Schedules/Routines for a new daddy/caregiver

[Suitman013]

Hello, my little and I have been in a ddlg relationship for about 5 months. I am her first daddy and she is my first little. Today she informed me that she wants "more rules, like a routine kind of thing." Being fairly new to this I thought I would ask other CGs about what kind of schedules/routines they have for their littles or what kind of schedules that littles in the community have been given. Thank you in advance.

[tayiie]

It mostly depend on the person I believe. Because we all have those bad habits that we would like to fix. Like me I smoke but I try to quit, that's usually one rule I should have, because I don't want to smoke. Or the fact that I curse a lot, it can seem as disrespectful. So I would say you should talk to your little and ask what kind of rules she wants. I had a routine with my daddy that was that I should every morning say "good morning daddy" though it was hard for me but he really enjoyed it so I did it for him.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I would suggest starting here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/2210-what-are-your-rules/

 

There are really great suggestions there. The one rule I always stick behind with this sort of stuff is that the rules have to mutually agreed upon in order for them to work. If your Little doesn't want to improve or work on this part of themselves, they won't. Simple as that. We're still adults at the end of the day, and we aren't going to do things we don't want to. (Unless you like doing things you don't want to, but then you want to be forced to do them... Does that make sense?) It works much better if you sit down with your partner and discuss it like a "What do I want to improve? What do I want to change? What do I need help with? What do I want to make better?" 

[Suitman013]

Thank you, we have established rules together I'm mainly just curious about the schedule/routine aspect.

[Antoinette]

I swear to gosh OurHome should sponsor me I suggest it so much. OurHome is a great mobile app that allows you to create a 'family' and then chores can be set up as well as rewards. For doing chores you get a certain amount of points and you can set up rewards that your little (and even you!) can work towards getting.

 

For example a few of (my) chores are:

 

/Keep room tidy (3pts)

/Play with Ziggy (my cat) (5pts)

/Bath/shower (10pts)

/Drink 1ltr of water (15pts)

/Brush teeth x2 (3pts)

/Fold/put away clothes (5pts)

/Wake up on time. (3pts)

/Get into sleep clothes (5pts)

/Make bed (5pts)

/Eat some fruit (20pts)

/Exercise 30 minutes (30pts

/Play with Onyx (my mouse) (10pts)

/Make dinner (30pts)

 

We make silly chores too like 'achievement hunt' and 'reach 20,000 Gamerscore', stuff like that because we both game. 

 

Anyway, some of my rewards are:

 

/Chocolate/candy bar (100pts)

/Uh... A 'special' video (200pts)

/Staying up late (250pts) 

/A new comic book (300pts)

/New sippy cup (300pts)

/A new stuffy (500pts) (this is what I'm working towards... I'm at 339 points ahhhh!)

/A new shirt or sweater (500pts)

/Pop Socket (500pts)

/Funko Pop of my choice (600pts) (I recently go the BioShock Little Sister, I got Daddy the 6'' Cyberdemon now I want the 6'' Big Daddy cx)

 

That's all of my rewards. I do have rewards for my daddy too, I try to be creative with them and do things that daddy would like and stuff but yea. There it is cx

 

OURHOME IS GR8

[daddies_velvet_kitty]

Perhaps she's interested in you giving her a bedtime/morning routine/weekly schedule. For the bedtime/morning routine some examples are, clean up my toys, brush my teeth, take a shower, remove my makeup/brush hair, etc before bedtime or in the morning so she feels accomplished every night and every morning. And with a schedule it basically is for things you can't/don't do regularly. Such as Friday's are laundry days, Monday Wednesday Friday wash hair days, Tuesday Thursday is clean room day etc. These are mainly geared for long distance because in long distance your little has to do everything by herself and a routine or schedule she can follow can make even big things feel little. Hope this helped! 

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there !

 

It's great that your little communicates with you , and you listen and are willing to ask for advice if you are unsure or looking for ideas !   

 

My Daddy believes chores and a schedule should be intertwined. Chores , structure and rules should always fit both of yours' available time , and compromising to come to the "perfect agreement" for you both.

 

As far as a routine goes , I wake up with my Daddy. He is usually up at 5 am to get ready for work. I will wake up with him and brush my hair and teeth. My health is important to my Daddy so on my chore chart under the daily chores section is working out. These are things that you can easily tie into a schedule ; such as working out in the morning. Having set meals during the day. Having a bedtime is very important to a lot of littles who have a CG. I personally perfer when I have time off from work because it makes it easier to have more fluid and open time to complete chores and still do fun little activities like color pictures for my Daddy. Another daily chore example could be scooping the litter box , or taking your dog on a walk if you have pets. As well as daily hygiene , bathing and ect.

 

Optional chores throughout the week that my Daddy has on our chore chart are as follows :

 

-Make the bed

-Doing the dishes

-Cleaning the kitchen

-Dust the house

-Clean the bathroom

-Take out the garbage

-Do laundry

-Put said laundry away

-Use surface cleaner and wipe down coffee table ; and side tables

-Take vitamins

-Eat ; three healthy meals

-Change the cats water

-Make sure the cats have food

-Scoop litter 

 

Other various things are on this list as well.

 

Chores , and structure should come with positive reinforcement ! 

 

Daddy's way of doing things is giving me one star per chore completed each day. There are *special* chores written down separately worth more than one star. (Cleaning the window = 4 stars for example.)  I have a good girl box that is filled with all sorts of things for me to choose from.You can find many , many things for a good girl or good boy box at dollar stores ! Some of those things are as follows : 

 

-Bubble gun !

-Coloring books !

-Special sweets like unicorn horn suckers ! Lollipops !

-Flarp ! (Goop in a container that makes fart noises , My favorite ... Daddy's enemy hehe)

-Hair ties , like glitter ones !

-Hair bows !

-Cool activities like making play dough !

 

Something my Daddy also does , is correlates  my stars to money. Each one of my stars is equal to .50 cents. So if my Daddy and I are out and about and something really catches my eye I can use my stars.... ONLY if Daddy has decided I have been on good behavior enough to buy the item I want with my stars.

 

We also like to do bigger fun activities. So , if I save up a lot of stars I may use them to ask for a "Star Date." Star dates can be anything including these great activities :

 

-Going to the beach for a day and getting ice cream

-Going to the zoo 

-We have a car museum where we live so I like to visit there

-Going to the science center

-Hiking up in the mountains and having a picnic

-Driving to a new location and trying a new restaurant we have never tried

 

 

My chores and rewards have been shortened so people as well as yourself don't become winded by my life XD But this reply for yourself and other littles to read is just an example... my example of how my life is lived with my Daddy concerning routines and schedules.

 

Hope this helps !   

Edited December 25, 2016 by Daddysmonkey