Am I in the right place?

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

Hi everyone,

 

I'm completely new to this scene, but I've known about it for a few months now.  Made an account here today to test the waters and see if it's suitable for me.  Any advice would be appreciated.

 

My situation is, I like girls who are energetic, cute, and girly (in both dress style and behaviour).  My previous girlfriend had some of these traits, which is what attracted me to her, but it didn't work out - a strong part of this was a personality mismatch, as she had a short temper and got very confontational, and I haaaate confrontation.

 

A downside being non-confrontational is that I don't enjoy enforcing rules - I want my significant other to enjoy themselves and have fun, doing whatever they want.  Now most aspects of DD/LG appeal to me greatly, but in all the research I've done on it, rules & punishments seem to pop up at the forefront of almost all of it.

 

My question is, is it possible to have this type of relationship without the rules aspect?  I'm more of a guy who just wants a cute, fun-loving girly girl to look after, cuddle, watch movies and play video games with

 

Any advice and information would be greatly appreciated!  You all seem like a nice bunch of people

Edited December 16, 2016 by countlieberkuhn

[princesschibi]

There are no hard rules saying the a ddlg relasionship has to be one way or another. You can absolutely have this without having rules. From what I've seen(me and daddy included) lots of new caregivers and litters have no to a small amount of rules. At the moment the only rules I have is to be in bed on time and to complete assingments/chores given to me by the time daddy is off work. It's up to you and your little to decide if you'll have rules and what those will or won't be.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hi everyone,

 

I'm completely new to this scene, but I've known about it for a few months now. Made an account here today to test the waters and see if it's suitable for me. Any advice would be appreciated.

 

My situation is, I like girls who are energetic, cute, and girly (in both dress style and behaviour). My previous girlfriend had some of these traits, which is what attracted me to her, but it didn't work out - a strong part of this was a personality mismatch, as she had a short temper and got very confontational, and I haaaate confrontation.

 

A downside being non-confrontational is that I don't enjoy enforcing rules - I want my significant other to enjoy themselves and have fun, doing whatever they want. Now most aspects of DD/LG appeal to me greatly, but in all the research I've done on it, rules & punishments seem to pop up at the forefront of almost all of it.

 

My question is, is it possible to have this type of relationship without the rules aspect? I'm more of a guy who just wants a cute, fun-loving girly girl to look after, cuddle, watch movies and play video games with

 

Any advice and information would be greatly appreciated! You all seem like a nice bunch of people

The short answer is: absolutely YES.

 

Every DDlg relationship has one thing in common: it's a relationship. Now, all relationships be they kink or vanilla have one thing in common: they're all unique. Therefore, every single DDlg relationship is unique. Many littles don't enjoy rules, and many Daddy's I am certain don't enjoy enforcing them.

 

Look around here and you'll see we're all different just like any other people. If you desire a DDlg relationship without rules, look for a little girl whom is okay without them. It's really going to all be up to you and your future partner. Best of luck, and welcome aboard!

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

Thanks for the replies!  I figured that this would be the case, but I just wanted to be sure before I got too involved and ended up disappointing somebody

 

I guess I'll just have to be clear about my inclinations before getting involved with a little, especially if they're experienced.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Thanks for the replies! I figured that this would be the case, but I just wanted to be sure before I got too involved and ended up disappointing somebody

 

I guess I'll just have to be clear about my inclinations before getting involved with a little, especially if they're experienced.

The last part of this really caught my attention.

 

Please, experienced or not, be open and honest from the beginning with any littles you are interested in. We littles are people and as such have emotions and often times they're stronger. While not wanting to have rules truly is okay... for some littles it's how they feel loved, and if they enter into a relationship with you expecting rules will come and they never do, it could hurt them.

[Princess-P]

My relationship doesn't have rules. In fact I hate the idea of ever being told I can't do something or being punished. This has worked for us for many years.

 

I also want to say that you don't need to feel like one of you has to be in control while the other gets to do whatever they please. Or be the sole provider. My Daddy and I are very much equals. While some littles like to consider their caregiver as a higher up I do not. Both ways are correct. When it comes to any decisions my Daddy and I discuss everything and decide as a team.

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

That sounds nice!  Sounds like you've got something similar to what I'm looking for.

 

I like my partner to be a friend, first and foremost.  Someone who I would enjoy spending time with even if it wasn't intimate.  I love cuddles, but I feel awkward cuddling people I don't connect with as a person.  Glad to know it's worked for you, means there's hope for me too!

[IchigoHime]

From what you've written, you sound a lot like my Daddy. We have rules, and I do my best to follow them, but enforcement of these rules is lacking (not that I mind at this point in my life - should Daddy read this). You don't have to have rules to be a good Daddy. You do need to be nurturing and caring and for some, gentle. Your dislike of confrontation makes me think you have these qualities. And if you feel like you are a Daddy - then you are.

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

I'm willing to try enforcing rules & punishments, but something tells me I wouldn't be very good at it

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I'm willing to try enforcing rules & punishments, but something tells me I wouldn't be very good at it

You might find yourself surprised... Daddy didn't think he would be good at it, or enjoy it, but he does quiet well.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

all relationships are different. there is no one way to be in a ddlg relationship. but of course, while you dont have to have rules or punishments you may find that you enjoy it more than you think.

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

You might find yourself surprised... Daddy didn't think he would be good at it, or enjoy it, but he does quiet well.

 

 

all relationships are different. there is no one way to be in a ddlg relationship. but of course, while you dont have to have rules or punishments you may find that you enjoy it more than you think.

 

Maybe!  I've never been in a non-vanilla relationship (and I haven't even been in many of those) so I'm not sure how well I would do at something a bit kinkier.  It's something I've been interested in for a long time though, and

a willingness to try is a good start though right?

[HeCallsMePrincess]

that's a great start

[daddies_velvet_kitty]

You don't have to have rules and punishments but some littles do like it. The way that i see rules is my daddy making me a better person. To me my rules are helping me do better in school, be more healthy, and love myself more. My daddy was wary about rules but now he loves seeing me grow into a better and healthier person

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

You don't have to have rules and punishments but some littles do like it. The way that i see rules is my daddy making me a better person. To me my rules are helping me do better in school, be more healthy, and love myself more. My daddy was wary about rules but now he loves seeing me grow into a better and healthier person

 

That's good to know!  Maybe if I find a relationship with a little then it'll bring out a side of me I didn't know existed, if that's what it takes.  Always possible!

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

One thing I've come to realise since being here is that the rules tend to be about trying to push the little to be the best version of themselves they can be, rather than purely as a kink, which is nice.  That notion tickles my caregiver side a lot more nicely