Daddy is too okay with everything no punishments

[AsysNexy]

My daddy is my fiancé he also has another little. He is so lenient with everything he only spanks me for fun. I've explained I wanted more punishments but I'm at a loss of what I can even do to make him want to.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

It sounds like your daddy may be a tad bit passive which isn't always a bad thing! As always, communicate! Tell him what you have us told us - maybe set up rituals and protocol to reinforce his role. Some DDs are worried about being too strict and coming off as abusive so maybe that's where he is struggling? How is he with his other little?

[AsysNexy]

He is more possessive with his other little so she has more rules and punishments. As he explained, so I told him I will act out to get more punishments.. But he and I are unsure of what I could even do to make him want to punish me

[AsysNexy]

He isn't very passive either.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I agree with the above.

 

Perhaps instead of acting out in order to get punishments, you should simply sit him down and say that you want more of them. 

 

If he's asking you to act out to get more punishments, that's your dynamic. That's cool. As long as that's what you want too. 

 

But you don't have to misbehave to be punished, at least not in the way you're asking for. Simply ask him to be harder on you. Give him concrete examples of what you want. Sit down and brainstorm together. It's your relationship, craft it into what you want it to be. 

[AsysNexy]

I tried explaining again this morning about how I felt. He is starting to understand :3 I like being good but I crave rules and consequences. Now we just need to sit down and come up with some. Both replies were helpful to better explain to him. Thank you!

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

He is more possessive with his other little so she has more rules and punishments. As he explained, so I told him I will act out to get more punishments.. But he and I are unsure of what I could even do to make him want to punish me

Speaking from someone who has done this... please don't act out to get him to punish you, just continue talking. Daddies are people too and they have feelings and emotions too, and acting out for this purpose toys with their emotions. My Daddy felt like he wasn't good enough or a very good Daddy when I did these things, and what little punishment there was ended up stopping all together, cuz he didn't see an improvement in behavior, in fact it got worse.

[Guest Appacheian]

Discuss with him that you look to him to guide and mentor you and this involves praise when you are good and consequences when you are not. You need boundaries and consistency because they make you feel loved and cherished. Whats a punishment to one little is not to another. Define punishments. Discuss forgiveness and aftercare.