 doesn't mean she's an adult and is all of a sudden ready to be a 'little'.

 

Age regression is a well documented coping mechanism for people who've been through trauma or in fact for people with anxiety or anxious tendencies. I, for one, have been a 'little' since the age of about 13, in the sense that I would use age regression as a coping mechanism. I was not involved in the dynamic but I did use age regression (involuntarily), which was an easy way for me to cope with what I had been through as a child and I still to this day use age regression but now that I am of age I can incorporate it into a relationship dynamic, so try not to be so harsh with her - everybody has different experiences, not everything is black and white.

 

Right now onto the OP...

 

What you're feeling is completely normal and natural. Every little is different, every little should be cherished. Just because other littles act a bit older doesn't mean you're not special or worthy. You are. My little ''age'' is probably around 3-6, so I'd say I'm quite young myself. I like pacis, stuffies, colouring - all the really cookie cutter kind of things you'd expect. So don't worry about it - everybody is different!

While I agree that age regression does not require being an adult... my opinion on weather one can be a little while still a child differs. However, I *do* agree that the magical number 18 does not automatically make one an adult.

 

I also agree with age regression being a wonderful coping mechanism. I didn't know what I was doing then, but most of my early teen years up until now have involved age regression. As a teen, I did things most 8-12yr olds did and I was so incredibly happy doing so. I never revealed this side of me to "outsiders" though, for fear of persecution. I have pretty intense anxiety.... being "little" is such a wonderful way to cope for me, and as I am now realizing, many others.

[Little_Rose_]

I'm also a younger little (18) I find my little space changes based on what I'm feeling. At a young age I was an 'old soul with a big mind' as my mom says, so I was pressured to 'grow up' early. Whenever I'm under pressure or just want to be more of the person I want to be I go into ls. Sometimes that means coloring and bubble baths or is blankies and tea or video games and candy or now that I have a Daddy i Skype with him when I'm in ls as much as possible.  Sometimes I feel out of place because I'm not into pacis and don't have an age range on ls, but as was said by many people before me, everyones little space is different. you don't need to compare yourself or you space because its whats right for you.