Social anxiety, introverts, and the forums. Need advice (pretty please♥)

[cuppycakes]

I'm looking for advice on talking to people through this website without deleting nearly every post I start to write in response to a forum started.

 

I've always been nervous talking to people, and I'm just kind of scared that I'm being annoying, being awkward, being too... I don't know, being too myself. I'd really appreciate some advice on finding friends and not being such a stick-in-the-mud, I guess. I really do want to talk to people, I just... I don't know if my opinion is wanted, I guess? It doesn't help that I'm not really a "seasoned" little, so I can't really give great advise on what ddlg/cgl is, just what it means to me personally.

 

If there's anyone out there with the same problem, and you're debating on responding to this post, just do it.

I'll be glad to know I'm not the only one as well. : )

 

Anyway-this forum seems like a place for extroverted people, but what about the introverted ones? How do we make friends?

[Itcanhappen2017]

I think most of us are really introverted acting like extroverted to cover being nervous of not being liked....what do you think

[Guest littlevulcangirl]

I agree, I think many of us are introverted. I am. I have no idea how I come across tho.

 

As for writing posts or replies, just be honest and yourself, that's what everyone wants . Don't allow yourself more than one edit and smash the Post button before you change your mind. This is what I do anyway, because I'd love to edit and rewrite and delete, but it messes with my anxiety and insecurities too much.

[Guest Ginger]

I'm sure your opinion is wanted. You might know something none of us do and that would be wonderful to find out! I was super nervous about posting on here because I was afraid of the same things. But as long as you're respectful and stuff, you really don't have much to worry about. Just gotta remember not everyone will always agree with you and that's A-OK! Differences in opinion make the world go round

 

Personally, I'm a pretty introverted person. I need my alone time, I don't talk much. It's only with a select group of people that I'm more outgoing and extroverted but even then it doesn't last all night.

[shadowrider]

 What it means to you is all that matters in the long run. No one with more years or so called experience can better define what this lifestyle is than the one living it, and thats you.

You have just taken the biggest step to making new friends by typing this post, kudos to you. And never worry about being TOO YOURSELF. Yourself is perfect just the way you are. You are shy with new people. I am fine with strangers but hate the thought of public speaking. We are all different and thats what makes us special.

 Come to the chat room and you can hang out, talk if you want or just watch the antics, its does get crazy at times. If you're bored pick anyone that commented and give them a shout. I'm sure all of us would be happy to talk to you.

I can honestly say just from my short time here, there are some truly awesome people hanging out on this forum. 

 

Take care and stay true to you and everything else will fall in place

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I'm looking for advice on talking to people through this website without deleting nearly every post I start to write in response to a forum started.

 

I've always been nervous talking to people, and I'm just kind of scared that I'm being annoying, being awkward, being too... I don't know, being too myself. I'd really appreciate some advice on finding friends and not being such a stick-in-the-mud, I guess. I really do want to talk to people, I just... I don't know if my opinion is wanted, I guess? It doesn't help that I'm not really a "seasoned" little, so I can't really give great advise on what ddlg/cgl is, just what it means to me personally.

 

If there's anyone out there with the same problem, and you're debating on responding to this post, just do it.

I'll be glad to know I'm not the only one as well. : )

 

Anyway-this forum seems like a place for extroverted people, but what about the introverted ones? How do we make friends?

Hi there! Social anxiety stricken little here! And anxiety regarding.... everything else possible!

 

I really truly feel at home here. It's weird because I don't have a massive amount of friends (1, to be exact), outside of here. But I feel so welcome here and even though I don't talk to everyone often, I've come to know tidbits about different ones and kinda feel like I have some friends here.

 

As far as not being experienced so being unable to talk about what CG/l is... the dynamic it appears to me is really different based on each relationship! Your opinions are always welcome here!

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Try liking things. That really helped me gain confidence when I started out. It made me feel like I was contributing. 

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

Try making a post in general discussion that a lot of people might be able to relate to.  I did that regarding Pokemon, and it was good.  Got to interact with lots of people, and I didn't feel awkward about it because they posted on MY thread, so clearly they wanted to be part of the discussion  Start a thread asking people what recent anime's they'd recommend or something

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

For the most part i just say what i want, i try not to upset people but it dosent always come that way. I have really bad social anexity so i always feel like im upsetting ir annoying someone but i just try and be the best i can be and be nice and kind and juat hope im not annoying someone

[cuppycakes]

See?? This is why I want to talk to people and make friends!! You all seem like such great, genuine people! These all made me smile a lot and I appreciate all of your thoughts. Thank you.

[chloelayne]

Anxiety has ruined many moments in my life that I could have enjoyed. When I type out responses like this, I shut it off. I don't know how but I just do. I kind of understand that many people on here are very kind. People post topics like this FOR my opinion. They want to hear what people think and feel not what people know the strict, cold, and hard facts too. When I'm with my daddy I sometimes get the same thing. There is this small part of me that just wants to shut up and not give my opinion because I think he doesn't care. Truth be told, he does care. Life is a push and pull thing. If you don't push your opinion you will be pulled too hard and it will never work out. I hope you can find what helps you, may it be all of these amazing responses. Just know my mailbox is always open if you ever need anyone. Best of luck to you!