Confused..

[Guest daddys.twisted.little.baby]

Maybe someone can help me figure out just what to consider myself... I'm not a little I guess, I don't particularly have a childish personality or stuffies of any of that stuff.. but I am less adult like so to say in the real world.. I'm shy and I can't seem to do things without direct order. Like I have to have direction and guidance and stuff.. I'm very submissive. I'm very emotional, and I need A LOT of attention.. I've always preferred older men.. if anyone could please leave some resources (I've already read the recourses forum for types of littles) or give me any kind of advice it would be much appreciated!

[Tasha-Pasha]

Hi Daddys.twisted.little.baby and welcome to the forum.

 

I don't think that anyone can tell you if you are a little or not, or what type of little you might be.  All we can do is point you in the direction of the broadly accepted definitions of what a babygirl, little, middle, nymphet, imp, brat, etc. are.  Only you can decide what you are and that definition can grow and change over time.

 

However you decide to define yourself, I do think it is important that you accept and love yourself as you are.  After all you are going to have a lifelong relationship with yourself!

 

I think that if you look in the forum topics you will see that this is a common theme among both littles and daddies.  I think that this in itself can be helpful because you will see that you are not alone in feeling confused on how to define yourself.  Whatever you are, be it plant, animal, or mineral, know that this is a very supportive community where you are safe to explore and discover more about yourself, your wants, needs and desires.

 

Best of luck and keep asking these kinds of questions! You will figure it out!

 

Tasha-Pasha

[I Love Pinkie Pie (Daddy)]

What you are talking about is a typical submissive behavior. All women love attention at different levels. Also the need of attention varies depending on where they are in life, mood, stress, who busy they are, ...etc. Also it doesn't mean that you are a little for being interested in older guys. It frustrates me a lot that I happen to meet some ladies that claim they are littles, but in fact, they are just interested in mature guys. So it is a great thing that you didn't mix those things up.

 

As a first step I would recommend that you take the BSDM test which will shed some light on your preferences. the site is www.bsdmtest.org then take it from there. Also understand that, for ladies those aspects change as they explore more about themselves.

[MoDaddy]

Just read around the forums. You will get an idea soon enough. Your mostly submissive it sounds like so most of what you want/need will stem from that. I'd say your a middle. Just read around and I'm sure you will get an idea soon enough!

 

Best of luck figuring it out and you know where to find me if you want to talk.

[Guest OverDaddy'sKnee]

Hi, I've chatted with a number of members who were facing the type of confusion which you are. I always inform them that one doesn't necessarily have to be defined as a little in order to have a Daddy/Caregiver. I recommend to just keep learning as much as you can on the forums and focus on finding someone who can meet your particular needs. I hope my input helps in one way or another.

[Antoinette]

Maybe a good place to start would be taking the BDSM test! Keep in mind though, the results can change with time as you learn more and grow within the community. 

 

Here's the link: 

 

bdsmtest.org 

[ktownDaddy]

Hello and welcome to the best site on the internet.

 

I would agree with what everyone has said above. Comming from experience, don't seek to quickly to give yourself a title and then try to pigeon hole yourself to that dynamic.

 

For so many years I tried to identify with terms like Master, Dom, Sadist ...etc etc. To find out that I never quite fit and just felt annoyed that I didn't know who I was.

 

I was lucky enough to meet a female Domme in my travels who asked me two, pretty simple question.

 

Do you enjoy what you are experiencing and does it bring you pleasure? Do you know others who complete what you do and find pleasure in what you have to offer?

 

If the answers are yes and yes - then just simply have fun and enjoy yourself. If you limit who you are, then you are limited to what you can enjoy.

 

This is what I did for many years and just simply accepted that I was different. In retrospect, I was actually pretty normal. I was just comparing myself to the wrong groups of people.

 

I dabbled in many roles and slowly found and identified with my kinks, my limits, my likes and dislikes. Eventually, I heard the term Daddy and explored what it meant. I would say now it's the role I identify with the most. Though, I do have other traits which I have picked up along the way that vary slightly from the role. I have come to accept that and simply believe that just makes me a more rounded Daddy.

 

I think you need to take the same advice and experience what this site has to offer. The people here are amazing and kind. There are no rules or parameters you have to follow. Simply be honest and share what you like and don't like. It's not about fitting a criteria it's about feeling safe and exploring who you are.

 

In time you will eventually find out more about yourself and the particular role you fall into and if you don't, create your own.

 

That's my two bits.

 

D.

Edited December 14, 2016 by ktownDaddy

[Dave1200]

I don't think you necessarily need to be in little space or even feel little to desire and be comforted by the attention that a daddy can provide....  

Edited December 15, 2016 by Dave1200