Newish Daddy & little Need Advice

[Guest softheartbruisedknees]

So my Daddy and I have been participating in DDlg for a little over a month and need some advice from more experienced kinksters out there!

 

We are feeling this dynamic out and trying to find a comfortable set point; we're really enjoying it so far. We're not 24/7, but we both want to have this dynamic outside of sexual situations. My Daddy has expressed the concern that he will get burned out if the dynamic becomes too one-sided and I completely understand. We added too many rules too fast and I think it was overwhelming to him because we are both new to this. We've since got it down to 5 basic rules and will add or subtract to better suit us as time goes on. 

 

My Daddy says that while he likes feeling needed, it's not his end-all-be-all, and he will need more give and take. He said that the last thing he wants to do is make me feel like I'm too needy or too much; he's just a different type of Daddy than ones that get everything they need out of being needed & depended on. 

 

I asked him if what he was really wanting was a Mommy or for me to fill a Big role to take care of him sometimes, but he said that wasn't what he was looking for. (I'm going to keep this idea on the table in case he changes his mind.) I also double checked with him to make sure he was still on board with our dynamic and liked being a Daddy (which he is & does ), so I think we're doing a good job of maintaining honest communication. 

 

My questions is: What are some things I could do to help my Daddy get more out of this dynamic as we go forward? He loves the sexual stuff (we both do haha). So sexual ideas are okay, but I'd also like some nonsexual ideas as well. We just need some ideas from people more experienced on how to move forward . I really want to keep my Daddy happy!

Edited December 19, 2016 by softheartbruisedknees

[Guest Daddy F]

Well, I'll be honest in that I've never had an RT little though I did have a submissive for twelve years.

 

As a Daddy though things I like are when my little calls me Daddy in public. I like making people ask questions or look askance at me and that certainly works.

 

You could try, if he really likes the caregiving aspect, letting him brush your hair for you at night. Maybe bathing you depending on your little age.....

 

Though to be honest for me that usually leads to naughty Daddy moments*lol*

 

Maybe the both of you could hit up a Build A Bear type place and the both of you build a new stuffie for you even.

 

These are at least a few things I like, hope they help you

[Princess-P]

From my experience (almost 9 years with same Daddy) being in a CG/l dynamic is not one sided. We take care of eachother.

 

Sure Daddy loves to indulge my little side. He makes sure my stuffie is always in the bed with us, plays with my hair, will watch me colour or play kids games with me. But I also take care of him. I keep the house immaculate, do all the cooking, bake for him, give him massages, sing foolish songs to entertain him, get his clothes ready and packed for work, basically do everything to make his life easier. On top of all the things we do for each other we still both work full time and raise our daughter.

 

Being in a CG/l relationship is all give and take just like any relationship. Really its not that different from a vanilla relationship other then indulging in some more carefree and child like activities.

 

If your Daddy finds rules to be daunting, remember that you don't have to have any rules. I don't and it doesn't change our dynamic. If it's something you desire then practice makes perfect and you adapt and change as you need to.

[BabyHarley]

I understand where you guys are coming from, it does seem very one sided. The way I look at it is that Caregivers also need things in their life, their entire life does not involve taking care of the one they are caring for. Maybe there could be a "Treat Daddy" day or something of that nature where your partner gets all the attention, you could still be in little space and everything! I hope this helps!