Really upset...being abadonded by a daddy

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

Im really upset, so i met this daddy on here and ive been talking to him for a little while and everything seemed to be going good, i enjoyed talking to him, i enjoyed him helping me pick out stuffs and getting to know him as he mnows me and like every night id talk to him till i fell asleep.. but then he just dissapered...like not one word, i woke up like normal and messeged him and no response at all, the entire day. Not even a hi... i feel like i did aomething wrong even tho i know i didnt its like i was a good girl and i listened...even listened to him bout my candy n everything and he just left me to take care of myself...im really upset about it and i know alot of people are gonna say oh he dosent deserve you or oh ure better off. Like i know that but still...

[Guest Youandme]

Don't let his deed disturb your inner peace. Be yourself. Meet new people here and I know it is a wonderful place so I am sure you will make good friends.

And thank Source that your relationship is over without getting more deeper and intense. Already shows if he had been a good true real DD he would never do such a deed. A real DD never ignores, abandons his Little.

Be strong and think how you were okay before you met him..

Do things you love to keep yourself away from the pain thoughts.

[LoralieHaze]

Maybe reading this post about ghosting will help? I'm sorry this happened to you. I've been in a similar situation and it was really awful.

[Daddylovesme]

That really sucks, and is really mean of him to do that. But on an optimist side, maybe something happened and he cant respond to you? Liek maybe he got stuck somewhere without wifi or something like that? 

[splendabae]

i'm so sorry you were hurt. it's really upsetting when people do that. but if it's only for a day or so, maybe an emergency came up. even then i think a simple heads up is important. but if you need someone to talk to, i'm here <3 it's ok to be upset

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

Thank you all for your kind words. Im feeling a little better today, still a little upset but, better...

and as for him not being able to talk i dont know, i see that he was on this site and stuff but he couldnt even message me...so thats what made me more upset.

Ill be fine in the end, its just i let him know my fears and told him that i was scared he was gonna leave and he said "im not going anywhere" so its like ok...

anyways, thank you all <3

[Guest SoloFairy]

((((HUGS))))

[Brattyprincess]

Well, Here is what I would do. I would start exploring and making other friends, whether it be men or women. Find someone

that's currently going through the same thing, and kind of work together. It would be fun and you could keep each other

going. Idk... its just an idea. **HUGS** You're going to be ok I promise. Good luck.

[Antoinette]

Has it only been one day? I'm confused. Perhaps he is busy... Or doesn't have time to reply properly. Or maybe he isn't ready for a relationship and doesn't know how to tell you. There's a plethora of things that could be happening. I'd suggest to just wait it out, focus on doing things that make you happy for a while.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

It's classy that he has time to check the forums but doesn't have time to respond. Some people are just cowardly.

[MoDaddy]

That is mean of him! I'm sure you can find someone to treat you better... Just be yourself and I bet you find someone soon enough!

[Spoiledprincess13]

I'm sorry he probably feels like your too good for him so he stopped talking to you maybe? Get in your pjs and watch Christmas movies, bake cookies, and color. And you can eat all the cookie dough you want because cookie dough is yummy.

[Spoiledprincess13]

He's probably a butt face too. So it's okay.

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

Thank you all for ure kind words :3, he never did come back but im allright, im still not happy about it but im better. Ill find a good daddy or mommy one day. Im not worried about it really, when it happens it happens. Thank you all though.

[Iluvgrouphugz]

Awe I'm so sorry to hear that. Your so sweet and adorable that any daddy would be very lucky to have such a special little. You should get in your pjs and color abd watch cartoons and forget about him till a better more deserving daddy comes along

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

Thank you for ure kindness (: i do feel better as its been bout 4 days since he lefted. Ill be fine and happy And i did cuddle wof my stuffies n stuffs. I has my fwiends n everyone so ill be otays.

 

Its sad that it happens alot, its not a kink for me but more a way to live i guess u could say, more something that i enjoy m that helps me. Im always the one in charge n always doing things that i like people taking care of me n stuffs as ive never had that

[Pastel Boi]

Oh dear, that's terrible! How very rude of him.

*little hugs*

[Daddybears PLB]

The exact same thing happened to me about 3 weeks ago after a couple of months of daily talk on skype n time reading me stories etc we had even planned a time to meet... he has since deleted his profile here.

