making kids grow up too fast

[LittleMistressJessiya]

i feel we are making kids grow up too fast. i am on the look out for a new purse... and with me, i like things to... resemble something childish and immature, normally like... disney princesses, hello kitty or my little pony. something of that sort. or in general just super girly and cute. 

 

but ive noticed even when i search crossbody bags (normally what i wear) even when i click age range from 4-8 (or what ever usually its a small gap like that), things are looking more like what my mama would carry.

and its sad that our society is moving in that direction.

i've noticed that we are trying to make kids, girls mainly, grow up too fast. and if society continues to place that on a girls head, mommies and daddies are really going to really eat it up, and girls will never be able to be little girls.

 

sad part is... it's not even just accessories

 

[littlecub]

Hi!

 

I totally agree! I see 10 year old girls texting on Iphones, wearing makeup and carrying designer handbags. I didn't own a phone when I was their age, or wear makeup or had handbags. It makes me sad to think that the children won't have the same type of childhood, I just hope they are happy with it. I do agree with society making it very difficult for children to be children. 

[splendabae]

hey hey hey i have a lot of opinions about this but i'm going to TRY keep it simple. it's very important to understand that this isn't a new trend! humans are funny, so we tend to go around in circles. like in the 1600's girls were getting married at just 14. my own grandmother got married at age 16 (and then had 20 kids, super fun for a young adult i'm sure). people right now are getting married in their 20s, which is WILD to me because i'm in my 20s and i dont even know wtf being an adult even is. so it's honestly mostly about how each generations perceives the other. like how people 30+ think that everyone younger than them is obsessed with their phones, but switch it around and the younger gen thinks everyone 30+ is slow because they've had to teach their parents how to send a text at one point. but whoa, let me tell you how amazing this current gen is, they dont get enough credit! (i'm sorry if i ramble a bit here, i've written a thesis paper about this in my head lol)

 

ok let's think about everything that's happened since about late 80's early 90's. tech like computers and phones became much more accessible, meaning a much bigger audience to make money off. corporations love that. so it only makes sense to try to quickly make this tech as user friendly and advance as possible. quick time skip to about 1991 when, ta daaaa, the internet! (bae) so everyone born since then has been basically bottle feed by anything hooked up to the internet. all the info you need in a box! people that would take days to contact now just minutes within getting a message. this brought instant gratification to a whole new level. and while the parents of 90's kids were trying to learn all this new tech, the kids were playing with it since day 1. move over tv, there's a new nanny in town. now another time skip to when we were introduced to smartphones, it was actually the early 90's but they weren't what we know as smartphones until about the early 2000's. (the first iphone came out in 2007 for reference) and look hey, something that kids are familiar with! it's like a computer but smaller, way cooler than beepers and flip phones. and ever since 2007 there's been so much more advances in technology. WE HAVE CARS THAT DRIVE THEMSELVES GUYS. that's crazy.

WE GOTTA RECAP SO I CAN MAKE MY POINT: so, from about 1980 - 2016, there has been unprecedented advance in tech. it's affected EVERYTHING. culture, society, and people. those that were born/raised in that time had to adapt to so many changes. (this is really cool because i use this example about how you can give someone who's about 16 or so a brand new phone and they'll be able to master it in less than 3 hours only using past experiences with tech, while someone in their 60's will have a much harder time because their experience with it is completely different and limited). all this rapid change and all this info constantly being thrown at you as a child totally affects you at all levels! and as tech and science continues to expand and advance, society and its people are going to have to adapt to keep up. i grew up with beepers and vhs and floppy discs. anyone 5 years younger than me probably doesnt even know what those things are. so, basically it's not that we're making kids grow up too fast, it's just they're literally completely different than us when we were children. they're growing up in a whole new world with no dial-up, no flip phones, no dead zones. they're plugged in almost 24/7, cause the world revolves around tech. (how cool would it be if schools taught children how to program) kids these days are growing up in a world of instant gratification. but you cant blame them for that! in fact, you shouldn't blame anyone for it. it's natural for humans to want to advance themselves to that point. if dogs had our brains i'm sure they'll have robots to bring them treats while they're sniffing the fire hydrant.

 

TL;DR: every gen is different due to many different factors, and every gen always has a problem with the ones before and after because they perceive them as something negative or different. don't worry too much about it, change is natural and kids will always be kids as long as the adults let them.

Edited December 19, 2016 by lil'bby

[Guest sweetheart-little]

My 10 year old cousin got a iPhone 7 for christmas and I just now finally own an iPhone 7... like whaaaat?? She's all about texting and music.ally. I hardly text and I hate the music.ally app (or however you spell it) It seems that (and don't take this in the wrong way) but more adults would rather be/act like younger kids than kids themself. It's weird that my cousin is going crazy to nae nae-ing and whipping and getting a job when she's only 10... and me.. I don't want a job despite wanting money for all the cute things, I rather stay at home and cuddle my stuffed unicorn and watch cartoons. I hate seeing how fast she wants to grow up because if I was still her, I'd be enjoying my life as much as I can.

[Kara]

In someways yes kids are growing up to fast, but in the ways that it is the most important we are not showing them how to grow up.  More and more kids can't do things for themselves, they have depended upon other things or people to do it for them and when they have to do it themselves they are totally lost.  So in a sense they are growing up to fast in the wrong ways.  

 

I speak from the point of view of someone who did grow up to fast in all ways.  Enjoy what you can when you can but learn what you can as well.

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

Fashion wise...yeah sometimes, though I am not so sure its society as much as it is peer pressure that's causing them to grow too past in some ways. I have a 15 year old daughter and an 11 year old daughter. I never forced them into anything, I said no to some requests and of course got called the worst mother in the world for it....suppose that comes as part of the job...

 

I agree with Kara though...I some ways they can be taught so much more in the ways of responsibilities and sex education too. These to me are sadly lacking in the youth of today....but they can be on the pill from a very young age without properly even knowing how their reproductive cycle works and without making their own bed....blows my mind!

[Glitteryl]

Yeah it's sad that some people and imagine which society makes will make some kids grow up fast. My sister has a little girl who is only 1 year and 2 months old. I hope she will not have to grow up fast and can be child as long as she likes. 

 

But truth is sad and humans will want always to make better things and every electronic device has to be new kind with something different than the last one. It's saddens me.