[Rant] The problem with Daddies/Mommies and their littles

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

So i see and hear about alot of problems with daddies/mommies and their littles. Alot of littles feel neglected where they have a CG that barely talks to them or dosent give them much attention. I feel this is really wrong and i dont get why it is that way. I get littles need alot of attention and sometimes their CG cant always be there to give them the attention they need.

 

But i also hear about some littles CG's not even talking to them for a whole day or even more sometimes and its like how long does it take to send a text to let ure little know she/he is loved? that your not going anywhere? it takes 10 seconds, i personally am a switch so ive seen both sides of it and ive seen it with my little friends as well where theyre crying cause all they want is their daddy to be there to show them the attention they need.

 

Now im not saying this is ALL CG's cause i know theres alot fo good CG's and alot of ones who go unnoticed for the good job they do taking care of their little, for those people im very happy to see that and that makes me smiles so much . I just think alot of people need to relook at what they want and either not be a CG or try and put the effort into becoming a better CG,

 

I personally have had a little before and while she moved on and went along with her life (which im very proud of her for) i know what it takes to make a little happy and to make him/her feel loved. In realility it dosent take much, talking to them, respecting them and showing them the love they deserve. I know this was just me ranting but in a way its also the truth, thanks for listening.

 

Just my thoughts.

[Antoinette]

I agree. But I also think being a caregiver can be emotionally draining and many people don't realise that and many littles don't even care and even have a sense of entitlement. They seem to think that just because they're the little they're the ones that have to be clingy and needy and wanting attention constantly, not even considering that their daddy/mommy might need it. Many caregivers get burnt out from constantly having to be the one to give, give, give with nothing coming back their way. It's emotionally tiring and many caregivers feel as though they can't explain their hurt or their emotional bankruptcy because they're the 'big' one and they always have to act big.

 

So while I agree with what you're saying I just think it goes both ways. 

Edited December 21, 2016 by xAntoinette

[Guest Daddy F]

As a Daddy/CG I have to say this is an upsetting post.

 

Yes, I do like to have contact as much as possible but lets face it....a LOT of littles are younger and maybe don't work, or work very little time and some of the Daddies/Mommies they're looking for are older so might have established careers and simply are unable to respond on a moments notice. 

 

Or maybe their day is hectic and they forget to send a simple text.

 

It's okay, your whole world shouldn't be wrapped up in hearing from someone every day. Maybe after two or three days be worried, especially if you've seen them here in chat or posting on the forums.

 

A day though?

 

Give it a little time

 

Also....to post that because they can't respond as fast as you want that they aren't good CG???? That's just plain rude and a MAJOR generalization.

 

How would you feel if I said because you're impatient and not understanding of our CG's real life that you're a bad little???

Edited December 21, 2016 by Daddy F

[PrincessAurora]

Well to be honest most littles on this site are still young and don't have jobs. I'm speaking as an older little here. almost EVERY CG on this site has a job, jobs are stressful and draining. and if the CG doesn't answer for a day, just let them be, even littles need a break. you shouldn't have to rely on them for your entire world and happiness you do have to do some of the work yourself. Just because your little doesn't mean stop functioning on your own, and that's what a lot of these younger littles seem to think having a CG means. They are not your PARENT. they are your PARTNER.

Even myself as a little I draw away from talking to people because guess what? I need a break too.

 

If you are to impatient to wait for them then you really shouldn't be in the relationship and have a bit of maturing to do. but that's just my opinion

[Princess-P]

This absolutely goes both ways. Many littles do feel a sense of entitlement. Some don't understand that regardless of your dynamic, shit happens. Life sucks sometimes and sometimes people need a break. If your constantly demanding attention your going to drain the other person.

 

Yes it might only take 10 seconds to send a text but so what? Sometimes people just don't have it in them to reply. Usually the ones complaining about not enough attention are in new relationships. They don't really know what the other person has going on.

 

There's been times I haven't spoke to my Daddy for over 48 hours. And we live together. We both work 12+ hour shifts. Sometimes he texts me and I don't respond. Even if I'm on break. I just don't want to. Sometimes I just need quiet. I spend the day being screamed at, hit, spit on, cleaning people, walking clients who are lost in their own minds, or holding a dying persons hand while they fade away. Sometimes the 10 seconds it would take to send a text is the last thing on my mind.