 

What i suppose I'm trying to say is it happens to not only you which obviously doesnt make it easier but it does maybe help you make peace with it.... there is not much to do accept rise above it and move forward... but i would also say try not let it affect future interaction like i have which makes it harder on you and others to chat and get to know.... but only time helps that.

 

Best of luck with the future... the right daddy for you is somewhere n will happen at the right time... just see it as a lucky escape from someone who doesn't know how to respect others and their feelings.

 

Happy Christmas

 

Clairebear ♡

Edited December 24, 2016 by Carebearsub

[Beasourous]

*huggies* and i am sowwie that you have met a meanie daddy.. Surround yourself wif wittle fwens and stuffies and you will meet an awesome daddy who really wants to take care of you and love you as much as you do for him.. 

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

Thank you all again ^.^ - hugs for everyone!! - i am fine and happy being by myself ^.^ one day ill find an awsome daddy but im in no rush for that at all . I has my wittle fwiends and my stuffies so im quite content <3

[uk shy guy]

I thought I might drop a line from the other side of ghosting, I have ghosted people in the past! While it is not a nice thing to be on the receiving end of, sometimes it is necessary. I had been talking everyday with a little, on Skype on forums, reading stories at bedtime, watching TV together (same programme, different locations) this had been going on for a couple of months. One day I told said little I would disappear for a while as I would have no internet, two weeks later I had internet services again. The first thing I did was tell the little in question and say hi, the only response I got was how much it had affected THEM, how much THEY had not slept, what a BIG thing it was for them, not once during their conversation did they say hi or ask how I was. I was excited to be back on the internet and continue building a relationship of trust with this little, yet all they cared about was how the absence affected them, which upset me a little as I thought we were equals exploring a new relationship. In the end I decided rather than overthink the situation and taint my opinion of the little I deleted my account and blocked them on Skype. I do not know this person IRL so the pain would be minimal. If I had told the little it would have prolonged the pain through messaging back and forth as to the why's and such. You all know its better to rip the plaster (band aid) off than go bit by bit. We had good times and I wanted more but I want to be loved too and I felt I would not get that in this instance

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

I thought I might drop a line from the other side of ghosting, I have ghosted people in the past! While it is not a nice thing to be on the receiving end of, sometimes it is necessary. I had been talking everyday with a little, on Skype on forums, reading stories at bedtime, watching TV together (same programme, different locations) this had been going on for a couple of months. One day I told said little I would disappear for a while as I would have no internet, two weeks later I had internet services again. The first thing I did was tell the little in question and say hi, the only response I got was how much it had affected THEM, how much THEY had not slept, what a BIG thing it was for them, not once during their conversation did they say hi or ask how I was. I was excited to be back on the internet and continue building a relationship of trust with this little, yet all they cared about was how the absence affected them, which upset me a little as I thought we were equals exploring a new relationship. In the end I decided rather than overthink the situation and taint my opinion of the little I deleted my account and blocked them on Skype. I do not know this person IRL so the pain would be minimal. If I had told the little it would have prolonged the pain through messaging back and forth as to the why's and such. You all know its better to rip the plaster (band aid) off than go bit by bit. We had good times and I wanted more but I want to be loved too and I felt I would not get that in this instance

i uh.. don't ever think it's acceptable to do something like this to anyone, yes

that little sounded a little rude and maybe even immature but it would have 

been much easier to express your feelings over just up and leaving like that.

it just seems kinda shitty you left her regardless of her behavior. it doesn't 

make you seem any better than anyone else who decides to ghost someone,

it's not necessary to do something like that to someone. 'specially if they're

dealing with some type of mental illness that would - this would cause them

more harm than good. there would have been pain regardless of how you 

did it but at least if you had expressed what was up instead of either just 

ghosting you might have been able to fix an issue instead of just instantly

giving up the moment it wasn't the way YOU wanted it to be. you just sound

selfish and like you're unable to deal with problems. ghosting is cowardly. 

 

i'm not saying her actions are acceptable either but yours wasn't the answer.

yours was just downright mean. 

