Alright so I need some help

[Chilidogofdeath]

I've recently become interested in a woman that's very into this lifestyle or trying it out anyways. I havent known her for very long but I'd really like a chance to date her or even If not date her at the very least show her that someone cares enough to learn about things that are important to her. But I know absolutely nothing about this lifestyle and I'm very open to try new things but was wondering where some good places to find some starting information on this would be? Maybe like a starting guide or just a ddlg for dummies book or something lol. I've watched a few YouTube videos but I just thought I'd ask as its important to her so I'm making it important to me.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I would suggest checking out our resource section, for starters. Here are some direct links to help you out.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12727-a-starting-point-for-rules-rewards-punishments/

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/11032-types-of-littles/

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/51-general-advice-for-new-daddies/

 

Good luck!

[Chilidogofdeath]

Thank you I appreciate it. Honestly I've never really read into bdsm as a whole so im learning quite a bit as I go along

[Chilidogofdeath]

Alright so I read all of those. Is there by chance like some all encompasing beginning guide?

[Antoinette]

alright so i have a list of tumblr posts that may or may not be helpful to you

• ddlg for beginners (I REALLY RECOMMEND READING THIS ONE)
• if you're becoming a daddy!dom here are some tips for beginners (have your s/o read this one)
• what is a caregiver? (another one for your s/o)
• little starter kit (treat yo self)

those are the only links i'd demand mandatory reading. the rest are just things to enhance your relationship and ddlg experience (all of these are for your s/o). i've starred the ones i think he should read

• presents: ddlg 101 the masterlist
• 10 things every daddy should know**
• 5 ways to make your little feel little
• 10 phrases to make someone feel little
• 50 things every caregiver should do for their little**
• games to play with your little**
• 3 signs your little feels ignored
• how to cure grumpy little syndrome
• steps to get your little out of adulting
• littlespace food ideas
• nonverbal little communication
• some aftercare for your little
• what never to do to a little**
• attention to all caregivers**
• caregivers on a budget
• little things busy daddies can do to still give their little attention

these are links for you

• why it's ultra important to have little friends
• ways to show your daddy/caretaker appreciation
• websites for little stuff
• 10 activities for lonely littles (who can drive)

and these are overall links that kinda cover everything in between

• rewards for littles
• things to expect playing outside with littles
• when littles are sick
• 40 important ddlg facts
• getting into littlespace
• 15 ways to help your little come out and play
• stuffies $10 and under

ok that's a lot of links, but i've read through all of them and it's the reason i know so much about ddlg despite having not been in it very long to begin with. i hope this helps

 

This is a post by an old member on a topic I started. It helped my Daddy so much and I believe it'll help you. She gives lots of easily-digestible links with good information on them. Gosh I miss AnneMarie!

 

EDIT: A lot of the links aren't available anymore but a lot that are, are still super helpful. 

Edited December 15, 2016 by xAntoinette

[Chilidogofdeath]

I really appreciate all the help ive been given here, thanks you guys. You all seem to be a pretty warm community. Hopefully one day I'll be her daddy, but If not then I'll still have learned something new.

[Tasha-Pasha]

HI chilidogofdeath!

 

1. Your name is awesome!

 

2. Please keep us updated on how this goes for you and for her!  I am super intrigued now to know how this is working out for you.  I am also really interested in how you have processed all this information on this bdsm subset, seeing as how you said in an earlier post that you had never really looked into any of this stuff before.