HELP: Daddy or not?

[lilbabygirly]

I just got into DDLG and now have my first Daddy. I really lucked out you guys. I was expecting him to be a fake daddy but he's amazing. Even though it's so soon I'm already attached to him. He knows this.

 

Because things happened so fast I'm a bit concerned that the feeling isn't mutual. He never asked to be my Daddy. I told him I wanted to be his little girl and well now I am. ❤

 

Do I have a reason to be concerned or am I over thinking? I'm used to vanilla dating only. He'd be just as amazing vanilla as well. I have a lot of experience with men and dating and I've never felt this way before.

[Guest OverDaddy'sKnee]

Congrats on finding your Daddy! I think that if it feels right to both of you, just enjoy it and try not to think about how fast it happened.

[Guest MommyBella]

Just remember to take things slowly. You don't have to rush it to fast. If things continue to happen quickly it's okay to just step back and talk about if something is bothering you or a little off. Remember that things should be mutually agreed on by both caregiver and little. 

 

I'm so happy for you! Best of luck to you and your daddy. 

[Spooky]

I second what MommyBella said.

 

I would also like to add that sometimes relationships can just feel "too good to be true". Sometimes that is because they really are too good to be true but sometimes we just get lucky and all the stars align just right. 

 

Congrats! and best of luck!

[lilbabygirly]

Yes I've definitely been feeling like things are too good to be true. I feel like I need to let my big self take over and figure things out but I go straight into little space with him.

 

This is all so new to me guys so I'm confused. I think it's because we didn't spend very long vanilla dating.

[Guest ZenDD]

Follow your instincts. You yourself said "even though it's too soon, I'm already attached...", and "Because things happened so fast I'm a bit concerned that the feeling isn't mutual." You've answered your own question. You're obviously concerned and confused. That's ok. That's normal, and a good instinct to have. If you weren't questioning anything at all i'd be more concerned.

 

Your feelings don't necessarily indicate that the relationship, in and of itself, is wrong or troubled. What can lead to trouble, though, is not speaking to him about these concerns. Set a time when neither of you will be interrupted, when you have the time to speak patiently, at length. Speak to him directly, openly, honestly, and confront these very issues with him. His answers, and only his, not ours, will help you better understand his side of things. Make sure you express your side clearly, too. If you want this relationship to have a future, and you want it to be as healthy as possible, then you must strengthen the communication by strengthening the comfort level to express any and all concerns. No one should ever feel apprehensive about talking to their partner about what's going on in their heart and mind.

 

Good luck, take care.

[Antoinette]

I agree with what everyone else has said here but I also hope you have some research as to the basics of DD/lg and what DD/lg is truly about, of course this differs for everyone but it's no good seeing a Tumblr aesthetic representation of DD/lg and then deciding that you want a Daddy, it's more than that.

 

Hope everything works out well!

[lilbabygirly]

Thanks guys. I'm going to have a convo with him about it soon.

 

I'm definitely a little/sub. I've known this for a long time. He's just my first Dom.

[lilbabygirly]

We talked. I'm totally sad. Not because he's actually a dick but because I allowed myself to open up to him & I showed him my little side. Whatever though. Lesson learned.

[BethyBoo]

Just take things slowly, and see how things progress

[lilbabygirly]

They totally went downhill after we talked. He called me crazy and annoying and after I told him my feelings were hurt he didn't care or anything. He just told me to stop acting that way. Red flags went up like crazy. He reminded me so much of my abusive ex after that convo. I don't understand how someone can go from being so nice and caring to a total piece of shit. Just glad it's over. Edited December 23, 2016 by lilbabygirly

[Guest uk_caring_daddy]

Sorry to hear you had such rotten luck.

 

The odds are always stacked against you in the sense that there are way more people out there with whom relationships just won't turn out well. The same is true for everyone. Your particular needs (being a sub/little) don't significantly change the odds in my opinion.

 

I can offer you a story. Just a story. Take from it what you will.

 

My baby had a very bad experience before me. She trusted someone, she put herself out there, and she got hurt badly. Very very badly.

 

When she met me, she was more cautious. But she still took a chance on me and still put herself out there. She has shared everything with me and I will never ever hurt her.

 

She was able to ensure a bad experience didn't toughen her up to the extent she was not open to finding and trusting again.

 

I guess I'm saying that I hope your lesson learned is not to stop opening up to people, but perhaps to approach it in a different way.