[auban]

I thought I might drop a line from the other side of ghosting, I have ghosted people in the past! While it is not a nice thing to be on the receiving end of, sometimes it is necessary. I had been talking everyday with a little, on Skype on forums, reading stories at bedtime, watching TV together (same programme, different locations) this had been going on for a couple of months. One day I told said little I would disappear for a while as I would have no internet, two weeks later I had internet services again. The first thing I did was tell the little in question and say hi, the only response I got was how much it had affected THEM, how much THEY had not slept, what a BIG thing it was for them, not once during their conversation did they say hi or ask how I was. I was excited to be back on the internet and continue building a relationship of trust with this little, yet all they cared about was how the absence affected them, which upset me a little as I thought we were equals exploring a new relationship. In the end I decided rather than overthink the situation and taint my opinion of the little I deleted my account and blocked them on Skype. I do not know this person IRL so the pain would be minimal. If I had told the little it would have prolonged the pain through messaging back and forth as to the why's and such. You all know its better to rip the plaster (band aid) off than go bit by bit. We had good times and I wanted more but I want to be loved too and I felt I would not get that in this instance

 

im not sure what you get out of being a daddy dom, but it must be something totally different from what i get out of it.  

 

the whole point is to care for someone and receive the admiration from them for caring for them.  the idea being that you do not hurt your little, you guide them and protect them because they are little and precious.  

 

ghosting = abandonment. 

 

if you don't realize that then you haven't been paying attention.  abandonment causes many littles to wonder what was wrong with them.  guess what happens when they don't have anyone around to point out to them that they didn't do anything wrong, or guide them on how they might act differently?  they are then stuck wondering what is wrong with them.  they poured out their whole being into someone and they weren't even worth a good bye. 

 

her feelings mattered to you SO little that you didn't care if it was going to hurt her.  you only cared about your feelings, your sense of indignation.  i might expect this from a little, many of them depend on their care givers to guide them and calm them as their emotions fly.  i would not expect that from someone who claims to be the emotional rock of the dynamic.  the one who claims the role of the calming force in the emotional storms.  

 

you and i obviously get very different things out of this dynamic...

Edited January 17, 2017 by auban

[uk shy guy]

In response to the negative responses to my post which you obviously did not read properly. I was not this littles caregiver or DD we were cultivating a relationship or so I thought. The truth is ghosting happens for very different reasons, I was giving an example from my experience. I can give you other examples if you like were I have been ghosted, you all have probably ghosted someone in the past. It is not a nice experience but it happens. Realising it is not your fault is the lesson to learn, you are still a nice, good person as you were before. Yes I probably could have spoke with the little, but, to what end? To tell them they are wrong? I have no right to try and change someone for my own emotional needs, but, I would like my feelings to be considered too.

 

The little in question after three weeks has already moved on and moved in with a DD ( maybe you have opinions about this too)!

[auban]

In response to the negative responses to my post which you obviously did not read properly. I was not this littles caregiver or DD we were cultivating a relationship or so I thought. The truth is ghosting happens for very different reasons, I was giving an example from my experience. I can give you other examples if you like were I have been ghosted, you all have probably ghosted someone in the past. It is not a nice experience but it happens. Realising it is not your fault is the lesson to learn, you are still a nice, good person as you were before. Yes I probably could have spoke with the little, but, to what end? To tell them they are wrong? I have no right to try and change someone for my own emotional needs, but, I would like my feelings to be considered too.

 

The little in question after three weeks has already moved on and moved in with a DD ( maybe you have opinions about this too)!

 

hmm...

 

I thought I might drop a line from the other side of ghosting, I have ghosted people in the past! While it is not a nice thing to be on the receiving end of, sometimes it is necessary. I had been talking everyday with a little, on Skype on forums, reading stories at bedtime, watching TV together (same programme, different locations) this had been going on for a couple of months. One day I told said little I would disappear for a while as I would have no internet, two weeks later I had internet services again. The first thing I did was tell the little in question and say hi, the only response I got was how much it had affected THEM, how much THEY had not slept, what a BIG thing it was for them, not once during their conversation did they say hi or ask how I was. I was excited to be back on the internet and continue building a relationship of trust with this little, yet all they cared about was how the absence affected them, which upset me a little as I thought we were equals exploring a new relationship. In the end I decided rather than overthink the situation and taint my opinion of the little I deleted my account and blocked them on Skype. I do not know this person IRL so the pain would be minimal. If I had told the little it would have prolonged the pain through messaging back and forth as to the why's and such. You all know its better to rip the plaster (band aid) off than go bit by bit. We had good times and I wanted more but I want to be loved too and I felt I would not get that in this instance

 

 

you sure made yourself sound like it.  

 

i can assure you that i have never ghosted anyone before.  especially not a little who was just expressing how much she missed me.

 

i would have been ecstatic at that response.

 

by the way, whether you are good or bad or not, as a person, has little to do with what you tell yourself.