Nature or nurture?

[Guest Kali]

I just wonder, if you are a little, was it something

 

1.) you found yourself behaving as naturally and adopted the identity without any need for a Daddy

2.) were you introduced into, and realised it was what was missing in your life

3.) were introduced to by your partner, but took some convincing

 

There is a fourth, but it's so awful I wouldn't expect anyone to own up to this because it would be messed up.

 

4.) you do it just to please someone you love even though it doesn't do anything for you

[switchlittleloves]

Well I was a daddy before I ever tried being a little, so I'm just going to answer this in the context of ddlg as a whole.

 

With me it was sort of a combination of all those things. I mean, I guess I'm just the kind of person that doesn't really think things like that are so simple. 1) I am naturally protective of people that I care about, and have always had certain child-like qualities. I do have kind of a natural desire to be cared for and to be the baby. 2) I was introduced to it by my ex, and then we just kind of eased into it. I won't exactly say that it was what was missing in my life, but it did make everything a lot better as far as a relationship goes. Being in a Cg/l relationship is amazing to me because of the trust and added care that goes into it, and that wasn't exactly missing. 3) Once I was introduced to it I had to get used to the idea. Certain aspects of it came off as weird to me, so I just had to adjust my perception a bit. I guess you could say I convinced myself. And 4) I did it because my partner wanted it, yes. That's a factor in anything you do in a relationship. Or at least it is to me. That doesn't really mean that I wasn't getting anything from it. :3

[ConnecticutDaddy]

I remember reading an excerpt of some novel written by a woman. Basically it advocated men treating women like children. It may be nature.

 

Also physically women have larger eyes, smaller hands, and softer features. They physically look childlike and younger.

 

A study conducted by psychologist on male attraction submitted hundreds of pictures of girls and women without saying their age. The majority of pictures rated the highest in attractiveness were girls age 13 to 16.

 

It seems like men are naturally attracted to youth and fertility and women have evolved a way to look younger...Longer, although not quite as young as when they were young.

 

These natural traits reflect in our product consumption. Women spend more money and time on makeup to look younger .

[ConnecticutDaddy]

I suggest you google the term neotony and read up on it. It's really interesting. Also it's only recently the age of consent has been this high. The change is entirely cultural. The concept of childhood is a very recent concept and essentially all of western civilization was built on teenage pregnancy.

 

I don't think we would have survived the black plague without it.

 

I love history.

[Guest ZenDD]

A study conducted by psychologist on male attraction submitted hundreds of pictures of girls and women without saying their age. The majority of pictures rated the highest in attractiveness were girls age 13 to 16.

 

It seems like men are naturally attracted to youth and fertility and women have evolved a way to look younger...Longer, although not quite as young as when they were young.

 

These natural traits reflect in our product consumption. Women spend more money and time on makeup to look younger .

 

I think it's important to make a distinction here. The original poster is discussing being "little" as a behavior, a psychology, which is exactly what being a little and DDlg/CGl is precisely about. Your two posts here are focused on the biological appearance of youth which has absolutely nothing to do with DDlg/CGl or being little at all.

 

Your focus concerns me because I feel it ventures into inaccurate and inappropriate territory within the DDlg context. Many DDlg detractors are opposed to the concept because they interpret it as pedophilia in disguise, when it actually has to do with attraction to the dynamics between two consenting adults participating in the nurture and interplay of child-like qualities such as innocence, curiosity, playfulness, enthusiasm, and the contradictions of a willingness to please/rebelliousness, and fear/fearlessness. The use of items like stuffed animals, crayons, and pacifiers, as well as styles like pig tails and youthful clothing, isn't in order to make the "little" appear visually younger but are actually tools/manipulatives to help facilitate the psychological regression or role-play.

 

Your emphasis on male physical attraction to under-aged females is not related to DDlg in any way. If your personal attraction (or anyone else's, for that matter) to DDlg has to do with an attraction to under-aged females, or you seek a forum in which to justify that type of attraction (which, to me, is what your posts here seem to do) then this is the wrong place for you.

 

As there is no association to be made between the two concepts, any indication or implication that there is actually puts our DDlg/CGl community in danger for continued scrutiny (unwarranted, in that regard), and most importantly, puts children/adolescents in danger of becoming aware that there is an established D/s concept that justifies or attempts to legitimize inappropriate behavior between an adult and a minor when in fact there is not. Utilizing history and survival of plagues as justification for your beliefs is on you, but DDlg/CGl concepts cannot be utilized to justify what our modern, contemporary social culture/structure currently defines as pedophilic tendencies or concepts. 

