How to control temper tantrums

[LittleOne]

I'm in little space most of the time and usually I have control of it, but sometimes small things make me have temper tantrums. I was wondering how to control this because as of now I just seclude myself when this happens. Sometimes that makes it worse and I end up being grumpy, which does not bode well. I was wondering how you handle it yourselves or how you handle it as a dom. 

 

XOXO,

Little One

[Guest]

Well for me ,I am a flat out brat. (my daddy enjoy it and it just is how I am) I get fussy and whiny and grumpy (mainly when it's around my shark week ) and my daddy can calm me down super duper fast. He is always super sweet and understanding and even when I am on full out tantrum mode he will sit there and be like hey it's gonna be alright , just tell me what's going on. That snaps me out of it and makes me calm (and feel sad a bit for being a brat ) and then I tell him and he will fix it and make it better. My irl adult time is super stressful and sometimes it washes over into my littleness. I am really thankful for him being so calm and chill and understanding how I tick, and not just flip shit on me how other people have treated me in the past . Edited December 18, 2016 by Arya

[HeCallsMePrincess]

control...tantrums?? ...are we supposed to be doing that??? hmm...sorry, no help there

[roseyposey]

Controlling tantrums? Following because I too would like to know this magical method.

[Bunniegural]

i've been having them a lot lately too. i just shut myself in my room and let it all out. i draw the line and breaking stuff or hurting people though. just have a good scream and a great big cry.

[Guest buddhagirl]

This can be a challenge for me, too. I try very hard, but I sometimes have temper fits when I get scared--usually my abandonment issues get triggered and I get scared that Daddy is going to leave or not love me or some crazy, stupid thing like that. Daddy has tried lots of different things and it's tricky because I do need boundaries and discipline when this happens because I feel out of control and scared but I am also super duper sensitive and some punishments can make it worse. Time outs are not an option for me when this happens because it intensifies the fears I'm having. What we've been doing lately--and so far it's working--is that I promised Daddy I would trust him to know when I am just scared and he can tell me, then I stop my temper fit and he will sit down on the couch or on the bed and I put my head in his lap for a while. He strokes my hair and talks calmly to me and I have to lay there, even though I may feel scared or mad or sad, etc. These few minutes of quiet help me reconnect with him physically, he can soothe me, the position is submissive, which makes me feel safer, and gives me time to calm myself in a safe space. 

[Guest SugarNSpiceSam]

I tend to get very angry and moody too. Sometimes I kinda blow up and say a lot of horrible things; things that I don't normally mean. This is why now I always try to be off by myself for a little bit so I can calm down and not be bothered by anyone. There's also times where I get kind of distant and don't talk or anything, I'm just completely silent. Anytime when I'm like this, I think it's best for me not to say anything. So I always try to keep myself busy until I calm down. Anytime I get angry or moody, I end up crying afterwards and feeling horrible. I'm a brat when I'm moody. 

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

I usually have temper tantrums when i dont get my way, mine arnt huge but it does end up with my crying and hiding places until i feel better.

Usually i just put on headphones, blast music and punch stuff if i need to (pillows n stuff) then when i feel better i come back out

[Magi]

I get emotional, I don't tend to get temper tantrums but problems of sadness. I use music and sometimes head to a place with people like Barnes and Nobles. I know that sounds odd but sometimes just watching people helps me. Just knowing others are around can help. I don't have a caregiver so I need a grounding force sometimes.

Edited December 22, 2016 by Magi

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Tantrums come in a few different varieties! Fun tantrums are great, they make daddy laugh and can lead to some awesome playtime ,(if ya catch my drift) but the hardcore snotty brat tantrums are just unnecessary. When you become a damn tyrant and get mean/abusive... its no longer a tantrum..it's a problem. Being moody is the grey area... I would suggest a constructive hobby to focus the energy into. Most of the mood swings kinda need to run their course and its a matter of siphoning that icky energy into something positive! I don't know if there's a way to completely prevent them, people react emotionally - it's in our nature but what we can prevent is allowing it to go too far.