How to find a little after losing one

[Nivekzero]

I recently broke up with my little and am now littleless. She introduced me into ddlg and I loved it. Now that she is gone im javing a hard time. Not being able to caregive is the worst. How can i find another little or handle not being someones daddy?

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I would take time for yourself for awhile, first. You need to recover from the loss of your previous little. You can't properly be a caregiver if you're hurting yourself, and it'll cause your future little pain as a result. Take time and heal, and once you've done that maybe check out the personals section, although this isn't really a dating site.

Always make sure to get to know someone well before making anything official.

[Nivekzero]

Of course,i know im not ready yet. I also know getting to know a little is very important. Its the healing part thats the hardest part for me.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I've only ever had my Daddy. Aside from that I've had one other relationship but it was completely vanilla. Daddy and I are learning this lifestyle together, but we're married and been together 4.5yrs. Healing is hard, it's painful, and downright sucks. That's with a normal relationship dynamic. I'm not saying that DDlg is more fulfilling than others (it is for me, but to each their own), however parts of it are a lot more... deep?. I'm certain that makes the pain more deep too.

 

I wish I could tell you how to heal, but sadly time is all that will be your friend there. Take this time to explore DDlg further, make some friends, find other, experienced Daddy's to talk to and get more information. Keeping your mind occupied will probably help.

[Nivekzero]

Thank you for all the advice!

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there !

 

I would agree with taking some time for yourself !

 

But , this forum here is great ! If you ever feel alone you can join the chat room or make a thread here like you did. I've noticed people are always willing to talk.

 

If you are wanting to be a caregiver , you could make a personals post as well and clarify you aren't exactly looking for a relationship but are really missing the CG lifestyle. You might be surprised there could be some littles who are okay with that ! (If you feel healed enough of course) Or also explain you need it to be part of your healing process ! 

 

Hope this helps !

[Nivekzero]

Those are really good ideas. Im also new to the community but everyone is so friendly and im so thankful for it.