Broken Hearted

[Kaybgirl]

What do you do when you get to know a daddy or a mommy. You give them all the trust you have and they take advantage of it by lying to you. I spent 2 months getting to know my possible caregiver and became greatly attached. We talked from good morning to goodnight every single day and he was helping my to improve myself. He encouraged me and made me feel like a special little girl. But.... then the sadness came... Someone called me from his phone. It was his girlfriend.. He had lied to us both... My heart hurts.. How do I move on? How do I trust that there is a daddy out there for me who wouldn't lie to me?

[Guest littlevulcangirl]

omgosh I feel so terrible for you. you deserve so much better. *hugs* if wanted

[Princess-P]

Unfortunately all you can do is say "oh well lesson learned". This won't stop it from happening again because its easy to manipulate and lie.

 

Think back and see if there were any red flags. Times it took longer to respond or he would only text you not call... And learn to spot them. This isn't your fault. People can just be pieces of shit sometimes.

 

Keep your guard up and try not to get attached until you have all the proof you need that the same thing isn't happening. And even then, because I'm assuming this was long distance, he could still be lying just better at it.

 

Honestly trust is very hard, especially on the internet. You will find someone who's honest. Maybe a lot of someone's. But there will be just as many assholes. Luck of the draw really.

[LittleBears KDB]

Hey sorry to hear what happened its like a kick into the head when that happens. I found out 2 weeks ago that the little I was with for two and a half years and lived with me for almost a year was cheating on me from when she when back home at the start of the year. It's a horrible feeling but you just have to be careful of who you trust I thought I knew her but just like Princrss-P said there was red flags that came up and she talked her way around them. I hope you get over it and it doesn't stop you because I know how it feels take care

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

Trust is something you won't immediately have with someone.  From the sounds of it, it sounded like you got on well, but got unlucky.  Just try not to get to pour your heart and soul into anyone too quickly - take time for that trust to build.  You'll trust again, don't worry.

[Simon.dd4lg]

That's truly awful to treat ppl with such little respect but it's the way of the world. There are good and bad ppl in every colour, religion and sexual dynamic. You just have to get to know someone and learn to trust again

[Guest Waiting4us]

Life is hard at times. Things people change but trust life knows we are strong and brave. You need to look at the positive things of what happened. Smile at those beautiful moments you had. With that know you deserve the best so life wants you to get the best. It is hard to move and let go but we have to. It hurts but once we embrace the pain we will see that we are beautiful strong again. Heal at your speed, as you want but heal first. The best, the good is waiting for you somewhere. So, first become love again by trusting self.

[Guest buddhagirl]

Most relationships end. And way more relationships fail than succeed. Yes, it is important to have healthy boundaries and look out for yourself, but you can do that and it can still not work out in the end. People get divorced after 10 - 30 years of marriage. Someone cheats after many years. People change. Things happen. So, take care of yourself and continue to love and improve yourself and you will be okay, no matter what life throws at you. All relationships fail until the one that doesn't. 

 

Oh, and let me add that I know this can be really counter to our little nature. It is very easy for me to want Daddy to take care of everything and look to him for reassurance of being good and loveable. I continue to find the balance between have grown up skills and self-care habits, and submitting and leaning on Daddy. At the end of the day, we must be able to "adult", because we are adults (even if we don't feel like it inside).

Edited December 26, 2016 by buddhagirl

[DaddysMonkey]

Hey there Kay ! 

 

I've seen you in chat very often and you are always such a sweet heart ! I'm terribly sorry that you had this happen to you !

 

Understanding your pain all too well right now , I can tell you that the hurt won't go away immediately. I've been cheated in in relationships that were longer than two years.. So something positive that you can take from this experience is that it was a short time you gave to this person.. and not years ! Another positive thing you need to tell yourself , is that this wasn;t your fault in any way and you did nothing to deserve this. Sometimes people both men and women make mistakes , whether they have remorse for it or not. What you can do is take it as an opportunity to be more cautious in the future. Maybe spend more time than two months next time you are getting to know someone. When you are getting to know someone online , you should ask for things like what social media accounts they have.. While i do understand people have texting apps to communicate with others from around the world it is personally a red flag when a person has tons of accounts. Facebook , Instagram , Whatsapp , Koakoa , Whisper , Snapchat , Kik , all things that can cause problems in relationships. You can easily look at someones profile and dig around to see about their life , and people they surround themselves with. (Granted you receive a real account from them)  Basically , dig around a lot. Have no shame , if someone hassomething to hide it should be pretty obvious.

 

 

As for moving on , and learning to trust another Daddy to not do these kinds of things... That's a whole other ballpark. Being someone who has experienced being cheated on I can tell you it holds onto you like a leech. I'm sure many other women , not just littles , can attest that being cheated on really scars you and makes it hard to trust people in the future. I have been with my Daddy for four years and I still have fleeting moments of doubt , but in those moments I have to remember .. He is not the one who hurt me in the past , he hasn't cheated on me and he loves me to death. Something you want to avoid is sabotaging future relationships out of fear , or doing things that aren't warranted such as going through someones phone or trying to sneak into emails. The only thing you can try to do in my humble opinion is to take things really slow next time , check like a mofo on your potential CG , and remember.... you don't want to bring old dead skeletons into a new relationship , or it will fail.

 

Know what you deserve and DEMAND IT.

 

YOU ARE LITTLE , AND YOU ARE FIERCE !

 

Hope this helps ! 

[DaddyCue109]

It happens both ways.

 

I joined this forum when my little and I stopped dating.

 

I've made some friends here and enjoy reading the forums and hope I will be a better Daddy in the future.  But according to my ex I was the "best Daddy ever".

 

We are still super close friends.  But were far apart in age and she started dating a guy her age and I told her she should pursue it.  I adore her.  But would never dream of holding her back.

 

I recently met a new lady who was thrilled to be in a DD/lg relationship.  For a few days...

 

Then she just bailed.  No excuse other than "I'm a broken mess and you don't want me"

 

So all I can say is try and learn.  Let trust be earned.  Proceed with equal measures of optimism and caution.

 

(that last sentence was as much for me as you)