doing this alone

[babygirl12]

I have made this journy from knowing I'm submissive to submissive babygirl/middle all by myself.

 

Its overwhelming. And no, my spouse would never understand. And thats ok. Does anyone else ever get overwhelmed by it all. Sometimes still have a hard time wrapping their mind around their identity?

 

Sometimes I just don't understand it myself. I especially feel guilty with a lot of the opinions that other people in kink communities have towards ddlg.

 

le sigh.

 

anyone else go through this also?

[Pastel Boi]

I used to feel that way but I don't now. I looked for communities of people like me (facebook groups for example) so I wouldn't feel alone. Also FetLife has groups and events for Littles too!

[babygirl12]

well I can't currently be open about this side of me. thus the issue. I have found on fetlife that a lot of submissives/slaves are kind of mean to littles/middles. I'm also hypersensitive. I try to hide it, protect it, but thats just how I am.

[Magi]

Its just finding out others of the same nature. Here you are welcomed and accepted.

[babygirl12]

thank you! I appreciate it.

[AZDaddydom]

As a daddydom I have always been more into this than my wife. I took the time to read a lot about this and find out where I am in it and why I like it. I also always felt she had a little side to her based on things she does. So over time we just slowly talked about it and made moves that way. Started off as bdsm but after talking more about it and she understood what I likes about it she started to be more comfy with it. We are still learning and growing together in it but my point is you never know if he will like it or not unless you try to at least being it up, start with bdsm and see if he likes being a dom.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

As a daddydom I have always been more into this than my wife. I took the time to read a lot about this and find out where I am in it and why I like it. I also always felt she had a little side to her based on things she does. So over time we just slowly talked about it and made moves that way. Started off as bdsm but after talking more about it and she understood what I likes about it she started to be more comfy with it. We are still learning and growing together in it but my point is you never know if he will like it or not unless you try to at least being it up, start with bdsm and see if he likes being a dom.

Though I agree with the majority of this post... let it be known not every DD likes being a traditional Dom. My Daddy/husband is one of them. Being your traditional Dom never set right with him and felt wrong. Since we discovered DDlg everything feels more right.

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

well I can't currently be open about this side of me. thus the issue. I have found on fetlife that a lot of submissives/slaves are kind of mean to littles/middles. I'm also hypersensitive. I try to hide it, protect it, but thats just how I am.

 

I'm not sure about FetLife, but here everyone's very welcoming and accepting.  I didn't get on with FetLife since it's so broad and so many different subcultures are involved, I prefer smaller forums where you can get to know the regular posters and everyone's comments aren't lost in torrent.

 

I've no idea why regular submissives would be opposed to littles and middles, mind you.  Maybe they just don't get it, or have some strange sort of superiority complex regarding their own kinks.  You can be open here at least!  Everyone's very friendly and willing to offer help and support if they can.

 

Though I agree with the majority of this post... let it be known not every DD likes being a traditional Dom. My Daddy/husband is one of them. Being your traditional Dom never set right with him and felt wrong. Since we discovered DDlg everything feels more right.

Full agreement here.  I've no experience, but I know that being a traditional dom wouldn't work for me.  It also might not work for every little - One of my best friends shows some strong little tendencies although she probably doesn't know it's a thing, but I know she would find a more traditional dom intimidating.

Edited January 1, 2017 by countlieberkuhn