More of a sadist than a daddy...

[Harley_Quinn]

So I'm not sure where to post this but I thoight anyone would have advice. Daddy is a great daddy, he has a daddy space and everything. But sometimes I think his sadism side takes over a little too much. It used to only be during play time because that's when I become more submissive and more of a masochist than when I'm in little space. How can I get daddy back to being in daddy space when not having play time?

[LoralieHaze]

What do you mean by "takes over too much"? Is he abusing you? Please PM me if you're not comfortable discussing it publicly.

[IchigoHime]

If the case is he is not abusing you, then maybe you should discuss possible 'set times' for being sadistic. Maybe he is having a tough time at work or something and being more sadistic is a release thing. I think maybe finding out why he's being more sadistic than usual might be a good start.

 

However if you feel he is abusing you, please reach out to someone about it.

[Harley_Quinn]

He is not abusing me. We started as a sadist and a masochist so that's the basis of our relationship. But maybe he has been working more than before and it could be stressing him out. I guess I could understand not being in daddy space after work since I have a hard time getting into little space when I'm out of work.

 

Thank you for the concerns. If he were abusing me I would have been gone a long time ago. I'm sorry if my wording confused you and made you think he was abusing me (I know this sounds like super thought out but this is a very serious topic since I've been in an abusive relationship beford I don't want anyone to think he does that)

[Tasha-Pasha]

I would suggest sitting down with your daddy and going over the rules/expectations that you both have in 1. your relationship; 2. your ddlg time; and 3. your s/m time. If the s/m is spilling out into times when you do not want it or expect it then be sure to include time frames when it is or isn't allowed, or clearly defined scene beginning and endings for that particular type of play. 

 

Let us know how it goes!

[Harley_Quinn]

I agree with Tasha about the sit-down thingy. We do have rules for ddlg and one of them says he cant use his dominance left and right because he's very dominant. And basically it makes the S/M time happen when I don't want that time

 

He has one. Just getting him to go is an issue