[Guest Meowth]

I discovered ddlg when I was 27. I was so won over by it that it became an obsession. I was a graduate student - I was so distracted that I had to drop all my classes. Ddlg is something that was always a huge part of me, but i couldn't know this until i knew it existed. Also, until that point I was always into diapers, but I never really liked role-playing as a baby, so i now consider myself an ex-AB.

[Pastel Boi]

I think it varies, I'm leaning towards nurture based in my case. I was forced to grow up too fast as a youngster (I'm a childhood neglect, abuse, and trauma survivor) so I sometimes wonder if that's what caused my "littleness".

 

But it may also be nature based, a lot of my family has been involved in the BDSM community for example. I'm not, not really, but y'know I guess there's similarities?

Edited December 24, 2016 by Pastel Boi

[DaddysMonkey]

*****TRIGGER WARNING*****

 

Hello there !

 

 

I think this is a very interesting question ; as I ask myself this a lot.. Not just with Dd/lg either.

 

Before I delve into my response ; I have to say that I agree with ZenDD. I don't wish to elaborate much as I think he said everything I wanted to say quite beautifully. 

 

So , now here we go with my actual response..  in my own personal experience with DD/lg let alone the BDSM/kink/fetish community I never knew what Dd/lg was util about three and a half years ago. I was deep into the community and I was well aware of age play , and ABDL , ect. But I never really knew what "littles" were. I was doing research on the community (as I usually do) and I came across a BBC documentary about ABDL and Dd/Md/Cg/L. It is called The Fifteen Stone Babies. (If you are new to the lifestyle its a fun watch) This documentary opened up a lot of repressed feeling connecting to Dd/lg and age play as well as natural regression. 

 

Now , to give a little background to all of this "eye opening" ... I went through a lot of mental and sexual abuse as a child through my teen years. I was forced to grow up very quickly , and having sexuality brought into my life at a young age ~really~ makes you grow up fast. (I would like to make it clear that I was molested , and not raped. I'm not sure why but clarifying that is important to me.) From the age of about 6 years old , I started resenting and hating other children. They had loving homes , caring parents who weren't always high or drunk , I could go on. (I know everyone has their own issues ; but as a kid I obviously thought of myself) I grew up , the older I got the more I hated children and resented them , I still do to this day. This always led me to believe there was no way I was naturally regressing or age player. "How could I , be THAT... something I HATE so much ..." , was something I found myself asking often in my own head. 

 

So , the eye opening comes in now... hehe..

 

I've always like childlike things and have always naturally regressed. I was in great amounts of denial.. drowning in denial rather. Being involved in BDSM I had always thought I was strictly a slave/sub.. a masochistic one at that. I couldn't figure out what was missing , but I constantly felt like there was this hole in my soul. I decided to experiment with kitten play to try and figure out this missing piece in my life.  Kitten play didn't feel right , it felt forced and unauthentic. This is where the Documentary mentioned above comes in. I had found the Doc to watch during one of my workouts.. Half way through I was sitting on my treadmill balling my eyes out. Actually seeing people in their little space , seeing what all of it was instead of repressing my needs and feelings and ignoring it ... I turned into a floodgate. I could not , stop , researching. I spent a lot of my time researching and learning about this new found piece of myself and I discussed it with my "Sir" , who is now my Daddy. We discussed on how we would try to transition into this new lifestyle three and a half years ago and we have never turned back. 

 

I suppose what I am trying to get at ; is that I believe in my case there was more than one reason for me being led to Dd/lg. I can say with my whole heart that I believe I was both nurtured , and created by nature and happenstance to be in Dd/lg. My Daddy nurtured my little side (I am still growing and believe everyone does every day) , my childhood and past , along with major realizations I am by nature a little. 

 

Sorry if this was long winded ; but it is my shortened version of how I became a little.

I hope you enjoyed / found this helpful or useful.

 

<3

[Guest softheartbruisedknees]

I think this is a great question! I had no idea about DDlg and didn't act little until I learned about it while researching BDSM online when I was 23. I realized it's the dynamic I've always wanted in my relationship with added kinky fun! I never regressed before, but I've always yearned to reconnect with my childhood & inner child. For example, I never stopped loving stuffed animals, but I was so set on "growing up" and being an "adult" that I didn't allow myself the indulgence. Now I definitely regress.

 

I'm still not 100% sure why I'm so drawn to DDlg, but I'm having fun learning & developing in this dynamic. 

Edited December 26, 2016 by softheartbruisedknees