Handling Anxiety in LS

[Little_Rose_]

I have really bad anxiety and terrible fears of becoming annoying to someone I care about and being abandoned. I know my Daddy would never abandon me but that doesn't stop my anxiety from making me second guess our relationship. So earlier today I had had an attack while I was in little space. My Daddy is the only one who can talk me down when I have an attack in ls but he was at work. It didn't last long so when he texted me after he got home (we live in different towns) he seemed really tired and told me he wanted to relax. I was going to tell him about my attack but I was too scared to annoy him and I wound myself into another attack. I texted him but he hasn't seen it yet, he's spending time online with his friends right now. I don't want to force Daddy away from his friends but my attack isn't going away. Situations happen like this more often then i want them to. It doesn't always involve an attack but, I always think I'm a bother to Daddy no matter how much he tells me otherwise. Because of things from my past whenever I get down i can't get out of that mindset. When Daddy isn't busy he can always make me feel better... but Daddy isn't always around.. 

I guess this turned into more of a rant.. but if anyone has any similar experiences or maybe some suggestions on how to deal with ls attacks by myself  or ways i i could try to bring up my fear with Daddy.. anything would be appreciated..
 

       

[lilsnoopy]

Maybe try to view it a different way. You aren't the bad guy and you've done nothing wrong. You have anxiety attacks and that is out of your control. (*though I do recommend seeking professional help if you haven't already). But a daddy is there to take care of his little. Your daddy knows that and he has accepted that position. He is supposed to be taking care of you when you have attacks and it might even make him feel nice to be needed. If having him more available would help then make have it set up that if he is off work and you have an attack you can call him and if it is an emergency like an attack he will answer. You shouldn't have to force him away from anything if you really need him, he should want to be there to help and support you. Also communicate more.... You have needs and that is ok! But keeping your anxious from him won't help the situation, it makes you feel worse and it keeps him from helping you so he might feel bad. A dd/lg relationship or any relationship really should have both/all parties being open with each other so letting him know there is a problem is a very very important step in fixing/preventing the problem. Don't beat around the bush. Call on the phone and be point blank because it does concern your health (for real it does. mentally and emotionally.) and your relationship. 

 

A little (hehe^.^) recommendation also would be having a way to help yourself. Maybe play around with ways to keep yourself calm when you start to panic. Maybe crafting, having a pampering session with bath times (rainbow bath bombs!!!) and face masks, yoga, cartoons, bubbles or coloring or chalk, like anything that helps calm you down and/or distract you and keep you busy. That helps me a lot when I get stressed or worried. Maybe also having a safety blanket or stuffed animal to always have if you began to panic so you have a soft thing to comfort you. It would probably be nice if it was a gift from your daddy so it was a reminder that he is there for you, when you need it. 

Edited December 20, 2016 by lilsnoopy