 

And then on the other hand there are littles/caregivers, men/women who only contact you when they feel like it simply because you aren't that important. It's possible that the ones complaining about not enough attention are ignoring the warning signs of a fake relationship simply because they want to be involved with someone so badly.

 

My point is if your being ignored by someone your in a relationship with think about why. Sometimes things aren't black and white.

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

Antoinette: i agree with what you said that some littles do take advantage if their CG'S and dont give back to their CG'S and i 100% agree that they should. Even if their CG is having a bad day, just sitting their liatening to him/her about it and trying to help in any way u can. Some littles dont i agree, they expect to always be taken care of without giving anything back and thats wrong.

 

Daddy F: im sorry you feel like im attacking you, we juat have different Opinions and i respect yours. I just see it differently, if ure littles happy with that then good i personally dont really hear about the littles that are happy with that. I know how having a career can be hectic and hard (i personally repair computers, sell them as well as go to college full time) so i get how having a full work lod can be very hard.

 

This in no way was an attack against anyone inparticular but if theres alot of littles crying and complaining then either the littles are at fault or aomething else is.

 

And as for you calling me a "bad little" you dont even know me so you cant judge me. Im a good little and i stand up for what i believe in and im sorry if me doing so upsets you

[Guest Daddy F]

I wasn't calling you a bad little but you did illustrate my point perfectly....

 

you thought I might be and you got defensive

 

How do you think it will make people feel that you might be calling them a bad CG?

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

And thats fine. I do understand your point. Im not trying to attack anyone, im aware that the way i said things can be taken as attacking and i appoligize for that.

 

I agree it goes both ways as others have said. There are some bad CG out there and thats what i was trying ti say. I get people get busy but theres busy and neglectful

 

I also agree that when CG are busy, littles should find ways to be happy without them and learn to do things by themselves and be happy :3 not only is it good but itll make you happy in life too!

Edited December 21, 2016 by LittleLexiKitty

[Guest Esteliah]

*Falls out of the sky* Hey~ How is everyone doing?

There's two people in the dance right? Nothing is one sided everything is equal~ and you have to dance in harmony together 

 

But sometimes there are times where your partner can't keep up with you, So you have to let them rest a little, then they will come back and dance better then ever!

 

What I'm saying is both can be in the wrong not just Littles or Caregivers... As a person You have to respect when your partner is busy and can't message you back, and vice versa... I mean sure a quick text to say 

"I'm sorry little one I'm very busy right now to talk to you... But I want you to know I love you very much and we'll talk later" Would help...
But sometimes life is so hectic, you barely have time to breathe and appreciate the world around you... 

 

Plus you should know your partners schedule and find times where you can talk.... But I guess it gets complicated when considering LDR's in different time zones.... But you should try setting times where you know that you're both not busy and you can talk... It's important to let one another know just how much they are loved, appreciated and that they are okay! no matter the schedule...no matter the role~ no matter the cookie~

 

And I think if the one person is busy they could maybe pre warn their partner that they are busy, then they won't have to worry about the other person being okay

 

But hey a good morning text or a good night text never killed anyone, yet XD

 

Like could you imagine "Hey, good morning babygurrlllllllll* and you just instantaneously combust. Quite a way to die! 

 

You just have to love and trust each other, I think that's a dance we could all learn to do.

 

But well done LLK for sharing your opinion and starting a topic... that would get people talking! Can be a scary thing to do huh?  *Gives special cookie award* and Hey I don't share my food, so you did good

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

- takes the coomie nomming on it -

 

I agree 100% with what you said, thats what i was trying to say but im not always good with words. Letting eachother know their loved and cared for instead of just two people together.

 

Thats what i meant by send a text is to do something and be like, i havent forgotten about you, i still love you but im really busy right now.

 

And thank you ^.^ it is scary..very scary even scarier responsing to peoples opinions but i try and be a strong little and be brave

Edited December 21, 2016 by LittleLexiKitty