Princess feeling ignored ...

[Princesamaii]

Whenever my daddy gets mad at me, he ignores me completely. I've told him before it upsets me but he says because we're in a long distance relationship it's the only way he knows how to punish me. Today my family was being very mean to me , I have anxiety so I shake when I'm scared and I cry when I feel like i am dissapointing someone so I cried and messaged him telling him I needed him , saying how upset I was and he got angry and called me weak for crying . He then said he doesn't know how to comfort me when he is only able to over a phone so I spoke to my mother and she has agreed to send me to see him this Christmas (9 days away) , I told him this and he is still ignoring me. It's now 11 pm and I'm so sleepy but he won't speak to me so I'm just laying here upset .. please give me advice ..

[Tasha-Pasha]

Hi Princesamaii,

 

How long have you been in this relationship for? 

[splendabae]

you're not weak for crying! emotions are perfectly normal, it's ok to get upset. it's NOT ok for your daddy to say that you're weak for having anxiety. i don't understand why he ignored you for crying, i dont think that's right. if he talks to you tomorrow please have a conversation about how it wasn't ok for him to do those things. he gave you the cold shoulder when you needed him, that's not what daddies do.

[lilsnoopy]

Really I would leave... being ignored should NEVER be a punishment.. that is more like abuse. It emotionally hurts you, not help improve your behavior in any way. It causes distrust and distance in your relationship. In general leaving is never ever a good punishment. Usually a caregiver role is patient and understanding not childishly runs off when their partner (who they are supposed to be caring for) is emotionally upset versus working with you. If you NEED a caregiver they NEED to be there for you. It is not optional! you are the person they have agreed to take care of. not ignore! 

 

Ok that is just how I took it.. it is your relationship and you should do what makes you happy but it really doesn't sound like he makes you very happy sometimes... I am so sorry you are going through this time alone an if you even need someone to talk to I am free to message. *lots of hugs*

[LoralieHaze]

Anyone who knows me on here knows that I haaate this. Abandonment is not a punishment, it is neglectful and potentially abusive. For me, this is an immediate deal breaker. I'm sorry if this is coming across as overboard, but the only thing I can say to do here is to please break up with this guy. 

[Guest Youandme]

Agreeing with LittleKittenLo, I myself see this as Red flag.... Abandonment is sick attitude of a damaged mind.. Just let go those types of people.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Anyone who knows me on here knows that I haaate this. Abandonment is not a punishment, it is neglectful and potentially abusive. For me, this is an immediate deal breaker. I'm sorry if this is coming across as overboard, but the only thing I can say to do here is to please break up with this guy.

I have to agree with Lo here...

First of all, abdonment IS NOT a punishment! Not acceptable. Period.

Secondly, you have anxiety. And speaking from a fellow little with anxiety please don't take this the wrong way... anxiety is a mental illness, not a choice. We don't choose to have panic attacks, and we certainly don't choose to worry about everything from why the sky is blue to what if WWIII ever happens in our lifetime, we just do. Your Daddy chose to ignore you when you were your most vulnerable. Not only is that not a Daddy thing to do, it's not good for any partner, period. He is being emotionally abusive.

 

Please be careful meeting this "Daddy". If he can treat you this way in LDR, what will he do if you have an anxiety attack while you're together? Many times, emotionally abusive people are very capable of being physically abusive very easily. Just be careful...

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

That doesn't sound like acceptable behaviour under any circumstance really.  I've never been in a DDLG relationship, but if this is bad in a vanilla relationship, then it's even worse in a DDLG one where being caring and nurturing plays such a big role.

 

I'm not sure how one could be acceptably punished in a long-distance relationship, but it seems odd that he's not replied about you going to see him.  I'd be overjoyed if it were me.  As the poster above said, be careful meeting him if you've not done so before.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

abandonment isn't punishment, it's abuse. period. i do not agree with anything that causes psychological damage like that. and the way he spoke to you when expressing your emotions? not okay, either. i see HUGE red flags in this relationship. 

[Guest]

a few months ago - i was talking to a guy... a "Daddy" - and i really liked him and it was total power exchange and i loved it, but when i was doing something he didnt like, he would threaten to stop talking to me... forever.

 

im a very vulnerable little... i make bad mistakes and i dont always see things clearly when they are happening... now that i am no longer in that situation, i realize i did not deserve to be treated that way (in the end, i was having a rough, anxiety filled day... and he was making me anxious on top of it with the way he was talking to me, so i told him... and he said that i cannot use my anxiety as an excuse... and i told him that that statement pissed me off, because anxiety is real and mine is debilatating at times) and he said "well i can fix that" - and we havent talked since)

 

so, please take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship. abandonment is NOT a punishment... that's not what real Daddys do.

best of luck to you. i know its hard. no matter what the decision.

[chloelayne]

Being  ignored is NOT okay.. EVER. There are plenty of other long distance punishments that can be given. He could make you stand in a corner, make you write sentences, restrict cartoons, ect. Ignoring can mentally damage someone. It could be considered neglect. You two should sit down and come up with a list of punishments. I hope everything goes well for you. If you ever need another little to talk to I'm always here!

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

Being  ignored is NOT okay.. EVER. There are plenty of other long distance punishments that can be given. He could make you stand in a corner, make you write sentences, restrict cartoons, ect. Ignoring can mentally damage someone. It could be considered neglect. You two should sit down and come up with a list of punishments. I hope everything goes well for you. If you ever need another little to talk to I'm always here!

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